Husband uses my towel!!

[ExhaustedPigeon37]

Exactly that!

Am I being unreasonable to think DH should use his own towel when showering/bathing?

We hang our towels on the back on the back of our bedroom door, my towel is usually pink or purple as I bought them for me and my daughter when we lived together, just us two, a girls house. DH’s towel is usually blue or green, from his house when he lived by himself!

I’m suffering tonight with cramps and back pain and it may be because it’s TOTM but DH had a shower and then came downstairs with my pink towel around his waist and it really annoyed me!! I’ve told him so many times to use his own towel. Tonight he just said in his nonchalant male tone “sorry I just grabbed the first one I saw!!”. He just doesn’t seem to get it. I only changed the towels this weekend and now he has used both of ours, so I’m going to have to get another clean towel tomorrow morning!

YABU - get yourself some chocolate and get over it he is your husband!

YANBU - he should be more understanding, send him out to get you chocolate!

I can only imagine you are being sarcastic,,,

I fear not!!

Thank you! I shall explain this to him 😂😂 although after 8 years of being together (1 year of that married) he has come to not expect it, and if it was really that important then he wouldn’t have asked me to marry him! 😂😂

Wot! Really. You share towels? Bathtowels?

Yeah... and? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Genuine question do couples actually do their own washing?
Doesn’t anyone doing the washing decide it’s time to do a load of towels, gather them all up and shove them in the machine?

We do our own washing but towels all go in together

We do all of ours together too

It's taken me ages, years, to train my DH out of just picking up any towel and using it. We have separate ones and so does DD when she is home from uni. I never grew up sharing towels so when DH moved in and was merrily using any one willy nilly it really threw me!

I have the same situation, en suite is mine, bathroom is DH’s and the kids. It jokingly came about as we have boys, so I said it was a girls’ and boys’ bathroom situation. DH doesn’t care, he wouldn’t use the en-suite anyway as he’d wake me getting up early for work, I love having a private bathroom and DH has his own ‘man cave’ and the double garage, so he’s not without! I do sometimes use his towel though when I have a bath (my en-suite only has a shower) if I’ve forgotten to bring mine with me 🤷‍♀️

It wouldn’t matter because I’d use the other one, which won’t be damp??

I mean unless you have a huge difference between the two towels (like size, one is all fluffy and soft, the other ancient and hard etc…), I’m struggling to see why it matters?

Well yes?!?
I mean where the issue? As long as it’s dry, I’m struggling to see why it would be a problem.

Not particularly weird but perhaps unusual. I’d be annoyed if someone else used my towel.

Did you need to be so lewd to get such a silly message across? The message being that she's not allowed one single thing to herself, not even a freaking bath towel!

That would be fun if someone caught threadworms...you'd never get rid of them! Do you share underwear too?

some people don't mind this. Some do.

OP does, has asked her DH not to do it and he keeps doing it. Fucker.

I don't want my DH using my towel because he showers about 2 hours before me, then i grab my towel and it's not a nice dry towel it's still wet. That's not what i want.

Flick him with it, OP, on the bare legs and tell him to stop being a twat.

what do you mean by "sharing towels" tho?

I put out clean towels every week on Bathroom Scrubbing Day. One hand towel (that gets swapped out every other day or so), one towel for me and one for DH. That week we each use the towel that is put in our designated (by me, because i'm the one who does the laundry and gets them out) space. All week he uses his, i use mine. But we don't have actual designated towels.

If he used my towel and i was confronted by my towel being all wet because he'd used it? There Would Be Very Much Trouble.

Or do you just pick one up willy-nilly each time you have a shower?

"throw this one back"
"ditch the bastard"
"😂leave.NOW"

🤣 at lewd! This is Mumsnet..we can swear and everything. Of course the OP can prefer her own stuff but the tone of the post was that it was disgusting on some hygienic level which I just don't follow if it's the person you are married to.

We have communal towels. I don’t care who in the family is using it as long as it’s hung up afterwards.

You’re being horrible. My DH would be really upset if I moaned about this.

OK. Those who share towels/use the first dry one they come to - how wide is your communal towel pool? You and DH? Your household, including teenagers? What about overnight guests? If you were sharing a room on holiday with a friend? If you were sharing a house on holiday with extended family (including in-laws)?

Mine would be really pissed off if I used his towel. 🤷‍♀️

Horrible to want to use her own towel 😂

They are different because I like fluffy and he doesn't. So we have different colours to help differentiate and keep them in different places because I'm not sure he wouldn't just use the first one he saw.

Before I moved in with DP he had a set of 4 white identical towels and I never knew whose was whose, I hated it. If I ever did shower at his I would feel so stressed if it was my towel or his or the DC 😂 because it was just all bundled up hanging together. I started wiping my eyes/mascara all over mine so it was obvious then he would complain about make up on the white towels.

when we moved in together I allocated us each a specific hook on the rail and asked him not to use mine. We also have different colours. I now notice I wash my towel every 3ish days and he leaves his up for a week or more! I don’t want to share a towel, maybe at a push my kids but they don’t want to share with me they have their own

Me and teen DS share. Teen DD is more fastidious. Random visitors get a clean towel obvs just like clean bedding.