Is this an awful wedding guest dress?!

[Bumblingbee101]

Looking for opinions! I'm a mum of 2 little children and rarely go to events anymore, both children under 4, size 14-16, 5.3 and wanted something that hid my legs and tops of arms and skimmed over tummy so that I felt slightly more comfortable. I've always had reasonable success with Monsoon dresses and found this in the sale. I've been told by brides friends to all send photos of our outfits (unsure why!) And that I cannot wear this and will upstage her. I asked if it was anything like her dress and they said not even remotely close! I read all the reviews before purchasing and most have worn this dress as a wedding guest! Is it my poor taste?!

Not in the least bridal. Some posters have been to some very strange weddings to form that opinion.

Do they mean it’s not suitable because it’s an evening dress? The other Monsoon dresses posted are clearly day dresses. Maybe it’s the evening style embellishments?

Op I’m considering this dress for a wedding in August. I’m 25 yrs older than you and I want to cover my arms and legs and be able to dance. The wedding colors are sage blush and cream. We favor long dresses at weddings becuse they are comfy elegant and special occasion There are literally thousands of long dresses on Saks Nordstrom and Neiman Marcus websites so surely a floor length dress is not considered bridesmaidy. And unless these wedding attire regulators are picking out and paying for your dress and watching and amusing your children while you get leisurely dressed hair and makeup they don’t have a say in what you or anyone else wears to a wedding.

It is incredibly rude of her to veto a dress, particularly one that you have already bought. Also wasteful. I'd be rescinding my acceptance of the invitation.

What on earth are you on about???
Fuck sake, the batshittyness on this site gets worse by the day!

I find it a bit bridesmaidy, sorry. For leg coverage/tummy skimming (my problem areas!) I find jumpsuits very useful. I wore one to work in a vibrant pink this week and was told how great it looked (secondhand Vinted, I am an addict!)

There are some nice looking ones on Next, less likely than a long dress to swamp you at 5’3. https://www.next.co.uk/shop/gender-women/category-jumpsuit-use-occasionwear?gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=172755351&gbraid=0AAAAADm_5UUVoCltxS-kAHaEtRntXUPSK&gclid=Cj0KCQjwlYHBBhD9ARIsALRu09puJIDyazBZWeDJW0m8meJvLFUlImGVahfOpUW3ac9fovgT0tvjAwEaAtBCEALw_wcB&p=4#927.328125

The problem is that you have now been asked not to wear this - bit weird, but you are a bit stuck.

I would at least ask what colour the bridesmaid will be in.. Who knows, maybe it's identical to what the mother is wearing or something.

It's nice, and I suspect in real life not bridal but the photos are different.

My aunt wore a floor length pale creamy dress to my wedding, it looked quite summery and casual in real life but in the group photos it genuinely looks like two brides.

@LavenderandbrownUsa isn’t the uk. If it’s a day wedding, and the guests are expected to wear daywear, you don’t normally wear an evening dress. If the invitation specifies evening wear or black tie or white tie, you know where you stand. If it’s lounge suits for men then usually it’s not embellished evening wear for women. In this case, it could be that’s the issue.

Send a pic of something truly unsuitable, then wear what you like 😂

@Bumblingbee101
The bridal party want to veto and approve guests outfits? WTAF?

The dress isn’t my style but I really cannot see how a blue/grey embroidered dress is going to upstage a designer bride and green/pink bridesmaids. Perhaps if they want to dictate your dress they could pay for it as well.

Lovely dress , perhaps it’s very similar colour / style to the bridesmaids ? If it is I have some sympathy but if it isn’t it screams of bidezilla behaviour ! Perhaps you could ask said brides friend the reason why it isn’t suitable.

I was a flower girl when I was about 5 years old. The dress that I wore looks almost identical to this. I'm going to have to dig out a picture and see if I can find it.

Having said that, I think it's fine. It's much more modest than something that I would wear but there are lots of people who dress more modestly than I do. I don't think it looks in the least bit bridle and I don't think you're going to upstage the bride in any way.

As an aside, I notice that y'all say that you got something "in the sale." Is there one big sale a year there?

I'm 5'3 and size 14
My suggestion is next and filter the brand of dresses to "yours curve"

Reading through these comments, I've never heard before that you shouldn't wear a full length dress to a wedding? I've worn loads of full length dresses to weddings and also like a little sleeve over the tops of my arms but tend to go for V necks and darker colours, like navy blue.

Leaving aside the nonsense of having your outfit approved - I think it’s too pale and long and a bit like a bridesmaids dress. However the right accessories, shoes and bag would make a difference.

https://www.sportsdirect.com/images/imgzoom/32/32221015_xxl.jpg
Yumi £15 at sports direct. Look up flutter sleeve dresses.
https://direct.asda.com/george/women/dresses/red-poppy-v-neck-flutter-sleeve-midi-dress/GEM1285137,default,pd.html?cgid=D1M1G20C1
Asda £24.

I feel its a pretty dress. However I would not wear it for a wedding no.long dresses would be a no go for me I think

Personally it’s a no from me but just because I feel like I’d be dressing up as Wendy from Peter Pan, really.

Everyday a school day. New mn rule that long dress is inappropriate at wedding

Is it white?

I think white is traditionally not worn by women guests.

There is no such rule. Traditional or contemporary
The dress is clearly pastel blue you can see that in the photo

It's blue.

It’s lovely, wear it and take no notice of them! (or don’t go, which is what I’d probably do 😂)

I can’t believe the comments from the bride’s friends or the people on here. All I can say is, people absolutely lose their minds over weddings.

I don't agree with this sending pictures of guests dresses to be scrutinized, it's ridiculous. I think the dress is gorgeous but I wonder if it's been deemed too 'bridesmaid like' by the brides friends. It's pale in colour, full length and could easily be worn as a bridesmaid dress. I would suggest going for a dress either knee or midi length, rather than maxi.

I wonder if the groom wants to veto all the men’s outfits.
This is taking Bridezilla to a whole new level.