Is sending me money a red flag?

[Kenyaparks]

So I’ve been talking to this man for about a month now. We’ve done loads of phone and video calls. He lives out of state but he happens to live in the state that I’m moving to in a couple months. He is also coming out to where I am to visit me before I move out there.

I jokingly asked him for coffee money and he sent me some, I told him jokingly that it wasn’t enough and he ended up sending me more money? It was all jokes I didn’t think he was going to obviously do it, I definitely appreciate it. I was in the store today and I told him he should by a watch from the store I was at? He asked me if I wanted it and that he would send me the money… I obviously declined the offer.

is it a red flag that he’s sending me money and hasn’t met me yet ?

You’re the red flag. The guy needs to run a mile.

I believe there is a word for women who trade sexual behaviour for money. You've probably heard it before. Let's just say, well done love, you've found yourself a paypig. Let's just hope the whole situation doesn't backfire on you.

He needs your name, address, to set up credit cards, loans etc. in your name. 🙄

You’re the red flag. You are taking advantage.

unless it’s some strange pay pig situation 😂🫣

Your 'jokes' are the red flag. Hope he sees sense before you fleece him

You asked HIM for money first.

was he supposed to say NO?

You
put him in an awkward situation, he did what he thought YOU wanted. Now you are accusing him of misbehavior.

Huge red flags here and not from him.

Stop dressing you fleecing a stranger’s ‘joking’ - you’re the scammer

This in spades.

You are the OG Rdd Flag.
This would never happen to me as I dont go round shit testing people and begging for things.

You’re on a UK website - cash app isn’t a thing here.

You sound as though you need to put some serious work into boundaries. Not only from other people but for yourself as well.

You both sound exceptionally immature and not remotely in the right place to be having a mature relationship. He is clearly insecure and controlling and you don’t seem to see that begging for money from a stranger is grabby, entitled and poor mannered. It’s not a joke to financially take advantage of people. Your behaviour is just completely inappropriate as is his.

The red flag here is that he’s a romance scammer and is playing the long game.

I'm not sure I buy into the scammer idea. The OP started this by asking for money. If he was sending it out of the blue certainly. But the OP has set the tone for this. You can't tell from a written message that someone is joking, how was he to know?

OP I think you should end this. And when you meet someone else online don't play childish games with them.

Red flag for any relationship is you complaining to strangers online about a bloke you met 4 weeks ago.
If you don't like him just walk away.
Also, stop begging strangers for money ffs

OMG this is just weird.

Alarm bells should be ringing.

Seriously I think you should get rid. He seems quite intense for the amount of time you have known him and doesn't seem to have boundaries.

For your own safety I'd get rid.

Its giving
"I'm not a murderer, honest..."

vibes.

You want to know how far you can rinse your paypig before you have to 'do' anything. Grotesque.

A "joke" in which you included your bank details?

Then how would he be able to send money ?!

Paypal, Zelle and several other apps don't need bank details, just email address or phone number, which he presumably has.

What a hilarious joke. Not.
Greedy guts.
You get nothing for nothing, prepare for the consequences.

Think the OP is in the US not UK as she’s mentioned something called Cash App which I’ve previously heard of watching Catfish - which seems appropriate here.

This man sounds vulnerable, and you keep asking him for money.

You think you could send money via internet banking in the 70s?!?! lol.

Yikes, I googled Findom and you asking a young woman to enter a sex slavery situation for money is very, very dodgy.

Both OP and the man she is getting money from are massive red flags but OP at least has enough of a self-preservative instinct to figure out that she has more to lose if she lets this man further into her life.

By the same token, OP can return the money.