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To think that female prison officers who fall in love with inmates are idiots?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 19/05/2025 17:47

Following on from my romance scammers thread, I'd like to see the justifications for this
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdxqlneeng7o.amp

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MrsSunshine2b · 27/05/2025 10:52

Yes, they're idiots, but these responses are wild.

If a male officer sleeps with a female inmate, we recognise that as a huge breach of trust.

These men might be murderers or rapists but they are prisoners. The punishment for their crime is being stripped of their freedom, power and agency. The men- however awful they are as people- are vulnerable in this situation. The person in the position of power was the prison officer.

Almostwelsh · 29/05/2025 12:10

MrsSunshine2b · 27/05/2025 10:52

Yes, they're idiots, but these responses are wild.

If a male officer sleeps with a female inmate, we recognise that as a huge breach of trust.

These men might be murderers or rapists but they are prisoners. The punishment for their crime is being stripped of their freedom, power and agency. The men- however awful they are as people- are vulnerable in this situation. The person in the position of power was the prison officer.

I'm not so sure about that in male prisons. I have one local to me and it's said that the prisoners run the prison in all but name. People visiting have said that some of the officers appear visibly intimidated by some prisoners.

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 29/05/2025 13:17

Whatevernext9 · 27/05/2025 10:46

It obviously is complex since so many people
don’t follow it. The idea that ‘rules’ are all that’s needed is hilarious given the context - people are in prison for breaking ‘rules’, prison staff break rules all the time and yet you seem surprised that people break rules.

(Teachers of children are an entirely different kettle of fish, so weird analogy).

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I don't doubt that, but you don't have to have sex with them and you don't have to smuggle stuff in for them. I'm sure there's a process if a crim tries to coerce something.

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 29/05/2025 13:25

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 29/05/2025 13:17

I don't doubt that, but you don't have to have sex with them and you don't have to smuggle stuff in for them. I'm sure there's a process if a crim tries to coerce something.

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Was replying to AlmostWelsh, sorry for the wrong quote!

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TheHappyBug · 31/05/2025 20:14

You have posted that officer three times on this thread, starting to look like it’s personal.

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