Is sending me money a red flag?

[Kenyaparks]

So I’ve been talking to this man for about a month now. We’ve done loads of phone and video calls. He lives out of state but he happens to live in the state that I’m moving to in a couple months. He is also coming out to where I am to visit me before I move out there.

I jokingly asked him for coffee money and he sent me some, I told him jokingly that it wasn’t enough and he ended up sending me more money? It was all jokes I didn’t think he was going to obviously do it, I definitely appreciate it. I was in the store today and I told him he should by a watch from the store I was at? He asked me if I wanted it and that he would send me the money… I obviously declined the offer.

is it a red flag that he’s sending me money and hasn’t met me yet ?

You are the reg flag his friends should be warning him about. Stop asking and then pretending it's a joke. You're a money grabber. Own it

It's time you grew up @Kenyaparks .

I think you both deserve a big 🚩 each

Spot on. Id be concerned he was racking up 'you owe me' credit....to be cashed in later.
You shouldn't be asking him for money. I don't like taking from guys because I absolutely don't want to be in their debt.

Yeah, you're weird.

You don't sound very nice. Send him the money back and apologise

like others said you are the red flag and I would advise he stays away from anyone who asks him for money

You jokingly asked for money... but also jokingly gave your bank details?

Not sure HE is the red flag

He is testing you out maybe?

Many a scam starts by someone sendi g you a small amount of money to gain teust, or simply get your bank details and address to steal your identity.

REPEATEDLY 'jokingly' asked for money. Even after the first time, when he sent her some and then refused to accept it back.

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No it’s a red flag that you are asking a man for money you have never met. Send the money back if it’s a “joke”. It’s not a joke.

I am guessing he is a lot older and/or not attractive. This is only a red flag for a guy who is lonely and wants to keep your interest. Its also very likely he comes from another culture where this shameless behavior is expected from women (Asia, Russia and former UsSR this normal to get the many to pay for as much as they can, but in my culture it’s extremely low class)

I thought of this but too lat now. Such an idiot and sounds proud of being trash.

at least prostitutes are honest. This “only joking” is a red flag for manipulative dishonest and no class or morals

Are you by any chance an African Prince?

So he knows where you are moving? The exact address?

You are a rebound and he sounds clingy, jealous and desperate. There are a million men in the states, find another one :)

You are a red flag. Who asks for money (jokingly or not)?!

I think you are the problem.

Can't speak for op, but a lot of places and a lot of banks have apps where you can send money via app just by knowing their phone number. I'd imagine they're using something like Venmo, Mobile pay.

As a male I would say you were the red flag, that would be a straight no if someone asked for money, I'm nice but not a mug.

The only answer!

You are definitely coming across as the red flag here.

You are in the wrong as you asked him for money. Why would you do that? Don't say it was a joke - you don't know him well enough to make jokes like that.

He is controlling and I think having anything more to do with him will cause you a lot of problems not too far down the line. I'd cut all communication with him and I'd go back over my messages to recall exactly what you said about where you were going to live, and I'd make a different choice if possible.

You are both waving those red flags so high that neither of you can see them!
In all your comments you come across as not being that interested and pointing out all his faults but yet you take money off him. It doesn’t matter if it was for a coffee, a watch or a bloody island, if you have to ask if there are red flags then you really shouldn’t be talking to the poor lad.

Why are you entertaining this if you already know it’s weird? I don’t get it.

You’re both odd.

I totally agree. He sounds very controlling and potentially dangerous and I think OP may be vulnerable