To ask if I’m eating enough? **PLEASE READ OP'S RECENT POSTS BEFORE RESPONDING** Title edited by MNHQ

[mummytoonetryingfortwo]

I posted in the week about my husband being against me continuing to exercise, as I am pregnant with twins. We moved past that (I thought) after agreeing that I would stop running, start swimming and doing pregnancy specific workouts such as yoga and Pilates. We clashed on this because I had a bleed, just before I found out I was pregnant, and because it took us a long time to conceive.

My first pregnancy, I was young and at university, I was very unhealthy in my diet and gained a lot of weight, which I started to lose when my daughter was about 6 months old. Since then, I’ve been very responsible with my diet and activity. I’ve always focussed on fuelling myself properly and keeping active.

My husband is now concerned that I am not eating enough. My normal day of eating will look something like this:

Breakfast - full fat Greek yoghurt, berries, nuts, a small amount of honey, and chia seeds OR wholemeal sourdough toast (from a bakery, not the supermarket), avocado, scrambled eggs (made with real butter) and tomatoes on the side.

Lunch - some combination of a lean protein, vegetables and a carb. Rice, salmon and a salad with a soy sauce dressing has been something I’ve been craving lately.

Dinner - again, a protein, vegetables and a carb. We tend to cycle through steaks, chicken, lots of charred greens, rice or pasta.

Snacks - I have made a concerted effort to add more snacks because of the fact I’m pregnant. I’ll have veggies with hummus, celery sticks or apple with peanut butter, sometimes some chocolate or just fruit, but not that often.

I’ve counted calories for the last three days to show him I’m eating, and I’m hitting about 1800 to 2000 calories a day. He thinks this isn’t enough, and that I’ll be losing weight. Is this enough?

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No, they wouldn’t - seriously! I’m slim and I can think of many things far, far, far worse than getting fat!

Why don’t you weigh yourself to see if you’re at least maintaining weight? Not sure about how rapid weight gain is expected to be in twin pregnancies, however you def shouldn’t be losing weight at this early stage and the only way to answer your OP is to weigh yourself.

Looking back at your previous posts, I think you said you thought you'd maybe maintained at 8 stone - so you're nearly through the first trimester and haven't gained any weight.

The source I looked up suggested you should have gained 5-8 pounds by now, and that if you're starting from a relatively low weight, your total gain should be 50-62 pounds, 37-54 if starting from a normal weight.

“Most practitioners advise women who start their twin pregnancy at a normal weight to gain 37 to 54 pounds. You should gain a little more if you were underweight (between 50 and 62 pounds) and a little less if you were overweight (between 31 and 50 pounds). If you have a body mass index of 30 or greater, you should gain between 25 and 42 pounds. That's nearly 50 percent more than what's recommended in a singleton pregnancy (talk about heavy lifting!). Gaining pregnancy weight can be challenging and sometimes scary, but it's only temporary. Dropping 30 pounds two weeks after delivering twins is not uncommon. All that excess fluid (extra blood volume, amniotic fluid and water weight) — not to mention the weight of your babies themselves — goes away rather quickly after birth.”

https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/twins-and-multiples/carrying-more-than-one/managing-your-weight.aspx

Even your expected weight gain is unrealistic, OP. As I said in a previous post, the weight will drop off quickly after birth.

I know you said you're going private, presumably with a twin pregnancy and early bleeding you must be getting regular appointments? Just talk to the healthcare professionals about this, please - look at it this way, if they agree with you then if nothing else it'll put your husband's mind at rest.

I won’t be gaining four stone. Thank you.

What is the point of this post if you don’t actually want opinions?
Just eat normally and when you’re hungry eat. It’s kinda that simple.
Why is there so much mental gymnastics going into something very straightforward

A size 10 isn't far, fyi it sounds like you DO have disordered eating consider the nhs instead of private for mental health support

I think it’s highly unlikely that your husband has worries about both your exercise and diet for no reason. Given that he likely knows you better than anyone, I’d suggest there are ways you are presenting that are making him feel concerned for you. Having read all your replies on here I wouldn’t find that surprising as while you clearly eat very healthily, your rigid thinking about food and weight gain even when pregnant is worrying.

You don't know that. It is what it is. That's what the recommended weight gain should be 50 to 62 lb It doesn't matter how much you put on. Why are you so obsessed with this. Just enjoy your pregnancy.

How about 2.5 stone then how do you feel about that?

Disgusted.

Why disgusted. That normal.

I hope you are on the wind up OP

Then you have a real issue OP that you need help with because that is the MINIMUM recommended weight gain for a twin pregnancy for a healthy weight adult.

if that is something that disgusts you please listen to the thread and get help

You will gain weight during pregnancy as the baby, increase in blood volume, amniotic fluid and weight of the placenta will lead to an increase of at least 2 stone.
The baby alone should weigh 7-8oz on average (some babies weigh more) when born so that is almost a stone in itself.
If you didn't gain any weight you would be at serious risk of miscarriage, stillbirth or ill health (pressure on heart due to not eating enough, etc) so yes your attitude is concerning.
You should gain between 2-3 stone minimum and a midwife at your low weight would probably be concerned with your attitude.

You don’t have to enjoy it to do it. Being ten and a half stone will put me firmly into the overweight category. Nobody enjoys being overweight.

@chatgptsbestmate

it might be his baby too, but it’s her body and hers alone.

You will be pregnant with twins not overweight

listen if you are real you need urgent help and support

but I hope you aren’t because frankly your poor DD is going to have a lifetime of issues with a mother like you

Yes, someone prioritising fitness and being a healthy weight is a bad mother. What’s disgusting thing to say.

You won't be overweight you are carrying and growing a baby.

I know a woman who had quite a few miscarriages due to her eating disorders. It's not uncommon. I think if you can put any phobias or fixations with weight to one side for the benefit of your children, you'll be safer.

@mummytoonetryingfortwo

“We were both very sporty, and when I found out, he immediately left his own societies (off his own back) to get two part time jobs so that he could save to support me and the baby after uni. He will often bring this up, and say he didn't do that for nothing (AKA, for me to lose these babies)”

omg, so does he want you to sit on the sofa for 9 months stuffing for face in order to justify his immense sacrifice at having to give up his societies at uni??!

Your diet is fine OP and you don’t need to give up running

no it really isn’t. Giving your daughter the impression that being a size 10 is fat and disgusting and that the worst thing in the world is to be fat is setting her up for a lifetime of issues.

Your attitude towards cake and sugar is going to cause damage to her

because (and I don’t know how old she is) what happens if your daughter is a size 12? Or bigger

@Mamansparkles

NO ONE should be eating cake EVERY day