Oh I was so sad to read this. My son has a complex and complicated medical needs which means he cannot access his school swimming with his peers, he had a 1;1 which came in his EHCP and he would have loved to be with his friends. However the EHCP was ceased - I have contested this- so to stop him sat in the class or being sent somewhere else I am taking him every Thursday off site and taking him to a pool with the babies so he can play and attempt at being water safe. He is 6 and autistic, - he's on liquid thickener and long term antibiotics, and chest compressions for suction when any non thickened liquid gets to his lungs. I wrote to the school and stated categorically that they have a duty of care to make all SMART adjustments. I understand the link with the splashing and my son not drinking the water if he went under.
In your daughters situation however the school have handled this extremely poorly. There is no where were she could not have attended with an adapted/ managed day without it impacting on anyone.
A number of things you could ask such as why they are specifically singling her out and not meeting her needs when there is clearly so many options they have. We live 300 metres from the Thames and there is an activity centre on the water up from us. My ASD daughter was side lined not to attend due to her behaviour. I went along and supported the school as they didn't have a TA and I accepted that she could be difficult.
Your daughter is not like my eldest, there are no behaviour - I am praying it is a massive over sight.
They appear to have had little thought and at a basic level as teacher myself I would be doing all I can.
There is so much they can do to include her I am astonished and angry for you. And as someone who was part of senior management when I was working with our unit and SEN children in mainstream school, this would not be an option to exclude a young pupil for something that really is quite fixable.
I would be asking them what they would be doing in order for her to be included. Are they willing to pay you for your time, or an activity that involves the cost, and you could even write I am happy to bill you. I mean they won't do anything but you get the gist.
It is about making it abundantly clear that you daughter has every right to be attending, it sends a stinking message to her class mates that an orgnisation that they have spent their lives at learning and nurturing and developing into caring and compassionate members and setting of into the world starting secondary school can't even make reasonable adjustments to include her. And it sends a crushing message to her. Honestly PM me if you want me to pen a professional but firm letter, I am so mad for you. All children on a basic caring level should feel that their disability or medical needs are not going to hinder them. This is not even a glaringly obvious one. In my second year of teaching in Year 3 I had a young girl who had brittle bones and was in a wheelchair, we knew she had to have specifically catered help and mats for simple gym work, the only trip she couldnt do was one that would have literally endangered her bones, and we planned accordingly. what's upsetting is not that they are saying she can't go- which is nonsensical , its the lack of an attempt to even try and work around it. I mean come on.
Can I say apologies for any typos I am rushing this as I can't believe what I am reading. I think ultimately you can take her out and should if they still cannot facilitate her, but I would be raising this as it's wrong.