Next door neighbour asking daily for my parking space

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NDN has a child with disability, so do I. Our road is near a school and always busy. A few weeks ago she called me to say her dd was unwell and she couldn’t park near the house would I mind moving my car so she could have the space outside my house, I said yes of course and moved my car to the next road as there were not any nearer spaces but it wasn’t an issue for what I thought was a one off emergency.

Since then she is asking all the time , daily, if she can’t get a space and sees my car nearer the houses she calls and calls or parks elsewhere then knocks to say can I move as she needs the space as her dd is disabled. When I say no sorry I need the space she is getting really irritated. I said she should perhaps contact the council to see if they can add a disabled parking space ?
She knocked at 11pm one night last week to ask me to move as it would make it easier im the morning for her, I lied and said I’d had too much wine and she said ‘well give me the keys I’ll get dp to move yours ‘!

AIBU to put a note through her door to request that she stops doing this as it’s getting to the point where I feel harassed ?

If parking in the street for "residents only" then it is absolutely hers for using exclusively.

I'd stop answering the door. She'll soon get tbe message.

She knocked at 11pm one night last week to ask me to move as it would make it easier im the morning for her, I lied and said I’d had too much wine and she said ‘well give me the keys I’ll get dp to move yours

Fucking hell!

No - don't put that note through her door. You aren't asking. You're telling her, but phrasing it as a request will make her think she has a bit of influence here.

Don't ever answer the door to her again. Ignore and blocker her on your phone!! If she sees you on the street, I'd just tell her that she was starting to really take the piss and that you're ignoring her because of that.

Also - don't justify. because she'll nitpick your reasons and it'll escalate. If it's your parking space, just say no, and if shell still pushing, ask how much she's willing to pay to have this privilege of using your property. She'll likely back off...

100% u apply for the space for disability

if she does. She will get yours.

I think notes through the door are a bit passive aggressive, so I wouldn’t do that.

Moving first time was a nice gesture, and I think you’ve did the right thing there. However, she has turned that generosity into entitlement (and is now harassing you).

Whenever she calls, repeat she needs to go to the council to get a disability space, and reiterate it’s not convenient for you to come out to move your car at the moment and leave your child. Rinse and repeat, and don’t feel guilty, you’re not in the wrong.

Unless another resident also has a blue badge.

Tell her to buy herself a low-loader recovery truck, tax and insure it, find an end space and then leave it there permanently.

Then she can use it as her very own 24/7 'bunk parking space' whenever she wants

But parking in the street isn’t residents only. Anyone with a blue badge can use that space.

Good to know. I think someone else just said the same thing.

Nope. Even in residents only streets if a blue badge space is marked out on the road it can be used by anyone with a valid blue badge - they don’t have to be a resident. The parking may be for residents only but it’s still a public highway and blue badge spaces take priority.

If the park is designated to her badge number, does Neighbour have to shift when OP asks her to?

OMG you're the third poster to correct me. It might help if you read the thread, its not that long.

Doesn’t matter whether parking is residents only. It’s a public highway and a blue badge space marked out by the local authority can be used by anyone with a blue badge, regardless of whether they are resident or not.

Btw, not from UK, but moving there. I also have a disability and require a parking permit.

No, I can’t. I need that spot. On repeat

YANBU to want the space.

YABU to put a note through the door instead of speaking to her

On street blue badge parking spaces are not exclusively for the use of any one person. They can be used by any blue badge holder regardless of whether or not they are a resident. So, providing OP has a valid blue badge for her child she’s just as entitled to park there as her neighbour. First come first served.

Well maybe don’t post incorrect information then 🤣

What’s the expression? “no good deed goes unpunished” 😂

I would just ignore her. But changing your car would throw her off the scent ;)

Thank you @Rosscameasdoody

Block her so she can’t keep calling you first of all, and then if she shows up at your door just say, ‘No, my child is disabled and I need that space’. That’s all you need to say.

In the UK the equivalent of the parking permit you mention is a disabled parking permit, commonly referred to as the blue badge. To obtain one you apply to your local authority along with copies of any supporting medical evidence you may have. They may want to see you in person if it’s not clear from the application whether or not you meet the criteria. Some elements of disability benefits like personal independence payment may automatically qualify you for a blue badge. The badge then confers the right to park in a blue badge space and also free parking in on street pay and display car parks, or where certain parking restrictions are in place.

I'd have been really cross if she'd knocked my door at 11pm for a non-emergency. I'm either in bed or ready for bed at that time of night so I wouldn't have been out moving my car. She's a cheeky madam!

If she knocks, I'd do a really exasperated/grumpy 'What, again!? I don't know where I'm supposed to go, there's traffic/cars everywhere!'

Or 'Sorry, can't, I'm in the middle of something right now' Then, ignore the door in future.

For phonecalls, press the ignore button then switch the phone off for a while.

To a text, I'd reply 'What again? I'm not driving around the block again, I had enough trouble finding a space last time!'

One way or another, she'd get the message. I appreciate its a really awkward situation for you. You sound like you're trying to be really nice and not offend her, and she's quite selfish and not too bothered about putting you to an inconvenience.