Ðaughter had £280 took off her from her Dad

[NimbleBee]

Hi all, my 7yr old DD has been visiting her grandparents with my ex (her Dad) every Wednesday. Her Grandparents have been giving my DD £5 every week for a year so 52x5=£260 saved. DD saved it at grandparents house in a purse, hoping to spend it on her holiday.
Dd told me yesterday that grandparents had given her this money to bring home now with upcoming holiday.
Dds dad took the money from her and spent it in the Ladbrokes gambling and on alcohol and cigarettes.
I am absolutely fuming and will be having words with ex.
Aibu to tell grandparents what has happened?

Tell them he took her money from her and from now on they need to put any money they want to give her into a bank account that you have access to, not him.

Are they in denial as to what he is?

Fucking loser.

Having words? I'd be calling police and reporting it as a theft/mugging. He stole a little girls purse and stole her money, he deserves to be treated like the criminal he is.

What a shit sack!

This. What a vile thing for him to do.

Cap!

Absolutely tell them. What a scumbag that man is.

Absolutely tell his parents. If I was being charitable I’d say he needs help to sort his life out. But mostly so they know what he’s capable of. If he can steal from his own young child he can steal from his parents.

Will they believe you?
It's likely he will deny it and possibly even accuse you of trying to scam money from them.
So tell them if they will believe you. If not tell the police.

100% you tell his parents what he’s done. He should be ashamed of himself. He’s stolen off his own child.

I doubt they'll be surprised

OP, a few points which I’m confused about.

The thread title says £280 but the calculation is £260, which is it ?

Did you know the GPs were giving her the money ?

What exactly did your daughter tell you about her GPs giving her the purse ?

And what did she say about how her father got his hands on the purse ?

And what exactly happened when he got his hands on the money ?

I wouldn’t confront your ex about this. I’d suggest you contact the GPs and say something along the lines of ‘DD says you gave her a purse with £260/280 pounds, is that right ? She says her father has taken the money. Do you know what’s going on here ?’

I’m not saying you should disbelieve your 7 year old but I think adult clarification would be useful.

My children’s dad withheld the money their nanny and granda (his parents) sent to them for Christmas. I didn’t know this until they went to visit their nanny and granda recently and they told them! They were absolutely furious.
I would definitely tell his parents x

I'd 💯 tell them, they need to be made aware that he's done this and to watch there own finances. Your poor kid must be heart broken x

Why would you even need to ask if it would be unreasonable to tell them?!

Absolutely bloody tell them, knock precious son off his pedestal

Oh yes, I would be telling them; with a mix of justified anger at his skanky behaviour, and relish about dropping him in the shit with his parents.

What a bloody awful thing to do.

I think is quite possibly one of the worst things I've ever read on mumsnet. Your poor dd having that for a dad, this makes me angry and sad in equal measures. Joining the chorus in saying yes, tell them what a disgusting son they have.

Like you even needed to ask if YBU! What a disgusting parasite. Tell ex husbands mummy.

You are not being unreasonable. You need to tell the grandparents otherwise this will keep happening throughout her life, I know from experience of it happening to my child, thought I was doing the right thing not bringing it up but it's happened so many times now and its very sad. He will probably make some excuse that they may believe but at least you will have tried. Just mae sure he doesn't have access to her bank account as that's what happened with my ex. People stealing from children are scumbags.

Unfortunately, my father was like this - sorry OP, I hope your daughter is OK.
My gran would always make excuses for my dad, so be prepared that they may know already

Definitely tell them - why on Earth not? They’ve done something nice and their son has ruined it.

Tell them and let them have it out with their vile piece of shit son. And well done you for splitting from him - can see why!

Disgraceful behaviour. He needs to pay back the money but not his parents. Vile man who doesn't deserve having children.

Make sure you screen shot any social media as if you take it further it will be deleted....especially the treating my team bit.

This is a deliberate act of exclusion and I would consider raising a grievance about it. You've been the in organisation long enough to be protected by employment laws.

It may sour the air but it clearly isn't all on best friend terms anyway so no loss. What it will do is remind people that they are not allowed to mistreat people

Absolutely outrageous report to police and tell the grandparents immediately.