Things that don’t bother you that seem a big deal to other people

[Yesttte]

Lighthearted really but I honestly can’t understand why anyone would feel precious about a friend forgetting their birthday. My very best friend has forgot a couple of times and it’s more funny than anything else. But other people seem up in arms about things like this.

Weddings… I couldn’t give a shit if someone couldn’t make my wedding or posted a photo too soon or whatever else. I’m amazed people care about this stuff.

Obviously there’s plenty I’m highly strung about though! 😅

I thought of a few:

Germs and spotless homes. My home is often untidy and it does not bother me (probably why I don’t like unexpected guests)

My neighbour smoking weed

People who take class A drugs socially (including my partner)

Not being invited to weddings. Unless it is clearly meant as a deliberate snub I genuinely don’t care. I can save the money.

Could be gross but I don’t care if I find a hair in my food. Would never send it back. Just don’t care enough. 😂

I have similar ones to many of you.

Cards - why people waste money on paper when a call, text or email would do the same thing, mystifies me.

Shoes - I'd never ask anyone to take their shoes off before entering my house. It's so rude.

Toilet seat up or down. I don't care, if it's up it takes a second to bringing it down.

Hallmark marketing events like mothers/fathers day/valentine's day. I've never cared/understood why are so important for so many people.

Birthdays. I rarely remember my own and more often than not, only remember my kids because I have an alarm set on my iPhone.

Holidays abroad, spending money you don't have. Never understood putting the cost on a credit card and paying 3 times in interest the value of the trip by the time it's paid off in monthly instalments.

People not being able - or even not putting in major effort- to attend an event.

People not giving me sufficiently 'thoughtful' presents.

People using my loo! I never knew this was such a problem for some people until I joined MN.

Anniversaries of deaths - after my Dad died I had people keep telling me they were “thinking of me” at that time of year and I couldn’t work out why they were. The date or it’s significance hadn’t occurred to me.

People parking outside my house (so long as they turn off the engine and don't play loud thumpy music)
Horses on the roads
Horses crapping on the roads
Tractors leaving mud on the roads
Everything having to be perfect for a wedding (we just wanted everyone to have a nice time)

Yeah, the loo thing is odd. It's what it's there for. What should people do, pee in the garden?

Workmen using my loo or even (shock, horror!) taking a dump. It’s a toilet, it’s what it’s for, we all need to go!

shoes off inside. I mean I usually do but it’s not a rule. It doesn’t cross my mind to ask guests to take theirs off or take mine off on entering someone else’s, unless I’m asked, which is rare.

dogs. The more the merrier, though I agree unless they’re service dogs they shouldn’t be in supermarkets.

earning ££££££. I’m a nurse, it’s the wrong profession I wanted to be mega rich. I also don’t want to climb the ladder. In nursing, the higher you get the less patient contact you get. I went into the job to be a nurse, not a pen pusher.

I LOVE IT 😂😂"budgie cage"! Can't wait to use that one on my DH when he's getting the passenger rage. 😂

Dirt
cats
hen dos
Disney
holidays in the sun

Agree with loads of these:

Kids leaving home/ going to uni- I'm delighted for them & want them to have the most fabulous life being independent/ travelling/ being wild (I was, why shouldn't they?). Looking at you here, sister, with the dramatics & smothering of your children.

Older teens being out of contact/ out at night/ being alone/ needing to figure stuff out- that builds you as a person.

Restaurants/fancy food/ wine In general- makes me uncomfortable. Seriously couldn't give two hoots- if I'm fed I'm fine. Friends are going tonight to somewhere with a 'cigar menu' FFS. We're meeting them later for drinks instead.

Designer anything.

Emotions over stuff like getting married/ first day at school/ prom/ big birthdays. All the drama escapes me. Niece is getting married this summer & the talk about how 'emotional' will be escapes me. Surely it's just a life choice we should he happy about?

