Next door neighbour asking daily for my parking space

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NDN has a child with disability, so do I. Our road is near a school and always busy. A few weeks ago she called me to say her dd was unwell and she couldn’t park near the house would I mind moving my car so she could have the space outside my house, I said yes of course and moved my car to the next road as there were not any nearer spaces but it wasn’t an issue for what I thought was a one off emergency.

Since then she is asking all the time , daily, if she can’t get a space and sees my car nearer the houses she calls and calls or parks elsewhere then knocks to say can I move as she needs the space as her dd is disabled. When I say no sorry I need the space she is getting really irritated. I said she should perhaps contact the council to see if they can add a disabled parking space ?
She knocked at 11pm one night last week to ask me to move as it would make it easier im the morning for her, I lied and said I’d had too much wine and she said ‘well give me the keys I’ll get dp to move yours ‘!

AIBU to put a note through her door to request that she stops doing this as it’s getting to the point where I feel harassed ?

Just be direct.

”I know it is tricky, but I also have a disabled child I need to carry in quite often. Parking on the road is first come first serve, and I am afraid I will not be moving my car for you again”

If she has a DP she can stop outside her house with her flashers on, her DP can collect child from car and then she can walk back after parking.

Don’t make excuses, tell her her request is unreasonable and you won’t be doing it.

I meant to reply sooner, not sure if you have a reserved space for your house or one due to a disability space, but NDN’s needs do not trump those of you and your DC. If you don’t have a blue badge already, I would apply for one now (just completed my application. DD has ADHD/ASD with significant issues, so am told that once I’ve verified her ID with her passport, it will be allocated. We want it for uni.) I think it is technically easier to apply for a disabled parking bay outside your house once you have one - though not a done deal.

Your NDN can do what the rest of us parents of SEN and otherwise disabled children - sort her life out and get the admin in hand. If she rolls her eyes at you, roll them back.

Again not correct. There is no on street blue badge parking exclusively for the use of any individual and neither are they numbered to corresponding badges. On street disabled parking bays are provided by the council on request - some councils charge a fee. The space is then marked out in white with the disability symbol also in white. These bays are not legally enforceable, so not only can any disabled badge holder use them, but those without a disabled badge can also use them without attracting a fine or any other action - it’s left to other users and residents to police them.

The only legally enforceable disabled bays are those marked out in yellow and with cross hatching to denote a wider space. These appear in on street pay and display parking and in various car parks. They are exclusively for the use of blue badge holders and misuse can attract a fine of up to £100.

agree with everyone else. Next time you are asked say ‘I’m sorry that you are having problems parking. I also have a child with additional needs and know how difficult it can be. I really think you need to about to the council for a permit. It’s making things quite difficult for me and my children that you keep asking me to move my car and, I’m sorry it’s not what you want to hear, but I won’t be moving it going forwards because I need to put the needs of my own family first. ‘

then block her number and IGNORE!

Some councils do offer personalised disabled parking bays to individuals with mobility impairments who have a Blue Badge and meet specific criteria. These bays are designated for a particular vehicle and permit holder. I don’t know how legally enforceable they are, but they do exist. In our city, people do respect them and don’t park in them.

Ah, you’re talking about permit holder bays - PDB’s sorry. There are a few councils who offer them in cases of profound disability but the blue badge alone is not valid in them - the designated individual has to display a permit instead of/in addition to the blue badge. Councils who offer them will require applicants to demonstrate disability significantly above that required for a standard blue badge, and the spaces are strictly enforced - hefty fines and the possibility of your vehicle being towed.

She's thinks she's entitled. What a cheek! If her daughter is that disabled she should, as others have said, apply for a disabled parking space. Do not give in to her any more.

Time to get out the big guns, throw a few swears in and tell her not to knock at your door again for any reason. She can arrange a disabled bay.

This is one of those no good deed goes unpunished situations.

The coming over at 11pm would have gotten her a raised voice what do you think you're doing bugging me for my parking spot so late go home and no. Block her # and if she asks you in person, look her dead in the eyes and tell her not today, Satan.

The only way to guarantee yourself a parking spot is to have a driveway with a no parking box in front.
Does she have room to put in a drive? Otherwise it's the luck of the draw, even with a disabled space.

Id say to her your not moving anymore and give her the link to apply for a disabled parking bay (usually on council website)

OP's disabled child is not relevant here. Even if she lived alone and was a keen marathon runner in perfect health, she would still have just as much right to that first-come-first-served space on the public road.

Why should OP have to justify using a free and unrestricted parking space on the road when apparently none of the other residents have had to - having either not been asked by CF in the first place once she saw OP as her regular go-to doormat, or otherwise having told CF to bugger off if she did ask them?

If CF qualifies for a disabled space, she needs to apply for this with the council. If it's granted, she will then only have to compete with others blue badge users for it, and will likely get to use it a great deal of the time; if she is turned down, I'm afraid it's tough bananas.

Most of that is correct but some DPS are enforced. We have resident parking permits in our area. Since they bought this in the have also enforced DPS. If you don’t have a blue badge or a virtual blue badge you can get a ticket.

Well the rules must have changed then. I had my car lifted from a numbered blue badge space very near to the ideal home show. Today I was asked if I needed exclusive use of my bay by my council (South Central).

Get one of those ''DO NOT DSITURB '' signs and put it on your door as and when required.

Central London councils have their own Blue Badge roles, my mum has v different parking rights in Richmond where she lives compared to further in London

The white marked spaces are normally not enforceable if they’re council provided at the request of residents. PDB’s however, are. They’re for specific individuals with profound disability and there are hefty fines for parking in them even with a blue badge, because they’re not standard spaces and require an additional permit.

Even if she applies and gets a disabled space, they're still first come first served so anyone with a blue badge can use them. So getting one may not solve the issue.

I did correct myself upthread. What you’re describing isn’t a standard blue badge space - they’re what’s known as PDB’s and the blue badge is not valid in them. Not all councils offer them but a few do in cases of profound disability. The designated individual has to display a valid permit instead of or in addition to the blue badge. Councils who offer them have strict criteria significantly above that required for a standard blue badge, and the spaces are strictly enforced - hefty fines and the possibility of your vehicle being towed.

Yep. It probably won’t. They’ll end up arguing about who is more entitled/disabled and gets to use it !!

in our area anyone with a blue badge can use them, but anyone with a blue badge can park in ordinary residents bays so it pretty annoying when they ignore spaces and use ours. I don’t need to park right outside my house but OH really does. I’ve managed to get spaces for children but it’s very hard. The council are prone to telling parents that ‘it’s not allowed’ which is nonsense

”disabled” can mean many things so it’s your discretion how friendly you want to be but it’s public parking and you either need to arrange designated parking or ask her to stop.

I would send her a proper letter because that’s legally binding. I would be very upset if someone knocked at 11 pm and consider it harassment but I don’t know your history with her.

She's a CF. Just say no its inconvenient

I'm a blue badge holder and as long as a permit is displayed , anyone with a blue badge can park there .

This is the same in our area.
People can apply for a bay with disabled written in outside their house on a public highway but they don't always realise that any blue badge holder can park there, so technically the bay doesn't belong to household.

People who happen to have a disability are no more or less liable to be CFs than people who don't.

Some people with BB spaces outside their homes that they are entitled to use will deliberately park in a nearby standard space to save it for a family member, before moving into the disabled space when the family member gets home - reckoning that anybody could take that space, but the competition for the disabled space is much, much less.

It's kind of a similar principle to eating somebody else's favourite biscuits or chocolates that you don't mind first when sharing a box, knowing that they don't like your favourites.