Ðaughter had £280 took off her from her Dad

[NimbleBee]

Hi all, my 7yr old DD has been visiting her grandparents with my ex (her Dad) every Wednesday. Her Grandparents have been giving my DD £5 every week for a year so 52x5=£260 saved. DD saved it at grandparents house in a purse, hoping to spend it on her holiday.
Dd told me yesterday that grandparents had given her this money to bring home now with upcoming holiday.
Dds dad took the money from her and spent it in the Ladbrokes gambling and on alcohol and cigarettes.
I am absolutely fuming and will be having words with ex.
Aibu to tell grandparents what has happened?

id tell them so they know that any future money should be handed/ sent straight to you and they have an absolute arsehole of a son

Can't comment on the OPs DD but in my experience from my line of work then yeah children know. They know when their parents drink /take drugs/are in fights etc. Generally when parents are doing these things they don't have the awareness to hide it from the children. The children are generally hypervigalent.

Bizarre that in these circumstances she was made to keep her money there? Much better to open a little bank account for her in her name and get the money in there.

This is a waste of time as @NimbleBee isn't joining in her thread but...the timeline here makes no sense.

The only people who know about the purse with the money are the OP, the grandparents, the DD and her Dad.

How was the money shown to be missing?

Did the DD find her purse and the cash was gone? If she did, she'd immediately ask her grandparents where it was.

Are we to believe that the Dad took the money from his daughter on their way home and immediately spent it - and she was there at the time?

It makes no sense. And IMO that's why OP is not coming back.

Rather than accusing him of stealing it might be a good idea to consider the reality of what's supposedly occurred.

Bizarre that the child hasn't told her grandparents it's gone missing or her Dad has taken the purse and spent it.
No need for the OP to tell the grandparents as surely her daughter will!

@AllThatGlistensIsntCold bizzare op hasn't returned

Tell your ex unless he gives it back, and never does that again you will go to court and make sure he loses visitation rights-end of. Tell his parents.
That kind of trauma could scar your daughter for life and affect her attitude towards money-simply unacceptable.

Surely OP's daughter will tell her grandparents?

I would if I was 7 and my dad stole my £260 - £280 (OP can't decide which!)

As a matter of interest, how does your daughter know what he spent it on?

I think this is just a troll post

Tell the grandparents and step away from it . Let them deal don’t get caught up in that shit storm

What an arsehat. Defo tell his parents. Poor wee poppet must be devestated 😔