Is this an awful wedding guest dress?!

[Bumblingbee101]

Looking for opinions! I'm a mum of 2 little children and rarely go to events anymore, both children under 4, size 14-16, 5.3 and wanted something that hid my legs and tops of arms and skimmed over tummy so that I felt slightly more comfortable. I've always had reasonable success with Monsoon dresses and found this in the sale. I've been told by brides friends to all send photos of our outfits (unsure why!) And that I cannot wear this and will upstage her. I asked if it was anything like her dress and they said not even remotely close! I read all the reviews before purchasing and most have worn this dress as a wedding guest! Is it my poor taste?!

I didn’t say it was white, I said it looked almost white. Close to white. A few others have said similar.

Also, people do worry about how the photos will appear, as well as considering the day itself.

If you have a link to the monsoon site that would be helpful OP.

That’s really not factual
Bright light it’ll reflect its true colour, blue

Insane they expect you to seek approval but I agree the length and shape of it to me says bridesmaid or bridal- if the bride is wearing a long straight dress I’d think it would look similar. I think it’s gorgeous though!

Yes, pale colours do look white in bright sunlight. In photos especially.

Hi all! So I won't be donning a gimp suit this time 🤣 but will style it out with something!

@alwaysamused your not chief bridesmaid are you?! I understand it's not for everyone but as reviews on the website state it's been used by many others as a wedding guest outfit! I was checking in as I've never had to send photos in before! It's also darker in real life! I really want to hide my tummy and legs (being a postpartum mum) which is why I went for something long, you would know this if you had read my post properly!

If you lovely lot have any links to other dresses that are not too clingy or frumpy please post!

i doubt it will upstage the bride but it is very “look at me, I wanted to be a bridesmaid” rather than a wedding guest dress. I think the photo you chose makes it look more like a day dress but it looks even more bridesmaidy in the other pics.

It’s nics

And the award for best screenwriter goes to…
You’ve added a made up narrative to support your spurious points.

Why do I suspect you haven't actually left the house or had real life human contact in at least a decade?

OP. It's completely weird that you were asked to send photos. I think the dress is fine, although probably wouldn't wear floor length unless it was a very formal wedding. If you were at the hen party, are you close enough to the bride to just ask her?

For links, what's your budget?

Brides friends want to police everyone outfits!! Good Lord, every time I read something about a wedding recently it gets even more batshit. If there is a risk of clashing that's so troubling surely the bridesmaids photos should be circulated to everyone as a precaution. Or better still the bridal party gets over themselves and enjoys the day.

Fwiw I love the dress.

To be honest I agree with the person who said it looks like a nightie, I think it would suit someone tall and slim with flowing hair and an etherial quality, I agree it could easily make you look frumpy.
There’s a thread on ‘shopping’ on here with someone needing a new mother of the bride dress, I know that’s not what you want but there have been some really lovely dresses suggested on there, take a look.

It's pretty. Does it come in other colours? And brides don't get to choose guests outfits in my book. I have never been told what to wear, even when I was mother of the groom!

I have never seen a bridesmaid wear anything remotely like that! It’s a pretty standard summer dress. It’s absolutely fine, go for it!

Literally everybody doesn’t know (look up the word literally).

It doesn’t look bridal unless the bride is having a very understated wedding, in which case any dress or outfit could be mistaken for the bride’s. The bride isn't having an understated wedding, she’s going all out with a designer dress.

As well as compliments, this dress has also been described as frumpy and hideous. If this dress can upstage or get confused with the bride, why fork out a small fortune for a designer wedding gown if this high street number is serious competition?

Very bold indeed.

Agreed what a load of crap. MN and its minefield of wedding guest outfit etiquette! Brides are so precious lately. I’ve been to lots of wedding and there’s always some female guests, that aren’t bridesmaids, wearing a ‘quite bridesmaid’ style dress, if there’s such a thing. Full length wedding guest dresses are all over instagram being suggested as wedding guest dresses, this year, it’s the fashion at the moment. Can’t a guest glam up and wear a long dress if she wants to?! As long is not the exact same as the actual bridesmaid

Look even Pippa Middleton didn’t get confused with the bride and she wore white!

Have you approved or vetoed these so called friends outfits as well? Other people's weddings are a 5 minute wonder. Tell the friends that nobody in the real world cares what other people wear, they are just happy that their family and friends are there to celebrate with them.

It is possible that it looks similar to the bridesmaids' dresses (and you have said they are two colours so a third colour, in the same tone, might be 'confusing'). But why not say that rather than the "upstage the bride" comment?

I wouldn't attend a wedding where the Bride had that much of a stick up her arse that she has to vet everyone's outfits beforehand. That's not the type of person I want in my life tbh.
The dress is nice. A tiny touch bridally but as it's so covered up i don't see how it could be accused of "attempting to upstage the bride".
Personally if I was the bride I wouldn't really care. If other guests wanted to pass little comments "ooooo that's a bit bridal that dress?" Then that's on them.

Not really. It was a v hot country and appropriate attire. Bride knew I was wearing it,she’s seen the dress before. I didn’t discuss or seek permission. Have worn ivory to weddings as a guest. My ivory dress didn’t upstage or detract

All eyes are front,on the bride.shes the woman with the flowers and tiara and bubbling groom

Tell me you were a bridezilla without telling me you were a bridezilla.

BTW it’s not bridal, it’s irrefutable that if you wore something similar as the bride, you were quite odd.

OP should wear the blue dress, no question.

But a long, ivory, silk dress at a wedding?! That’s just rude.

So the bride is wearing something "not remotely like" your dress and the bridesmaids are in pink and green. I fail to see how your pale blue dress is such a problem that you'll upstage the bride!

I think you should demand to see the bride's friends' outfits before you agree to change yours. Maybe they're wearing the kind of voluminous 'Amish-style' frumpy sack that's sometimes posted here as an example of great taste!

I think you omitted to say Stylish,understated and appropriate
Rude would be taking a loud phone call. Rude would be heckling. A dress is not rude, behaviour is rude