Would this upset you? Mother of Groom

[Weddingspeechsad]

Would you be upset if your son got married and made a speech and thanked both families. Thanks Mum and Dad for everything and brides family for welcoming him into it.

Bride then stands up and does a speech. Thanks both families and grooms parents for welcoming her into their family and being kind. Then does a whole section on her Mum and how much she loves her, how there’s not usually any special moment for mother of the bride in the wedding so special mention for all of the help she’s given.

would you feel upset and singled out as mother of groom? For context I’ve really tried with her, invite them over for lunch and takeaway but always too busy. She is always pleasant enough but quite prickly. Myself and his dad both gave approx £1k each (divorced) towards wedding. Feeling quite hurt but not sure if AIBU.

Sounds fairly misogynistic. Why is it the DIL’s responsibility to make the speech and not the son’s?

Sorry but your relationship with your DILs will not replace the relationship they have with their own mothers (unless they have a bad / no relationship with them).

It is not for your DIL to talk about how special you are in her wedding speech. It’s for your own son to do that, so you would need to take it up with him rather than expect praise from your DIL.

Of course you’re unreasonable. You aren’t her mother and she is thanking the woman who birthed and raised her.