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CatSnackTagine · 20/06/2025 14:26

BB333 · 14/05/2025 21:30

just to clarify I’m an atheist, DP is quite a devout Catholic.
came down this morning to my DP telling me the vicar had msg’d him the available dates for our DD christening/ baptism. I said that’s fine and will give my family members the dates and see what everyone can do.
Ive had no say in the day, which, as an atheist I’m not too bothered about, but it means a lot to my DP so have let him have control.
DP come home and I was very excited to tell him that lots of my family (some of which live 5 hours away) could all make a certain date.
i started mentioning the relatives names ie, Aunty and Uncle so and so.

DP then turns round and says that he wants only immediate family to attend. He didn’t stipulate this. He’s now expecting me to call all these relatives up and tell them they’re not invited.

im so upset. I’ve told him that I think he’s being really horrible about it. I was really looking forward to seeing my family and having a a lovely day of celebrating even though I’m not religious. It’s not a matter of money as my Dad is paying for the day.

AIBU to be this upset?

So what happened?

Original poster

BB333 · 21/06/2025 17:32

Told DP to give his head a wobble. Turns out that some of his wider family couldn’t make the date(s) given anyway. So as of yet it’s not happened, nor will it be happening anytime soon. And when it does then I will be inviting who I wish. Gave in with the god parents issue in the end as my friend who I wanted suffers hugely from anxiety and I didn’t want to cause her any upset or worry about having to stand up in church in front of people. She’ll always be “aunty” to my child anyway.

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CatSnackTagine · 21/06/2025 22:46

BB333 · 21/06/2025 17:32

Told DP to give his head a wobble. Turns out that some of his wider family couldn’t make the date(s) given anyway. So as of yet it’s not happened, nor will it be happening anytime soon. And when it does then I will be inviting who I wish. Gave in with the god parents issue in the end as my friend who I wanted suffers hugely from anxiety and I didn’t want to cause her any upset or worry about having to stand up in church in front of people. She’ll always be “aunty” to my child anyway.

Good on you! Invite them all, and have a lovely time!

Keep that foot down now you've put it down

Lockdownsceptic · 22/06/2025 12:14

Soonenough · 17/05/2025 10:30

@Coffeebadlyneeded You're right of course re : sausage rolls . Thought that after posting but you were quick to point out that some religions prohibit pork . OK can we agree that people if many faiths can eat cake 🎂?😆

If all ingredients are halal and the cake doesn't contain alcohol.

CloudywMeatballs · 23/06/2025 14:08

BB333 · 21/06/2025 17:32

Told DP to give his head a wobble. Turns out that some of his wider family couldn’t make the date(s) given anyway. So as of yet it’s not happened, nor will it be happening anytime soon. And when it does then I will be inviting who I wish. Gave in with the god parents issue in the end as my friend who I wanted suffers hugely from anxiety and I didn’t want to cause her any upset or worry about having to stand up in church in front of people. She’ll always be “aunty” to my child anyway.

A family friend who will always be there for your child in an auntie role is a wonderful thing to have! Absolutely nothing to do with the role of a godparent.