Is this an awful wedding guest dress?!

[Bumblingbee101]

Looking for opinions! I'm a mum of 2 little children and rarely go to events anymore, both children under 4, size 14-16, 5.3 and wanted something that hid my legs and tops of arms and skimmed over tummy so that I felt slightly more comfortable. I've always had reasonable success with Monsoon dresses and found this in the sale. I've been told by brides friends to all send photos of our outfits (unsure why!) And that I cannot wear this and will upstage her. I asked if it was anything like her dress and they said not even remotely close! I read all the reviews before purchasing and most have worn this dress as a wedding guest! Is it my poor taste?!

Floor legnth and pale blue so almost looks white colour so no I wouldn't weather it as a wedding guest.

Wow, I think it’s absolutely preposterous for a friend of the bride to ‘vet’ everyone’s attire before a wedding, really don’t know what to say about it! It’s not white and they aren’t the bride therefore I would just say it’s not their place at all to dictate what you can and can’t wear. Does the bride know that a so called friend is going around telling people not to wear pretty dresses because they will ‘upstage’ her, what a shitty thing to say about the bride!

I expect it is because it may appear white in flash photos which does actually look a bit odd (like 2 brides). I wouldn’t have cared at all at my wedding but I can kind of see why people might. I would steer clear personally xx

I would only expect to see full length dresses on the bridal party. Midi or knee length is more usual for a guest.

But I also wouldn’t go to a wedding where someone insisted on policing my outfit choices, that’s insane.

It’s a pretty dress.
For anyone confused The bride is the woman standing at the front,next to the groom. The one you’re all watching. It’s really not hard
A guest in pastel won’t flummox the other guests

I would be changing my RSVP to no at this stage.

I wouldn't have even bothered sending a photo. I have no time for that nonsense and if it resulted in the invite being revoked, then I'd presume I'd swerved a ridiculous wedding.

If you like it, then wear it. It looks perfectly reasonable for a wedding guest to wear. If anyone is confused about who the bride is, then they have much bigger issues and I'd suggest they see a doctor.

I did a quick glance and it appears white on my phone. Maybe she assumed that it is paler than reality?

My friend got married in a similar dress, so maybe bride has a similar style, so along with the colour it's too much?

Wild that you have to show it for pre-approval! I'd resent it, and probably think a touch less of my friend.

That dress looks totally unsuitable to me, far too much like a wedding dress or bridesmaid dress. It is not a guest dress, it is a 'centre of attention' dress. Sorry, I am with the bride on this one and amazed at some of the responses on here.

You've been told not to wear it, so that's that.

I mean, you can go ahead and cause a problem and centre yourself and start a drama llama ding dong. Or you could not go. Or you could just wear another dress since it's not your wedding and, whether you agree with it or not, wearing this one will cause issues.

I don't agree with asking to see what guests are wearing in advance. But it's not my wedding. Or yours.

I have worn ivory long silk slip dress to a wedding. No one was upstaged. Guests were not confused
i didn’t wear a bolero or a shrug, I boldened it out in ivory

Just to add, it is a bit weird the OP is pretending not to understand that the dress definitely looks bridal.

It’s lovely.

It’s a lovely dress but not really a wedding GUEST dress.

I've never understood this 'no pale dresses at weddings' business. No one's going to mistake OP for the bride.

That said, sounds like there's some Bridezilla-ing going on, dress choices being vetted and vetoed is ridiculous. I'd be tempted to wear it anyway just to say 'up yours' - I wouldn't actually do so, but I'd feel like it.

That’s a perfectly normal guest dress and wouldn’t outshine a bride…

Maybe that's because different people have different opinions? 🤔

Agree with all this. I think it’s very frumpy.

Great dress. If anyone wants a say over what you wear to a wedding, they can pay for it!

She sounds like a Bridezillsa, insisting on seeing everyone's outfit. I don't see anything wrong with it but I'm someone who believes guests should be welcome what very they are wearing.

Nah. It literally looks bridal. You know it, she knows it, that's just a fact.

😲

This reminds of that episode of Schitts Creek when David asks Alexis if she’s wear a wedding dress to his wedding, and she tuts and rolls her eyes and says “Nooo David. It’s a white floor length gown…”

Don't talk daft. She's getting a free meal, and a day out, probably free alcohol as well. She can definitely pay for her own dress.

Her other option is not to go, of course. Or ignore what she's been told so she makes sure she is the centre of attention.

No it really doesn't. Possibly a bit of a bridesmaidy vibe but not 'bridal'.

I wouldn't be attending the wedding of anyone who vetted my outfit beforehand. Outrageous behaviour!

I honestly don't think it looks bridal. It's blue with a pattern on.