Apparently I’m attention seeking

[PooStep]

Currently on holiday with DH, MIL, FIL, SIL and her husband.
Before we even got here they had all been going on about this specific breakfast in the specific restaurant that is a local speciality. It was decided we would go there on our first morning and get this item.
So first morning, this item is mentioned again and they’re all excited about getting it. The way they were going on I was assuming this item was all they sold in the morning so I said too I was up for trying it.

We got to the restaurant- sat down and FIL told the waitress we wanted 6 of said item. I then said “actually, I wouldn’t mind having a Quick Look at the menu?”. I saw MIL roll her eyes and I’m pretty sure SIL pulled a face too but can’t be certain. DH then whispered to me “don’t start this now for gods sake” !? Was asking for the menu really so bad? I’d noticed as we walked in that everyone was eating different things so clearly there was more on offer than this one item. I ended up choosing something different, I didn’t realise however that mine would take longer to arrive so I was sat without anything while they all ate theirs. SILs husband did say “shall we wait until Poostep’s arrives?” And MIL said “no I don’t think so, we came in for these didn’t we, I don’t want mine going cold”. So they all ate. Mine arrived 15 minutes later and naturally I was sat eating on my own after they all finished.
later DH asked me if I was going to be seeking attention throughout the holiday. So were they right to be annoyed?

The Vegan eats vegetables & the Coeliac has gluten free. It's passive aggressive to create problems that don't really exist.

YABU, are Mrs Quick Look & not obeying the Unwritten Order of the Holiday.

On the basis of the specific and original example you've provided, taken in isolation, then of course yanbu and they are. However, i also know a few people who are always contrary, seemingly only to make a point/ dig their heels in/ resist. It can become very wearing, and I did wonder if this might be the case with you, op. I've seen that you don't think you have form for this, so I have to go by what you've said. It doesn't sound like they like you, or you like them, very much. So I think you'd be better off not holidaying with them as a result as it doesn't sound much fun.

Everyone excited about trying something new together, so, what, op ruined that by having something different?

What are they, 6 years old? 😂😂

I'm cringing so hard at that possible version of events I think my sphincter is in danger of creating a black hole

Your husband is horrible and your in laws are controlling. It’s obvious they’ve been talking about you and your husband hasn’t stood up for you and is actively participating.

Imagining the couple in ever decreasing circles, with their matching track suits. Or Airplane “he never has a second cup of coffee at home”. Shudder.

I keep thinking for the walk thing OP could have simply rewashed and dried her hair between 2-4 when she is forced to be inside.

It would drive me crazy having to wait for someone to dry their hair or “Oh gosh it goes frizzy” like I actually care. In my experience people who take a long time getting ready and make others wait, usually suffer from main character syndrome.

Stop teasing OP. This is only Day One. No doubt there will be other trips to the Cafe of Mysterious Delights, you can keep them in suspense every morning, is @PooStep going to try the magic breakfast item or is she going to eat her way through a different menu item every day? If you are going to have a label tied around your neck you might as well have the label written in neon felt tips and embellished with flashing lights.

On balance, I think you perhaps don't always read the room and there's a lot of dawdling over menus and drying hair.

However, they're extremely conformist so it's hard for you to know when it's important to be somewhere/ do/ try something particularly significant or when they just want everyone to fall in like like ducks for everything as that is all the time.

I get the impression they're quite controlling and you are a bit head in the clouds/ fussy. E.g. why did it matter that you wanted to go for a walk? But I think you take too long over things, ordering etc. I think it's a genuine clash. FWIW I think you'd all annoy me on holiday!!

Why would you even think eating what everyone else was eating is in any way reasonable?! Surely she’s able to choose for herself what she eats?

It sounds like they might be controlling but one hundred per cent your actions are a passive aggressive response to this

But presumably you wouldn’t have said yes to joining them at the cafe for that specific item in the first place!

As opposed to “yes, sure, sounds good…oh wait, no, let me browse the menu and order something more substantial that will leave everyone waiting for me.”

And presumably there’s a fair chance of “no lunch for me, I had a big breakfast” followed be “can we get dinner early because I haven’t had lunch?”

If one out of six orders a cooked full breakfast when everyone else is getting light breakfasts, it throws off their dining rhythm from the other five. It’s a pain in the arse.

Again, why is everyone bringing up allergies when the OP knew ahead of time what the breakfast would be and ostensibly agreed to it. Allergies are a non-issue.

I dunno. You might be expected to sit for 2 hours. Who washes their hair when everyone else is sitting?

Nearly 2,000 posts to the good and it looks like we'll never know what items on the menu caused Pistols at Dawn.

I agree with the PP who suggested next year's burnt offering from the OP will be "My terrible PiL have stopped inviting me on their all-expenses paid for family holiday. AIBU?"

Fussy faffer 😁
Thats exactly how I think of my DP.
He would be EXACTLY the same, always wants something different 'can you take the sauce off? / what's this mean? / will I like it? is there another menu?'
Always has to be the last to get ready to leave, if he is ready before someone else, he will then decide he needs the loo before we go etc.
Love him to bits but it drives me bonkers.

You can get croissants in Tesco too. They are not remotely the same as a freshly baked croissant from one if the better French patisseries.

We have lots of things on holiday that we return to because they are excellent local examples of a regional speciality. It’s just one little thing that makes holidays enriching and fun. I mean we could stay home and get it from Tesco I guess … 🤨

I keep thinking for the walk thing OP could have simply rewashed and dried her hair between 2-4 when she is forced to be inside.

But that would have been conforming. And we know OP likes to be 'different'. 😀

Dining rhythm? Jeez.
Every individual is at liberty to eat precisely what she or he desires. One of the delights of eating out. Have a bowl of soup
or full a la carte. No sane person cares!

I’m a bit split on this one! On the one hand it’s a bit odd for them to get so weird about the one thing and to be annoyed you got something different… on the other hand I do always get internally slightly annoyed when you go out with people for a Sunday roast and then they ask to look at the menu and get something completely different! You’re a bit like well the whole point was to come out for a roast dinner! Is it a similar situation? 😂

I'm going to say it was a Pastel De Nata and OP ordered Breakfast Bacalhau

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I also think it's about the shared experience than anything else. They probably wanted you to try the food they ordered. It looks like that was a big thing for them.

You had to have a coffee before going for a coffee?

Sorry, a Quick Coffee before a Quick Look at Other Coffee.

They passed them in the street. Someone said they looked nice. Someone else said "I'll get some, does everyone want one?" If your reaction to that scenario is also "Oooh, wait, I might want something else", then good for you.