Sending cards/ giving presents if someone farts almost - anniversaries/ new house/passed exams/ religious ceremonies- looking at you again, sister!🤣

100% the amount of self indulgent wedding AIBU on MN is shocking. Women just looking for a fight or reason to go NC.

Literally no one cares.

God, yes! And the social media posting about it.

On the same topic- visiting graves. Not fussed. Doesn't upset me if I go or don't go. Doesn't upset me if, shock- horror, there's no fresh flowers there one week. Doesn't upset me if others think I'm heartless.

Anything connected to cars. I just simply do not care. Once I had a colleague who liked to make subtle digs about how shit my car is... I found it so bizarre. I honestly could not give a toss and whilst I know there are lots of people who like to have a nice car, I truly cannot fathom why. Similarly I do not care even one tiny bit if anyone does cosmetic damage to my car.

There's been talk on this thread about not caring about babies except your own - I'm definitely not a "other people's kids are awful" person, I love kids! I find children sweet and funny, but I also just have no desire to hold other people's babies or interact with unfamiliar children - in the same way that I don't get excited to hug any other human being who I've only just met.

I recently went to a friend's house who just had a baby. I had been there for about 45 minutes, had been asking my friend loads of questions about how she's doing, how the birth was, all this stuff, when I realised that I'd not actually commented on the actual baby yet! It's not that I don't care about her baby but... it's a baby! There's just not much to say about a newborn baby, they all mostly look similar and do the same things, and I was much more preoccupied with finding out about how my friend was doing. I also love seeing a little baby snuggled with their mum and how lovely it looks and to see how happy they are, whereas if I'm holding someone else's baby I know the baby is thinking "wtf is going on, where's my mum gone" so it just seems kind of odd to enjoy that.

Restaurants/fancy food/ wine In general- makes me uncomfortable. Seriously couldn't give two hoots- if I'm fed I'm fine.

Yep - and all the drama about dinner parties and hosting - I can't imagine giving a shit about any of it, lol.

Trans people
Dogs
Cats
Weddings
Instagram/Facebook
Other people’s weight

I cannot get angry about any of the above.

We take lunch boxes to work, so adding in one for a school day won't make that big a difference. But I know so many people who hate it, and I can't understand it. I find it so depressing walking round town on my lunch break when I'm in the office trying to decide what to eat, because it all costs a fortune!

That being said, a work friend has just started deciding on some office days that we're going for a BK so we can eat and bitch. I'm not against it 😂

Shoes on indoors. Rude imo to make visitors take their shoes off.
People who think the world should revolve around children and/or dogs.
Pale or white clothes at weddings. Everyone knows who the bride is, who cares.
On a related note, seating plans at weddings. Just let people sit where they want.
Not bathing or showering every single day (provided washing is taking place, obvs)
Not cooking every single meal from scratch.

When I’m sharing my sad story with people and they tell a similar story about what happened to them. I don’t think they’re selfish or narcissists they’re just trying to relate.

Copying. Don’t care if people even copy my kids’s names or ask where my dress is from

The above seem to be criminal offences on MN

We watch location location location and wonder if we're the only people who don't require an "entertaining space". Who are these people entertaining so often!?

Yep, and why would they want to? lol.

I honestly think so many dramas on here could be avoided by people just saying "no" to things they clearly never wanted to do to begin with.

"Put some clean clothes in a suitcase, check you've got everything. It's not quantum physics."

I find it hard work actually. I've got a list, but still forget something important very often. And no, you can't always buy it there.
I do it the day I'm travelling or the night before though. No need to start days earlier.

I’m not bothered about not wearing freshly washed clothes every day (save for knickers) or using a towel more than once.

I don’t know if this is common but round our way the binmen don’t tip up wheelie bins into the bin truck, they lift out the black bags and throw them in. So if anyone throws random bits in our bin they stay there until we clean it out. When we lived somewhere where wheelie bina were tipped up and fully emptied on bin day I didn’t care but now it’s annoying.

I tend to pack the same kinda time, but living 200 miles from my family I can do it in my sleep now.

Maybe if you did it a little earlier you'd remember the things you always forget?