Things that don’t bother you that seem a big deal to other people

[Yesttte]

Lighthearted really but I honestly can’t understand why anyone would feel precious about a friend forgetting their birthday. My very best friend has forgot a couple of times and it’s more funny than anything else. But other people seem up in arms about things like this.

Weddings… I couldn’t give a shit if someone couldn’t make my wedding or posted a photo too soon or whatever else. I’m amazed people care about this stuff.

Obviously there’s plenty I’m highly strung about though! 😅

Ultra processed foods. I like the familiarity of the taste and texture.
Relationships - nah, can't be arsed. Happy to stay single.
What other people wear
The last word - go on, have it if it means that much to you.
Showering twice a day - ridiculous waste of water and energy
All the palaver that goes into "occasions".

Evening do only invitations. Yeah, if it was from my sister or best friend, I’d be pissed off. But the level of offence at the very concept I see on MN baffles me. Not every friend is my best friend and I can handle that.

Also, the offence some posters take at the very suggestion they might see friends at the weekends rather than it being purely “family time”. There's nothing wrong with preferring to spend time with your family, but the idea that there’s something wrong in the very suggestion you might do otherwise is bizarre. I remember one thread where the OP was deeply offended that a friend had invited her on a weekend away - “How does she expect me just to abandon my family?!” Erm, she doesn’t; she’s putting forward an invitation that you can decline if it’s not convenient.

Me too - unless it's the wrong bin. If we're not quick enough on bin day we have to fish the coke cans and sandwich wrappers out of our empty garden waste bin (and it's really hard to reach the bottom).

Omg yes 😂😂😂 the sacred cow of family time that can never be disrupted. Truly bizarre

you were supposed to write things that don’t bother you but are a big deal to everyone else

But if someone turns up without notice they want to shag the bloke, or so some other long drawn out back story

Really…emotional affair wouldn’t bother you? Let’s hope it never happens to you because I guarantee it will break your heart if it does

Looking after my own kids alone.

Guests showing up for dinner "empty handed" - I always see it that they have covered transport/taxi's home etc over us getting to meet up and my job is to host.

People taking a break from being employed for reasons other than retirement or being bed ridden.

Being regifted a present that the other person thought I'd like/make use of just as much - or more than - spending money in shops over the occasion.

People using AI for their creative projects rather than creating "from scratch".

People sliding into Messenger to reach out and say hello on facebook friendship groups, rather than "asking permission" on a public thread.

Whether or not someone has kids/gets married - do what you like, affects me not one bit.

getting annoyed with other drivers - road rage is very unattractive.

A lot of the time the “emotional affairs” described on here are just…having a close friend. That’s not an affair. If there’s sexual or romantic talk or intentions to leave the partner discussed, sure. But having a connection/shared interest/confiding in/valuing and making effort for another person I would argue is all normal and desirable behaviour in a friendship.

I don't get many wedding invitations these days, but honestly I would be more than happy with 'evening do only'. That's the fun bit. I'm not that desperate to sit through a ceremony.

Oh I’ve thought of another one that I don’t care about. Table manners. As long as you’re not gobbing in my food do what you like. Start eating before everyone else, lick your knife, put your elbows on the table, stack the plates in a restaurant. Literally none of these things have any consequence to other people. Oh, and it’s fine to add up your items on the bill and only pay for what you consumed.

Omg yes. The ceremony is boring, who cares about that bit? Get me to the party and the free food.

Exactly when or how often I shower.

DH gets really grumpy if he doesn't have his morning shower, I like to have one at any point between 10 and 5 depending on what I'm doing for the day, and I can skip one depending on how I feel/activities/the weather without making a fuss.

I’m just far too tired to care about most of these things!

It's absolutely fine, providing you're not neglecting your spouse to put that effort into someone else.

If you're giving them attention and effort that should be for your significant other, then it's an emotional affair.

Ask yourself how you'd feel if your spouse was coming home and staring at his phone, ignoring you. But you found out they were planning lunches and outings with another woman. They were talking to this woman constantly, but not you.

How other women choose to feed their babies.

Getting offended if someone calls you 'guys' or 'mate' even though they don't know you.

Drunk people drinking in parks/outdoors. 'Street drinkers' they can be known as. (As long as they're not causing fear of violence or ASB)

Being embarrassed by someone taking a doggy bag of all their leftovers from a restaurant.

Turning down invitations or being asked for a CF favour. It is easy to politely do this.
I also couldn't care less about birthday cards and presents.

But that’s friendship not an emotional affair.

Most things!

I try to not waste my time ruminating on inconsequential things. Shop assistant was rude? Annoying, but it was a minute of your life- let it go. Bad meal in a restaurant? Just don’t go back. Someone up your arse on the motorway? You’re driving your car, not them, and you’re in control- let them overtake and off they go.

Being single. It suits me. Holidays on my own, because I can do whatever I like. Eating out alone. It’s great. Ironing stuff: I don’t like ironing but I love the way things look when ironed, so it’s worth it.

Oooh, a good one for this thread...

I don't care if someone has a request that doesn't affect me in any way.

If someone doesn't want their wedding photos on SM? Fine, of course I won't do it.

If someone wants everyone to wear a colour of accessory I already have? Go nuts.

If you don't want me to spend my own money or time, then I generally don't care.

You have somewhere between 5 and 10 showers a day?

Have i read that correctly?

Oh no. I draw the line at table manners.

I fully expect my kids and DH (I wouldn’t have married him if I couldn’t have a meal with him) to have decent table manners.

Everyone else can have shitty table manners if they please but I will be quietly judging you. I don’t know why but this is just a non negotiable for me.