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Boyfriend ignoring texts

106 replies

Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:44

Completely happy to be told I'm being unreasonable but would this bother you..
Been with new DP for several months and we talk almost every lunchtime, which is fine. Today I hadn't heard from him 30 mins into his break so I gave him a call. He didn't answer. Fine, I assume he's doing his hobby which he sometimes does at lunch. I text him saying nothing important, hope he's having a lovely day and I love him and I'll see him tonight. (We don't live together)
Anyway, he calls me for 10 mins before his break ends and he has been doing the hobby so all good. We speak and say see you tonight etc. After, I notice that he has read the 'nothing important ' text but not reacted to it at all. I just feel like I would never do that! I would never not acknowledge a message he sent me or anything, even silly memes I respond to.
OK, after writing this down I realise it sounds crazy! 😅 but would it upset you having the text ignored??

OP posts:
CloudywMeatballs · 15/05/2025 14:45

Why would he need to respond to the text? You have spoken since he sent it.

Shoxfordian · 15/05/2025 14:46

But you spoke to him? Why did he need to reply to the text? I think I'd suffocate in this type of relationship

Original poster
Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:46

For context, I feel like he should have at least 'heart' reacted it or sent some kisses faces 😅
Do I sound mad though?? I'm Peri so feeling completely unhinged now and again.

OP posts:
Atarin · 15/05/2025 14:46

Yes, you sound crazy, but it’s good you’ve acknowledged it before it becomes a problem.

CloudywMeatballs · 15/05/2025 14:46

And it wasn't even a text that required an answer!

ilovesooty · 15/05/2025 14:46

CloudywMeatballs · 15/05/2025 14:45

Why would he need to respond to the text? You have spoken since he sent it.

That's what I thought. Non issue imo.

MiddleAgedDread · 15/05/2025 14:46

you've spoken to him, why does he need to reply to the text as well?

Chicken5ausage · 15/05/2025 14:46

I literally have no idea why he’d reply to a text when he spoke to you on the phone.

Dvdlove · 15/05/2025 14:46

Surely the phone call was the response?

MiddleAgedDread · 15/05/2025 14:46

Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:46

For context, I feel like he should have at least 'heart' reacted it or sent some kisses faces 😅
Do I sound mad though?? I'm Peri so feeling completely unhinged now and again.

in the nicest possible way......yes you do! (and i say that as peri-menopausal woman who doesn't live with her boyfriend)

Original poster
Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:47

OK thank you guys! You've saved his evening 😅😘

OP posts:
Nina1013 · 15/05/2025 14:47

You sound crazy.

kuromipal · 15/05/2025 14:47

If he called you, he probably didn’t think a response to the text was necessary.

YABU and overthinking it.

ilovesooty · 15/05/2025 14:48

Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:46

For context, I feel like he should have at least 'heart' reacted it or sent some kisses faces 😅
Do I sound mad though?? I'm Peri so feeling completely unhinged now and again.

Yes, I'm afraid I do think this sounds strange. He spoke to you. He's now working I assume. Why should he be messing around with emojis?

KrisAkabusi · 15/05/2025 14:48

He did react, he phoned you!

Olika · 15/05/2025 14:48

so much drama about nothing.

SunshineAndFizz · 15/05/2025 14:50

If my partner kicked off about this I’d think they were nuts.

Crunchymum · 15/05/2025 14:50

Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:46

For context, I feel like he should have at least 'heart' reacted it or sent some kisses faces 😅
Do I sound mad though?? I'm Peri so feeling completely unhinged now and again.

Peri? I thought you were going to say you were 15.

Sorry OP, your expectations sound very suffocating and if it were someone posting "my BF expects me to acknowledge every single message he sends, even if we speak after messages have been sent" we'd all be telling them to run for the hills.

Stickortwigs · 15/05/2025 14:51

It doesn’t require any response.

I wish WhatsApp would ditch those damn reactions. They’re so mindless. I have some chats where there’s a response on every message so they mean absolutely nothing.

CloudywMeatballs · 15/05/2025 14:53

Stickortwigs · 15/05/2025 14:51

It doesn’t require any response.

I wish WhatsApp would ditch those damn reactions. They’re so mindless. I have some chats where there’s a response on every message so they mean absolutely nothing.

Nobody mentioned WhatsApp! This was via text.

skippy67 · 15/05/2025 14:53

The phone call was the response...

Wishimaywishimight · 15/05/2025 14:56

Is there anything that can't be blamed on 'peri'? 😏

RosaMoline · 15/05/2025 14:59

Jesus. 🙄🙄🙄

Henbags · 15/05/2025 15:01

Wow, just wow.

user1498572889 · 15/05/2025 15:01

Oh Dear you sound like hard work.