Evil MIL

[Warmsunnyday1]

Who has one? I do, shes a horrid narcissist who can see no wrong in her actions, she falls out with everyone, of course its never her fault, always everyone else,the poor woman. She doesn’t speak to her son or myself anymore because i dared to call her daughter out for speaking to me like I was absolutely nothing, i mean how dare I, should have just sat back and taken all the abuse like a good little DIL. Why are they so nuts?

Well done you and as a DIL don't be petrified of that 👏🏼 my MIL is lovely and has been an amazing mum to my husband and raised two incredible boys. How my husband treats his mother showed me he would be a great husband and father.

Has she had her moments since I had my DS? Sure, and I would love for her to have stopped at just 1 or 2 attempts to get us to give him formula, to have been a bit more considerate when I was newly pp about not taking him out of my arms or trying to distract him instead of giving him back when he wanted to feed and not joked about my weight when I was heavily pregnant or in front of me about how my breast milk wasn't enough for my son.

But I also know how much she loves my son and husband. She is aware of some of the updated guidance and I know that she's holding back some of the unsolicited advice. It must be tough to bite your tongue when you're really convinced of something. My own late mum would have been an absolute nightmare as a grandma and she was very toxic towards my brother's ex. Ultimately my MIL has raised a son that really values family and I would never want to get in the way of their relationship. But equally my husband is willing to communicate on my behalf if there's something really bothering me. Little annoyances are just that, and they're temporary - if you're even trying not to interfere etc I'm sure your DILs appreciate that even if you might occasionally unknowingly rub each other the wrong way

Edit: idk if it's obvious from my post but I think my own MIL and how the PP comes across are worlds apart from the toxic MILs described on this thread, including OP's!

My mother in law was a very forceful woman, opinions on everything, argue about everything. Used to drive me mad moving our furniture, having a go at my clothes etc. After 20 years of being married to my husband I have to admit it was heart breaking when alzheimer's and Parkinson's stopped her being able to to rant. Wish she had been able to go out being a pain in the bum.

Thank you 💐 xx

What could OP's MIL's side of the story be when she told OP that her still birth was for the best because there was probably something wrong with the baby (which she referred to as 'it')? Surely there can't be any way to spin that comment to make MIL seem supportive of her grieving and traumatised DIL rather than cruel and callous?

Thank you xx It was that I took it the wrong way and I was “a far too sensitive little slip of a girl” Again she couldn’t possibly be wrong, I was in the wrong and I was to shut up and deal with it x