Husband uses my towel!!

[ExhaustedPigeon37]

Exactly that!

Am I being unreasonable to think DH should use his own towel when showering/bathing?

We hang our towels on the back on the back of our bedroom door, my towel is usually pink or purple as I bought them for me and my daughter when we lived together, just us two, a girls house. DH’s towel is usually blue or green, from his house when he lived by himself!

I’m suffering tonight with cramps and back pain and it may be because it’s TOTM but DH had a shower and then came downstairs with my pink towel around his waist and it really annoyed me!! I’ve told him so many times to use his own towel. Tonight he just said in his nonchalant male tone “sorry I just grabbed the first one I saw!!”. He just doesn’t seem to get it. I only changed the towels this weekend and now he has used both of ours, so I’m going to have to get another clean towel tomorrow morning!

YABU - get yourself some chocolate and get over it he is your husband!

YANBU - he should be more understanding, send him out to get you chocolate!

@mugglewump

No.

I grew up in a family of seven. The idea of 'own towels' is alien to me. Also, utterly impractical.

I don't understand what the benefit is. To me, it borders on OCD. It's just pointless and, more than that, rather controlling.

Give over, if they don’t want their H to use their towel, there ain’t no way they’re gonna do anything like that with him!

It would annoy me. He also sounds like a bit of an idiot. How many times does somebody have to be told somebody?

Ok I have not read all comments but we wash our towels after every use. Prob not good for the environment and I will get slated for this. But even when one has washed themselves, there are still skin cells, pubic hair etc that would be left on the towel.Just my husband and I share our bathroom. Daughter has her own bathroom and her own towels but we just take a clean one form the towel press and once used we throw it in the wash basket. Anything else is just gross in my opinion.

Hahaha! I’m hoping there won’t be a next time but next time I will!

DSDs are always getting threadworms - even at 12 & 14!! 🤢😷 We have had those horrible dry orange tablets more than I care to think about! Which is another reason why I don’t want to share my towel, even with my husband who I share a bed with and have sex with - I blame his genes as DD only ever had them once when she was 4/5years old! 😂😂

Why should she?

op, my husband does the same. Really annoying

Oh no! Skin cells are literal poison! And pubic hair is equally has harmful to human beings!!!! I can't wait until there is a vaccine for these deadly pathogens!!!!!!!

You're more than entitled to want your towel to yourself, we are allowed some things to our bloody selves. It's a matter of hygiene as well as respecting your boundaries too!

Don't be so stupid with the sarcasm....she's allowed to have a buggering bath towel to herself, we don't have to share everything in life ffs 😑

I can see why it’s annoying but he’s your husband, without being crude you share other bodily bits, him wiping his clean body isn’t that big of a deal?

Absolutely agree, I’ve lots of lovely towels but we all use them. I always put fresh towels out for overnight guests in their rooms but ap as rt from that I’m very confident my families hygiene levels are high enough to know when a fresh towel is needed.

It’s not necessarily a question of feeling squeamish- most of us don’t want to dry ourselves with a towel which is already wet.

Either he’s genuinely ignorant or he’s trying to get a rise out of you. Neither is great.

You can talk to him, or move your towel somewhere else to dry. But if you’re having to play silly beggars because he chooses to do something that bothers you, it’s not a respectful relationship.

YANBU.

We haven't shared towels since our DC were little over 15 years ago following a threadworm outbreak!!🤢 I can't believe anyone would share towels after going through that!

Plus my teens would be utterly grossed out to think they wiped their face on the same towel their dad wiped his (clean) arse on 😅..so would I come to think of it 🤣

I'd argue you have an even bigger problem than the OP has then!!

Seriously? Have you never had Athlete's Foot as a consequence?

I’ve never dried between my toes in my entire life and in my 49 years on this earth I’ve never had athlete’s foot.

Wow. I do dry between my toes, I'm 44 and I've had athlete's foot once. There have been a couple of people saying they don't dry between their toes after bathing or showering, is this something I don't need to be concerning myself with? 🤣

Whatever the responses, I'm still drying between my toes.

We just have a load of grey towels. Dh and I share a bathroom so we just use the same ones. Dd and ds tend to keep theirs separate.

I was irritated the other day when I noticed a towel that had been used had a bit of blood on it (my totm) so must have been me the previous day and I hadn’t noticed. I put it in the wash and got a clean one (whilst soaking wet) dh later said “oh you noticed the blood on the towel?”!!!! So he had seen it and left the towel there! Whe I asked why he hadn’t put it in the wash he said he wasn’t sure if I had finished with it!

I've never wanted to share a bath towel after watching Frank Skinner's standup when he talks about drying himself on a white towel. Plus, I admit that I am influenced by the articles saying that '90% of towels are contaminated with faecal bacteria, and that 56% of romantic partners spread faecal bacteria when they share bath and shower towels'.

You’re extremely fortunate then. I was plagued with it when I was younger hence religiously drying between my toes every time my feet get wet.

Yeah I honestly don’t care who uses my towels after they’ve washed themselves. My mum, a friend, their boyfriend, a guest. It’s a towel… maybe wouldn’t love a stranger from the street walking in and having a scrub.

If you flush the toilet with the lid up then the towels in the room also get fecal matter on them.

I’ve also never dried between my toes and never had athletes foot. I’m shocked people dry their toes tbh

I’ve never not dried between my toes! I had no idea people didn’t! 😮