To be getting second hand embarrassment because my DH is wearing sandals!

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For the first time since I’ve known him, my 43 year old DH has bought himself some sandals. I don’t know why but they make me cringe. I think sandals on men look so naff and ‘old man’.

I’ve put a photo of the pair he has bought on this post.

AIBU or do they look really naff and embarrassing?!

I need to know what home educated people wear now. Honestly haven't a clue

Yeuuuck. YANBU. At all. It’s personal tats though… I’ve put up with fake crocs n socks without a cringe, but this type I find deeply icky

Not the coolest or trendiest bit of he's off fell walking then he'd look fabulous. For a day trip to the city, no.

I’m a female and I wear these!!
we’re not allowed to wear open toed shoes at work so these are the next best things!
Really comfortable

Send him this way... We need some more men to swell the Roman soldier ranks.
Spent today surrounded by people who will be all wearing those shortly for the performance, along with armour or tunics.

Can't imagine my dh sending me pictures of shoes he finds acceptable for me to wear so I can pick some. Wtf?

He might think the same about your sandals.

Eurgh I agree. I’m not sure why some people think wearing socks with them would be worse. At least then they wouldn't get as sour and stinky. They look disgusting either way.

Worst shoes ever. What a loser. Divorce.

43???? 🤣 I'm with you op they are hideous 🫣

You're amazed some people feel differently to you about fashion or fitting in?
Everyone is different, nothing amazing.

It's also possible to have a laugh with a partner and take the mickey out of each other.
It's a lighthearted thread.

But to actually be embarrassed because of a partner wearing a pair of shoes that will go unnoticed by most is a bit much and is really immature.

I live in hiking sandals that look just like this. Mine are Teva though.

My feet don't sweat, they don't smell and they're bloody comfortable. I've walked hundreds of miles in them on all terrains.

There was another rude thread about them recently.

To sound and be totally shallow can he carry them? Let's face it some people can wear anything and look good.
If he's not then does it matter

What on earths wrong with Sandals? I've been wearing them pretty much exclusively every summer since my 20s, and no-ones ever told me they're uncool?

His feet, his shoes, his business.

Also, I've had these, they're very comfy!

Don’t be mean. How would you like it if he were online mocking your taste in footwear/clothes?

Provided he doesn't pair them with socks, you're fine!

Those are walking sandals and they're great over the summer. Would you rather he had hot sweaty feet in trainer's?

I took it OP was exaggerating and just making fun of it all.
She says he's always worn outdoor clothes, so seems a fun dig between a couple than actual teenage girl embarrassment.

Could be wrong of course.

Omg, I’ve already had to defend myself for being mean to the home educated, but I can’t let you down.

DISCLAIMER: I was home educated, I know a lot of home educated people from my childhood, this is lighthearted, some of the information may not apply to younger home educated people, I support people dressing however they want, this is just for entertainment purposes.

So generally it was somewhere between being outdoorsy, being a hippie, and getting dressed in the dark. The lack of peer pressure, I guess, means they just treat clothes as a function to stay warm rather than a way of expressing themselves. Here are some things I’ve seen on children AND adults:

• Two formerly homeschooled brothers attended my school and didn’t realise that Crocs weren’t acceptable school shoes. The family was well-off, just big on being ‘free’ and wearing whatever you wanted. One immediately realised and got normal shoes, the other was a lot more free-spirited and kept the Crocs for another year or so.

• Children of 14 and 15 wearing character clothing, characters you’d expect children much younger to like.

• Outdoor gear, a lot! Those trousers that zip off into shorts. Sandals just like the ones in the OP. The waterproof jackets. Hats with the neck shade. Walking boots when not actually walking anywhere. You get the gist.

• ‘Inappropriate’ clothing for the time and place, like a Christmas jumper in June, pyjama bottoms as trousers to visit a museum, the very loved T-shirt full of holes out for dinner, hiking clothes literally everywhere.

• Girls that tried to dress like every other girl of our generation but ended up being 10 years out of date for some reason. This is still a problem one of my HE friends openly struggles with to this day. A lot of girls, including myself, were big tomboys, and the ones that didn’t want to be didn’t have much in the way of girly advice because their parents were usually dead against cosmetics and fashion or clueless themselves, and there weren’t that many ‘cool’ girls about to teach us.

Part of me thinks it’s quite sweet as an adult—they weren’t forced to ‘grow up too soon’, as people say but there was little choice in it for the kids, and they ended up behind their peers, in little ways like fashion, because of it.

This, used to date a guy who wore white socks with his sandals which I thought was totally cringe

Get a grip! What is he like as a person?

So he would be allowed to be embarrassed but what he has dictated acceptable or not for you?

I think you need to take a chill pill.

You'd have to be taken away on a stretcher if you lived where I live, if those sandals are having such an effect on you.