Is this an awful wedding guest dress?!

[Bumblingbee101]

Looking for opinions! I'm a mum of 2 little children and rarely go to events anymore, both children under 4, size 14-16, 5.3 and wanted something that hid my legs and tops of arms and skimmed over tummy so that I felt slightly more comfortable. I've always had reasonable success with Monsoon dresses and found this in the sale. I've been told by brides friends to all send photos of our outfits (unsure why!) And that I cannot wear this and will upstage her. I asked if it was anything like her dress and they said not even remotely close! I read all the reviews before purchasing and most have worn this dress as a wedding guest! Is it my poor taste?!

Don't send any more photos of potential dresses and wear whatever you damm want!

FRUMPY

Agree

Love this so much.

I don’t think you would be upstaging anyone in your choice and it’s a pretty colour.
This one from next has sleeves and belt if any help, my friend wore it to a wedding and said it was comfy and she looked lovely in the pictures
https://www.next.co.uk/style/su695078/an3141#an3141

It doesn't look remotely "bridal" to me. I've never in my life seen a bride wear a dress like this one.

@Bumblingbee101if you like the dress, you should wear it.

It’s lovely, the only issue I could see is if the bridesmaids were going to be in a similar colour, but if they’re not I would just ignore and wear it anyway. I can’t believe guests are being asked to send outfits for approval, unbelievable!

Honestly I would just have replied “no idea what I’m wearing yet, I’ll probably decide the day before 😘.”

Ffs 🙄

Looks tasteful, lovely, and comfortable!

You and me both!

This is a whole new level of control! And if the attitude was “don’t come then, it’s my rules. I wouldn’t go”. Having said that, none of my friends or family are that shallow.

Imagine if this was a man dictating to a woman what she could wear? But it’s ok woman to woman… no it’s not!

The sooner this nonsense stops the better.

Should’ve quoted @Heronwatcher

Drama llama you say……

Ahh yes wedding guest outfit. Always a fucking minefield if you’re a woman. It’s probably too light in colour and may photograph close to white?? Or it’s a bit too bridesmaid like? That’s my guess. Personally I think it looks frumpy and I’m sure there’s nicer dresses out there that will make you feel comfortable and appease bridezilla.

I’m not being rude, but if that dress will
upstage the bride then she has much bigger problems.

it’s a Bog standard wedding guest dress.

I don't think there's anything at all wrong with the dress OP but I have recently purchased the attached for a wedding and find it very flattering, I have the same problem areas!

I think we’ve found the friend..

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/abbie-petite-dress-100024430010.html?gad_source=1&utm_source=rakutenmarketing&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=2740319%3ACafe%20La%20Moda&utm_content=10&utm_term=uknetwork&ranMID=44103&ranEAID=rkRbnuKbEU8&ranSiteID=rkRbnuKbEU8-q6ccB58PBP_kt5xEU4pOxw

Link if my image doesn't work!

Oh my God I’m going to a wedding this week too and the invite said “if you are unsure of your outfit, please send it to the bride to check”. Have you ever heard anything like it?! I’ve never even met her, I know the groom. Just absolutely wild. This dress is also fine to wear and really pretty!

I like Nobodys Child dresses and Hope and Ivy dresses

This is one of my favourites and you can rent it......https://www.nobodyschild.com/products/blue-watercolour-floral-anya-midi-dress-d250605mlt?_gl=141mss5_upMQ.._gs*MQ..&gclid=Cj0KCQjwlYHBBhD9ARIsALRu09r1EMDHY-Yh84bn1-Q2yIaWvq35ZbbV87MocqCNHgW5tjbJR_W6tocaAmkZEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds&gbraid=0AAAAADQCJIU7mRVdP16nNoFs-BICbhi76

Too bridesmaid-y in my opinion, because it’s floor length, floaty and embellished / embroidered rather than print. Very close to a classic bridesmaids dress because it’s so formal …

There are lots of midi and maxi, sleeved dresses in Monsoon sale that don’t look bridesmaid like though

https://www.monsoon.co.uk/rowan-floral-wrap-midi-dress-blue-20002380142.html

https://www.monsoon.co.uk/imogen-ruffle-dress-purple-20000670011.html

https://www.monsoon.co.uk/rowena-ruffle-dress-green-10001040008.html

https://www.monsoon.co.uk/jane-floral-print-midi-dress-green-20002970008.html

I’ve never encountered this trend of brides policing guest’s outfits personally but based on some of what I see suggested on here as suitable wedding guest attire I guess it’s somewhat understandable. When was it that grown adults lost the ability to choose appropriate clothing for social situations?
OP the dress code for weddings is daywear unless specifically advised otherwise. That looks like a bridesmaids dress.

It doesn’t make sense to me that they said you absolutely can’t wear it because it will upstage the bride, but they have also said that it’s not remotely like her dress. So are they just saying it’s too nice?! I find it very odd that they would be so blunt and not put it more diplomatically, clearly and politely.

I couldn't agree more, although it looks like some bridezillas members of the bridal party have joined this thread and absolutely insist that it is too bridal looking

They are being ridiculous.

They may not want to be rude..unlike you! What a nasty thing to say!