Ðaughter had £280 took off her from her Dad

[NimbleBee]

Hi all, my 7yr old DD has been visiting her grandparents with my ex (her Dad) every Wednesday. Her Grandparents have been giving my DD £5 every week for a year so 52x5=£260 saved. DD saved it at grandparents house in a purse, hoping to spend it on her holiday.
Dd told me yesterday that grandparents had given her this money to bring home now with upcoming holiday.
Dds dad took the money from her and spent it in the Ladbrokes gambling and on alcohol and cigarettes.
I am absolutely fuming and will be having words with ex.
Aibu to tell grandparents what has happened?

I have a brother like this. Absolutely tell them - it's abhorrent behaviour. Your poor child :(

That's a police matter.
Pure theft.
What an unbelievable loser.

Yes, absolutely tell your child’s grandparents. Tell them exactly how much your daughter saved, exactly how much their son stole, and exactly how much he spent gambling. You should also tell them how devastated their grandchild is that her own father stole from her and gambled the money and to please not give her any more money because her father - their son - will only steak it again.

Tell them. They need to know what happened.
And i’d consider reporting him to the police. That wasnt his money; he stole it.

Absolutely tell the grandparents and if she has a bank account give them the details do they can pay any further money into that for her.
He's absolutely awful

Tell them he stole their money from his own daughter and ask that they tell him to pay it back immediately.

I would pretend you don’t know what he did and I would first as your ex to give you the money for safekeeping and see what he says

Definitely tell them .
What a awful thing to do

Fuck no, tell them straight away! And yes, give them whatever appropriate bank account/kid savings account etc details you have for her so this cannot happen again.

What a nasty fucker he is.

I think is a good idea. Suggest that in future they might want to put it in a child's savings account for her instead.

However, tempting as it is to land the low life scum in the shit with the GPs, I wouldn't go too overboard with your explanation - he is still their son. They will be able to draw their own conclusions without you rubbing their noses in it.

He may be so far gone that he told her himself.

The grandparents need to know so they can avoid throwing their money down a drain in future.

Not another ai post? 'The Ladbrokes'?

I would mention it but in a questioning way.

“do you know where DDs money you generously have been giving her went? She’s been saving it for her holiday but it’s gone and she said her dad’s taken it?”.

mostly because it’s then not absolutely believing her - leaving it open for them to look into it and your dd won’t be put in the position of her GPs asking her what she did on holiday with her money.

I think she needs to tell her grandparents. If you do surely that will just come across as an ex shit-stiring?

I would certainly be letting them know. Was this for a holiday with you or her Dad? Not that it particularly matters as its theft but it does factor in to how you approach this I think. Depending on your relationship with them, you could even just enquire and say this is what DD said to you, so you just wanted to check with them that they had given her "X" amount of money for holiday as she hasn't come home with it. He is still their son regardless so they may still defend him to a degree especially if its a full on attack against him (even though justified), but in saying DD is upset and you just want to ascertain facts would be a way of kindly letting them know

This

He's stolen £300 from his nine year old daughter. £300 they gave her. If they react to this as her being "an ex shit-stirring" they need help.
I mean also, as a rule, really, it's best never to shove difficult and awkward tasks off on to your nine year old children when you can do them yourself. Just as a rule.

Absolutely yes tell them.

He's a piece of shit.

She will remember this OP. Which means she will also remember how you deal with it.

I would 100% report it to the police. What a low life scum bag he is.

What conclusions? The story should be simply what she knows and how she knows it. Nothing more and nothing less.

Disgusting behaviour but sadly if your ex does have a gambling issues, then not surprising. A relative of mine has a gambling issue, and has taken his children's money and possessions to either spend or pawn. If money is given, it has to be in a taped envelope or given to the children's Mum instead. You absolutely need to tell your ex in-laws what their son has done. Depending on their own finances, they may not be able to replace the money. However, could they pay a sum of money monthly into a bank account for your daughter - one her Dad can't access?! They need to know and understand that giving him money is a no go.

What a scummy piece of shit he is to steal from the money that his own parents have given to his daughter.

You should tell his parents what he has done.

Yes I would tell them.
She is only 7 years old so I would expect an adult to intervene. You don't need to be nasty about it to them, just explain DD has said that she has been given money by them that she has been saving but the money has been taken and used by her dad for himself, so could they be mindful of giving her money and that it would be better to set up a savings account for her in her name.