Neighbour bbq smoke

[Heathershimmerwinner]

Hi. My neighbour round the back has a raised bbq area. He has bbqs twice a day, not kidding. It’s getting a bit too much. The smell of the smoke is making me feel sick. We don’t get on with him as it is. So speaking to him is out the question. My washing constantly smells of smoke. I wouldn’t bother if he barbecued now and again. But it’s twice a day.

There is some stupid defensiveness on this - coming regularly outside ? YOU need to move somewhere more isolated not the people living more normla
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Why should I? Heating the oven makes my hot kitchen even hotter. And there's also the fact that my neighbours are empty fields...

I seriously doubt he's been bbqing twice a day every day for 4 weeks. How much free time do you both have for all that cooking and watching of said cooking?

Doesn't that also apply to people who expect their washing to take priority over other people's BBQs? What about if someone is cooking inside with an open window and it smells?

Hanging washing in the garden doesn’t stink out other peoples’ homes. HTH

Not if those things are harmful to people’s health. Smoke from coal BBQs is really harmful. In my area they are already banned from public spaces and strongly discouraged from being used in private gardens. If you have to, get a gas or electric bbq.

I mean she might be neighbours with my friends brother. He cooks every dinner rain or shine on the bbq and lunch if his home. Though he would be insulted op called it a bbq and not braii

But OP is not talking about a bbq on a few decent days.
Her neighbour is stinking out the neighborhood all day every day.

OP wouldn't be here complaining if it was now and again. Why should her house permanently smell like sausages? Why can't her neighbour give the rest of the houses the odd day off?

If he is doing it twice a day and has been for 4 weeks perhaps they are having their kitchen redone and it's their only means of cooking at present. As you aren't prepared to speak to him you just don't know.

Environmental health won't care but good luck if you want to try that route!

That does sound like an excessive amount of bbq’s I would be annoyed too, luckily my neighbours seem to only have the occasional one.

I’ve got awful loud music from my ndn and I don’t even want to be out in my garden

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But as it stands, he's not breaking the law (and we don't even know that it's a coal BBQ).

If OP wants to campaign to ban BBQ's then great, but until then, you can't tell people that they can't do something legal on their own property.

I wouldn't think they'd be very interested if you've made no attempt to communicate with him.

Doing it twice a day every day is too much in my opinion. Generally though we cook outside if the weather is nice and I’d do it several times a week with a clear conscience. I don’t find our neighbours hugely considerate overall, so I don’t care about their washing.

When you live surrounded by other people, you have to accept that they will do things that annoy you.

Unless he's doing something illegal, there's nothing that can be done about it.

But there is illegal and then there is unreasonable, unneighbourly and inconsiderate.

They do.

Or via smoke signals.

When it’s decent weather, we use our BBQ maybe 3/4 nights out of 7. And the odd bacon breakfast over the weekend. We have a gas bbq and my washing has never smelled of food/smoke. We have a very average size garden. I’m not talking about long full afternoons of constant bbq’ing like entertaining, but just cooking our food and switching off. It’s a very healthy and tasty way to cook!

But people are allowed to be inconsiderate - that's my point.

Nobody is the perfect neighbour - we all do things that piss other people off, and it's not like this weather will last forever.

It seems very MN to hate BBQ's in gardens but I honestly don't have the energy to get so worked up over nothing.

I have just lit my BBQ so OP

I think the whole point of OP's post is not the BBQ per se, it's the frequency.

If you live in a built up area, barbequing all day every day is a selfish thing to do.
They're " allowed to be inconsiderate" ...well yeah, nobody is gonna drag them off to jail for being a selfish twat.

But the neighbour is still a selfish twat and OP has my sympathies.

Exactly. I don’t BBQ 4 times a day and the whole house is in bed by 10pm. But I do have kids who are out in the garden when it’s nice and have a trampoline/ occasional
paddling pool. I used to live near some students who made not a sound during the day but in the summer had parties until 2/3 am on a Friday night. I now live rurally (in a sort of small hamlet) but of the neighbours I do have (1) has “vintage” cars which make a terrible noise and smell like a ferry when he gets them going, (2) has a dog which is a bit barky, (3) we barely see but I’m forever being disturbed by their Amazon deliveries when I work from home. But we all get along fine because we accept that we are all probably wind each other up at times.

It doesn’t

Even OP says he doesn't do it all day. It's twice a day to cook food. It's hardly a massive deal.

Would you criticise someone for cooking with their back doors open in the same way?