Party pooper - How to respond?

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My son has ASD and struggles to make friends. He is a cheerful 10 year old and is nice to everyone but rarely clicks with people. He has two good friends and I am grateful for that. I have been planning a small birthday party for him for months. He needed 8 guests to run the activity.

I planned it with the mum of one of his two good friends. Let’s call her Cowbag. She has helped me plan, understands the difficulty I have in getting people to attend and I even changed the activity to something her daughter would like. One week to go before the party and she has now withdrawn her acceptance of the invite saying that she accidentally double booked. she sent this by text. My son is devastated.

However, I have now found out that Cowbag’s daughter is now going to the party of another girl on the same day. This girl only gave out invites two days ago.

I spend a lot of time with this woman and I do not know how to respond. I am so upset.

Good for you, OP. Did she ever have the decency to apologise?

While I hope your children are still friends if that still works for your so, I hope you've taken a big step back from Cowbag and not killed yourself doing favours for her.

I have not spoken to her again. I doubt I ever will. No great loss. My son did thank her daughter for the present.

But the daughter is not friends with OP's son, she is just making up the numbers.

Didn’t the OP say the daughter is her son’s closest friend and they really get on?

Yes, she did.