Boyfriend ignoring texts

[Atlas2022]

Completely happy to be told I'm being unreasonable but would this bother you..
Been with new DP for several months and we talk almost every lunchtime, which is fine. Today I hadn't heard from him 30 mins into his break so I gave him a call. He didn't answer. Fine, I assume he's doing his hobby which he sometimes does at lunch. I text him saying nothing important, hope he's having a lovely day and I love him and I'll see him tonight. (We don't live together)
Anyway, he calls me for 10 mins before his break ends and he has been doing the hobby so all good. We speak and say see you tonight etc. After, I notice that he has read the 'nothing important ' text but not reacted to it at all. I just feel like I would never do that! I would never not acknowledge a message he sent me or anything, even silly memes I respond to.
OK, after writing this down I realise it sounds crazy! 😅 but would it upset you having the text ignored??

Yeah this will ruin your relationship if you carry on like that.
Weird unspoken expectations abd looking for signs he doesn't really care about you. You'll self sabotage.
He didn't react to the message because you spoke after it... so why would he go back and reply or react? I wouldn't do that nor would most people.
You are reading into it too much.

Respectfully, you’re the one who took someone not putting an emoji on your text ‘seriously’ enough to start an internet thread asking other adults whether they would be ‘upset’ in this scenario.

I think that all sounds horribly suffocating. But then again DH and I have never done the whole daily messaging for no reason malarkey so maybe it's horses for courses 🤷‍♀️. Just seems very stressful to be worrying about such a trivial thing.

Yep you sound mad

Is this really about the messages or are you feeling insecure about something else. He rang you so there's no need to feel that way. If you said a week then I'd get it lol.

I could not deal with someone like you.

You spoke to your partner, why would he need to reply to your text?

Don't you have other things to do with your time? obsessing about texts really is not healthy...

It’s unbelievable isn’t it, the angst that some posters allegedly feel over something as ridiculous as this?? 🤯

Me and my mates carried around a little note with the telephone number of our nearest (red) phone box. We would share this with friends and boyfriends, and arrange a time for them to call (Thursday at 6.30pm 🤣) to arrange the weekends entertainment ✊

It was a real ‘social event’ queuing outside that box…one person answering the calls and then yelling out the door, “It’s Billy, for Tracy…hurry up Tracy, he says he’s only got one 2p!!’ (Yep…2p per call, which lasted about 2 minutes before the beeps!!)

Ahhh, I’m feeling quite nostalgic now 😆

You’ve spoken to him why the need to have him respond to texts. Leave him to his day and get on with yours then when you meet you’ll have stuff to chat about

If you keep this up, you won’t have a boyfriend much longer.

He needs to run. Now. And definitely never buy a rabbit.

I feel bad that you’ve had your arse handed to you here op. Although I do agree that you’re acting a bit nuts. You will drive him away with this behaviour.

My DH is not a texter. At all. If I text him anything during the day he’ll eventually phone me to reply when he gets chance. I’ve never once even thought about him ‘reacting’ to my messages.

In the nicest possible way, put the phone down and step in to the real world! You know, the one where we actually interacted with each other properly?

Wow you sound awfully full on. I mean if he's happy being under such firm rule regarding texts then fine but nothing in this world would persuade me to tolerate that sort of demand.

Honestly until I read this comment I thought you were very young and inexperienced as I really sounds quite teenage drama over nothing.

Id say calm down before you do his head in if you like this guy and want a future.

What’s his hobby OP? I can’t stop wondering

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Edit. Sorry misread

Listen you’ve just over analysed it, it’s normal in a new relationship, especially if you’ve had a previous bad one, just try and relax and keep busy when you feel
like that , until your rational self
kicks back in, we’ve all
done it and yes I speak to my Dp of three years lunch time ha

Oh my goodness… I feel totally suffocated just reading this!

Are you 12??

OP, why do you need to contact him at all during the working day? There are very few things that can't wait until a better time.

I voted YABU because it sounds a bit nuts but I will concede that when DH and I were first together we spoke alllllllll the time.

So much changes once you live together/get married etc and you see each other all the time, you dont want to be in constant communication when you’re apart 😂

Thank you to those who posted understanding replies.
To those who were unnecessarily mean, I hope it makes you feel good to talk like that to people. It's mad how gleefully people feel the need to tell me how pathetic, insane I am and how much you feel sorry for my DP! God forbid we think about trivial things and ask others opinion on it.

To be fair to everyone who was "mean", you did make a whole post on the fact your boyfriend didn't put an emoji react to a text.... 🤷🏼‍♀️

Oh that's OK then. Carry on. I deserve it 🙄

Yep…you’re mad 😆

I know what perimenopause can do to your mind though OP. Enjoy your boyfriend, who does sound lovely and attentive from your post.