Things that don’t bother you that seem a big deal to other people

[Yesttte]

Lighthearted really but I honestly can’t understand why anyone would feel precious about a friend forgetting their birthday. My very best friend has forgot a couple of times and it’s more funny than anything else. But other people seem up in arms about things like this.

Weddings… I couldn’t give a shit if someone couldn’t make my wedding or posted a photo too soon or whatever else. I’m amazed people care about this stuff.

Obviously there’s plenty I’m highly strung about though! 😅

Dogs in shops and cafes.
People listening to music in their gardens.
People parking outside my house.
DH going away overnight.
Cats going in/out of people's gardens.
People wearing leggings etc. in public.

People putting stuff in my bin. I wouldn't want a stranger's full blown bag of rubbish in my bin, but when it's bin day and they're outside I don't see the problem with passers by putting down a banana peel or a plastic bottle or something in my bin. Many people I know are VERY against this!

I was talking to my friend about this last week and I said I’ve never been in a toilet to my knowledge with a trans woman. I mean I probably have but my point is, genuine trans women you have difficultly telling they are trans. I have never seen a trans woman so obviously a man in a woman’s toilet and that I would have a problem with but where is this happening so frequently for their to be so much noise?

I think she’s got it twiddled round the wrong way.

@SelinaPlace

I never regarded the school run as some form of ordeal, and even when I was doing it at an insular village school where no one spoke to me, I still didn’t think everyone was horrible and ‘cliquish’

Completely agree. Two women having a conversation at the school gates constitutes a "clique". I've never understood how people get through life with this sort of attitude.

Very much of the above, except I do hate the toilet seat up in our en-suite.

Appreciate this is a bit odd for Mumsnet, but - babies! I am happy for the parents of course but I don't understand why I'm supposed to want to hold them/have a cuddle. I just don't get anything from it and it's obvious that most people do. I felt like that as a teen and presumed it would change but it never did (I know people say it's different with your own but I never took the chance to find out, I didn't want to have children unless I was sure I wanted them)

Oh and potholes madden me. I must not be as chilled as I had assumed 😂😂

Same. I have no desire to cuddle your baby -_-

People putting bagged dog poo in my bin. As long as it's not in the recycling bin, crack on. I'd rather it was in my bin than left on the pavement.

Food waste. I'm not wilfilly wasteful, I tend to buy what we need when we need it but I don't eat every sad stump of cucumber and wilted lettuce leaf because 'I can't abide food waste!'

Around 90% of aibu doesn't bother me.

My partner having close female friendships.

Giving lifts to adults who can't drive. I just don't mind at all.

Toilet roll the wrong waye, people not saying thank you when you hold the door open for them

One year old baby’s birthday partys. Obviously each to their own though

Social media, who cares if DH said happy birthday on it?

Having brand new or top of the range anything. Have what works and what makes you happy.

People knowing how successful / rich / happy you are. Just be happy.

Material "stuff".

Clothes - be comfortable and happy if you want, look fabulous if you want.

Honestly, I find it hard to get worked up about much that's "superficial". Live your life, be happy. Don't be a dick to others (that does irritate me!).

Wind chimes - never given me a moment's bother

People cancelling on me. I have hundreds of other things I could be doing so that's fine, I don't see it as a wasted day or night at all

Similarly people being late. I have lots of stuff to be reading while I wait, or just wandering around, people watching etc. No big deal

I have a child and I still am not interested in cuddling other people's babies. Love my child, not a fan of anyone else's.

My husband telling me whether he finds another woman (be it a friend, an actress or a random stranger) attractive or not. I’m just not threatened by the fact that he thinks someone is ‘pretty’ …
Obviously we are in a healthy committed relationship which helps my security but there is just no denying that some people are just good looking and who am I to tell him otherwise? I can appreciate a good looking person myself!

So many women on here are so unhappy with themselves so take offense and I feel sad for them.

You’re missing some key context though. My friends and I don’t bother about our birthdays unless we specifically invite each other out.

But usually when OP’s post about their friends forgetting their birthdays it’s in the context of the friend being a CF who expects their own birthday to be remembered and given a present without fail.

So there’s no point being ‘cool girl’ about things if you don’t give the right context.

I quoted the OP to avoid confusion with other posts.

I dont care that I drive an older car, or that children are noisy when playing outdoors ,dogs barking and so on.Had Cancer/chemo last year so not much bothers me now

Oh yes, I'd rather someone just pop something in my bin than litter. Or if a neighbours is overflowing, it's just more hygienic for the community around, and probably easier for the bin men too!

This. I tell my partner i’m going to put a sheet over him like a budgie cage if he doesnt stop being an angry passenger. So unnecessary.

Germs.

It kind of worries me how little they bother me when I read threads on Mumsnet.