Why is Alice Evans Gruffudd homeless?

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Doesn’t she have any famous friends? Where has all her money gone? Does she have to live in L.A? It just all seems bizarre, just move somewhere cheaper.

Even if she was, is it so bad that an abused partner might seek stability and support elsewhere? I wouldn’t begrudge any abused person to seek support that finally gives them the courage to leave.

Maybe, Alice had an affair with one of her Vampire Diaries co-stars while with Ioan, had an affair on her ex longterm partner Olivier to get with Ioan, so if he did cheat it wouldn't really be unheard of in their marriage.

Thank you. I have followed this story from the beginning and agree that he was having an affair with Bianca. I just wanted to highlight the damage that selfish, immature parents can inflict on their own children.

Do you have any proof of this?

I am as against infidelity as the next person, but I agree. If someone is being abused (and by a partner that has a long history of infidelity themselves), whatever it takes for them to extricate themselves is okay imo. I don't believe he cheated, but if he did meet Bianca while still with Alice and realised what life could be like when your partner isn't actively abusing you, then I'm glad it was the catalyst to escape.

Maybe. Given she was mentally and physically abusing him for years before they split, who would blame him? However there is no evidence that they were together before his split with Alice.
There is also a rumour that she had an affair with a Vampire Diaries co star while with Ioan.

The tone was set from her first announcement of split. I can remember seeing that and it standing out from the usual we are divorcing and our priority will be children. The children were 12 and 7 ish when they split.

It wouldn’t surprise me if she was.

Doesn’t change the fact that he has clearly been a victim of prolonged spousal abuse and parental alienation.

If a woman told me she’d had an affair and it was the support she gained from this relationship which finally prompted her to leave a toxic, abusive marriage to an unstable substance-abusing spouse, I couldn’t bring myself to care. Whatever it takes to help her leave that situation.

I am no fan of hers and I think she has been the author of her own downfall but 5k a month is nothing in LA.

She didn’t work for years, he did and how much money does he have.? More than 10k a month I’d say.

Some of her posts on Insta before he left were disturbing. I recall one with him asleep with his dd. She took a photo saying she hoped her dd would not inherit Ioans nose.

Another where he had asked she not post a certain picture. I believe of him relaxing at home in shorts. She posted said pic with the caption openly saying he didn't want this posted but she was going to do it anyway followed by ssshhhhh.

That's not OK.

Later behaviour has just been deranged. She must have no friends to reign her in as some of her later social media posts were worrying at best.

It is so sad for these children that they don't have at least one parent who is prepared to put them first.

She should get a job then eh? And no, conventions don’t count when you are literally not famous. She needs an actual job.

An awful lot of his money went on paying the mortgage/bills on the family home for a couple of years after he left, while also supporting himself (he acknowledged his partner Bianca was supporting the bulk of the expenses for the two of them, she came into the relationship with some money), plus his own and Alice's legal fees. She vowed to drag out the divorce until they were both destitute. She has only ever been supported by others (her prior relationship, in which she cheated on her fiance with Ioan, she was fully supported as he was very wealthy, a Picasso). I think the penny still hasn't dropped with Alice that at some point she is going to have to get a proper job and support herself and do her part in supporting the kids.

Most of the money accrued has been spent on legal fees. He has also paid her £400k on top of the court ordered maintenance amount over the past few years. His apartment costs less to rent each month than hers, and in their financial declarations he leads a far more frugal lifestyle than she does.
The ironic thing is that she is trying to destroy his career, but that will lead to her receiving less maintenance. He can’t pay it if he doesn’t earn it.

I've noticed that some Hollywood actors swear blind that their extra-curricular romances started after they left their partners, even though it really doesn't quite add up. Then years later they admit that they DID have an affair - the admission usually occurs after the new relationship follows the pattern of the first.

I have learned from MN that women know when something is up and that men will follow a script. Alice says that her husband started acting a bit strange way before they split - I hear the same story almost every day on this forum.

Being a jobbing actor is not a steady income. You often have to live on the earnings of your previous job. Doubly difficult if you have a spouse who won’t support themselves and has certain expensive habits.

$5k a month would surely be enough to get her a room in a cheap motel somewhere for the short term?

She claims to have found several properties she can afford. The issue seems to be she needs a co-signer and has now taken to asking perfect strangers on the internets to act as co-signer OR give her a spare room (seemingly indefinitely).

Lots of sympathy for her on the Gram but so far not even her most committed handmaidens seem gormless enough to front up for that deal.

Maybe she should ask Bianca since Ioan isn’t playing ball? 🙄

Alice told him a long time before he left that he was useless and she wanted him gone, and that she was going to find a new daddy for their children (she told the children this too). I don’t blame him for acting ‘a bit strange’ !

Father tried time and time again. But his hands are tied due to the damage the mother has done. He provides for them financially, but has had to take a step back for the children’s sake (due to the severe parental alienation done by Alice they couldn’t visit him without interruption, being distressed, or behaving like banshees and running into busy roads). He also had to take a step back for his own sake, why should he suffer indefinitely for his ex wives actions? And to be honest, who is going to financially provide for the children if he drops down dead from the stress? Stops getting work because of their mother’s attempts to blackball him? The only person providing for these children is their dad. But he has to do so in a safe way for them and himself

Exactly and the amount of people not believing this is insane. If it was anyone else they would all be in her side

I will never be on the side of an abuser, whoever they are.

I’m a supporter of SAHMs but she was a SAHM with a nanny! So she was essentially a lady of leisure and his income wasn’t that secure as he has had some good roles but not consistently. So should he just hand over more money to her because she’s been too lazy to work? She had a nanny for the kids who only left recently apparently, so she doesn’t really have an excuse…

I don’t not believe this. But I also don’t care. Abusive partners need support to leave as leaving is really, really tough. If an affair is how they gain the strength to do so, then so be it.

If Ioan had been expecting her to support him while he stayed at home, and pay for a nanny, he would have been called a cocklodger on here.

Thank you for explaining