Things that don’t bother you that seem a big deal to other people

[Yesttte]

Lighthearted really but I honestly can’t understand why anyone would feel precious about a friend forgetting their birthday. My very best friend has forgot a couple of times and it’s more funny than anything else. But other people seem up in arms about things like this.

Weddings… I couldn’t give a shit if someone couldn’t make my wedding or posted a photo too soon or whatever else. I’m amazed people care about this stuff.

Obviously there’s plenty I’m highly strung about though! 😅

I don’t care about the newness of cars, only wear second hand clothes, don’t care about nails or having a new phone. I’m not easily offended and don’t hold a grudge. I don’t care about one-up manship or being competitive. I’m not interested in being “cool”. I don’t get all the rules around weddings, hens and baby showers!

I don't care about cars, weddings, baby showers etc but I like my clothes pegs to match on each item on my washing line.

I’m with you 100% on the wearing white to a wedding.

No one is mistaking you for the bride, nor will you upstage her for wearing a white-ish dress patterned with flowers.

There’s nothing wrong with wearing black to a wedding, either.

Weddings.
What other women wear to the gym.
Whether or not to answer the door in your own house.
Who is speaking to whom (or not) at school drop-off/pick-up.
Saying 'no'.
Meghan Markle.

Is that a thing??

Do people genuinely fret about it?? 🤷🏻‍♀️

This, absolutely. Since reading mumsnet I have begun to wonder if I am in a completely filthy minority, so it's nice to see someone else feels the same way!

Don't know but I do worry about my laundry being judged.

In what way?

Leaving the washing out overnight.

I don't even rewash it most of the time if it gets rained on.

I have been known to put the washing on the line before bed if it's going to be a nice day the next day and I won't have time in the morning.

Yes to all of this. Road rage baffles me - just let people in, and accept that people make mistakes because none of us are perfect drivers. Not counting deliberately dangerous driving of course, but I could never get annoyed at people trying to switch lanes, or joining a queue. So you get delayed by a whole 5 seconds? Big deal. (Not that I’m this zen in all aspects of my life though 😆)

I’m very laidback as I don’t worry about most things but in particular lateness, learner drivers (we all learnt once) and children making noise.

But they are things that bother most people!

Sometimes though, it's infuriating because they could just take the next exit or go around the roundabout, instead of expecting everyone else to realise they've made a mistake and let them rectify it.

I don't really do road rage, but people who put themselves in the wrong lane on a roundabout and then "rectify" it by going right in the left lane or something are dangerous, whether it's because they made a mistake or not.

I agree with lots already posted but this one I had to copy and paste because I feel exactly the same:

emotional affairs, IMO there’s no such thing. Obviously if you’re going down the talking sex route then that’s one thing, but confiding in someone of the opposite sex does not equal an emotional affair.

unless you’re declaring sexual or romantic feelings for each other it isnt an “emotional affair”. It is entirely possible to have a close emotional connection with someone, share deep stuff and even feel love for a friend without it being a threat to your relationship.

my other non-annoyances/not bothered stuff

opposite sex friendships
engagements/weddings/babies etc - I’m genuinely more excited about and interested in people’s career or travel news
people being late or flaking at the minute
a 4 bed detached house being the pinnacle of success
my house being overlooked and not having kerb appeal
cultivating a relationship with in-laws independently of the things my partner arranges
men being bisexual
polyamory
cleaning and tidying/worrying about what people think of my housekeeping skills
being friends with other couples
speaking my mind

I don't understand the toilet roll thing. How is there a wrong way? It's just paper on a roll you use to clean your bum. Doesn't matter if you pull it from the front or the back of the holder.

It kind of has to be done quite close to the going away time because there are a few things I will be using right up to that time.

I don’t get wound up if someone reads a message but doesn’t reply. I just assume they planned to reply later and forgot and I don’t take it personally!

I also don’t mind loud sounds as I am quite good at blocking them out. Be that children, drilling, music etc 🙂

Children growing up - I don't find it at all sad ,emotional or surprising! I absolutely adore mine but im also quite looking forward to them leaving home!

Teenagers - I like them, and I feel bad for the troubled ones. I work in a school so I've been sworn at etc but I remain unbothered 😄

Potholes upset me though, maybe because I have a small car !?

But then they're just your last minute things. We all have hair brushes, toothbrushes, chargers, toiletries and so on. The rest can go in a couple of days before.

The anger I've seen expressed towards people who take weight loss jabs like they are "lazy" or should have more will power. Why do you care how other people achieve something that will improve their health, well-being or whatever? It doesn't take anything away from your own achievements. Just be happy for them!

Equally, the anger and disgust thrown towards people who are overweight and not in a good place to do anything about it.

Let people worry about their own health in their own way.

Getting my nails done—a tidy self-filing job is fine with me.

Paying for childcare rather than relying on grandparents.

The existence of loo brushes.

People using American words/pronunciations.

No, also clothes and shoes.
(I have spare toiletries just for travelling so can put them in in advance)
I don't think it matters WHEN I start packing - I almost always forget something.

I stop using the clothes I'll need for a trip a couple of days before, cos otherwise I'll spill something and then have to wash them and they'll be damp. I'm too clumsy to not be organised in advance. Shoes I'm with you on though, and I do often forget to put a pair I need in though. Maybe I need to stop using those too.

Harry & Meghan living their life in the US—makes no difference to me whether they want to have podcasts, Netflix specials, etc—live and let live.