Husband uses my towel!!

[ExhaustedPigeon37]

Exactly that!

Am I being unreasonable to think DH should use his own towel when showering/bathing?

We hang our towels on the back on the back of our bedroom door, my towel is usually pink or purple as I bought them for me and my daughter when we lived together, just us two, a girls house. DH’s towel is usually blue or green, from his house when he lived by himself!

I’m suffering tonight with cramps and back pain and it may be because it’s TOTM but DH had a shower and then came downstairs with my pink towel around his waist and it really annoyed me!! I’ve told him so many times to use his own towel. Tonight he just said in his nonchalant male tone “sorry I just grabbed the first one I saw!!”. He just doesn’t seem to get it. I only changed the towels this weekend and now he has used both of ours, so I’m going to have to get another clean towel tomorrow morning!

YABU - get yourself some chocolate and get over it he is your husband!

YANBU - he should be more understanding, send him out to get you chocolate!

I agree with you. We leave a couple of towels on the heated towel rail so tend to just grab whichever is dry/warm - I really can't imagine getting upset over my husband using the 'wrong' towel!

I don't have my 'own' towel, but I use the same towel all week, I stick it on the radiator in my room, if DH uses it I shove it in the wash and get another, but it does piss me off if he is too lazy to get his own out the cupboard

Yes I do agree with this though.

Well after 40 years of towel sharing and not caught anything, I’ve risk assessed and happy to continue!

I also share other bodily fluids and not caught anything g.

It depends, some people wash themselves more thoroughly than others. Unfortunately, I've seen the skid marks on towels which proves this!

I would be extremely annoyed. Why on earth would people share towels? My partner and I have our own, two hooks in our bathroom and his is on the left mine is on the right! Same for our face towels although we wash these daily anyway...

Why on earth wouldn’t partners share towels?

If you both shower around the same time (we do in the morning and sometimes evening too) then the second person's towel would be damp?

It would annoy me not because of hygiene but because his towel always seems to be soaking wet for ages after he showers whereas mine dries really quickly. So him doing this would leave me with two damp towels to choose from rather than my nice dry towel.

Genuine question do couples actually do their own washing?
Doesn’t anyone doing the washing decide it’s time to do a load of towels, gather them all up and shove them in the machine?

I didn't know people had their own towels until i was an adult

Would you just randomly use the first towel you saw?

You’re being nuts. It’s a towel… presumably as he’s your husband you’ve had his bodily germs all over you.

Ive never once been possessive over a towel.

Yes.

I’m with you, OP - there is a limit to what you want to share…
https://metro.co.uk/2019/12/12/sharing-towels-partner-faecal-bacteria-11720283/

😂😂😂

Certainly when i was a child, yes

Lying here in my bubble bath and reflecting. I have a clean towel ready and one for my hair.

What would really piss me off is if DH used my bathroom. He doesn't. He uses the main one and if we have DS home he has to share.

Actually it’s a GOOD gag reflex.

I saw a meme the other day saying poor gag reflexes make the heimlich manoeuvre less effective (don’t know how far this is true). It was basically a ‘light hearted’ way of saying that women who work against their gag reflex giving their partner BJ’s are actually, unsurprisingly, putting their lives at risk.

Sharing towels gives me the absolute boak. I don't want a soggy or damp towel when it's been used by someone before me. I am with you op. In my household I would be very vocal about it.

Meh

How did you decide that you had your own bathroom and DH and DS shared?

The main bathroom has a shaving point and a separate shower which they both prefer. I don't care. If either had felt strongly they could have used the one in the guest room.

Just take a clean towel in with you, or get a bathrobe.

we are the normal ones.