AIBU being against my neighbor having a party on the same day as my DC’s?

[Mocha0202]

its my DC’s first birthday and I sent out invitations a month ago. I also invited my neighbor.
i will have a few babies over and about 12 adults.

A couple of days ago my neighbor told me she’s planning on having a party in her garden (that’s over the hedge from mine), with a big bbq and about 20-25 adults. They will be outside from the morning until the night, alcohol obviously involved.

I am concerned about the noise and the smoke overstimulating the children and basically ruining my party.
AIBU for thinking that it’s a very inconsiderate thing to do and asking her to change the date of her party?

Of course you’re unreasonable, you don’t own her garden?

Surely yours will be earlier in the day and they won't overlap?

No, you can't do anything about this.

They are separate gardens though? Not a communal garden?

unless the gardens are tiny I really can’t see it being an issue.

How dare the neighbour want to use their garden for a social gathering, on the very day your pfb is celebrating too!

Seriously, you cannot ask them to change their life around because your gathering is more important.

Annoying, but I can’t see what you can do other than prepare to bring the party inside if the noise gets bad and the drinking turns ugly.

Ask her to put the BBQ away from your hedge so the kids don't get overstimulated. By smoke.

You can't dictate what other people do in their garden. If you are so bothered then you change the date of your party.

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Honestly, no you can’t ask her to move or change her party. Her private garden is hers to do with what she wishes as is yours. Even if you did ask her who’s to say it doesn’t end up a stunning weather day and other neighbours decide last minute to have bbqs / friends over too. You can’t control it,

if you want a private space with nothing else nearby party wise maybe hire a hall somewhere ?

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Is this a reverse?

That’s ridiculous, you are not her boss. Either move your party date or wrap it up early before their party gets going.

A good time I would say, you won't be annoying them and their party won't be annoying you as much if you are also partying. Are you not offering alcohol to the adults?

I thought you were going to say their party had pinched half your guests.

Seriously? No, you can’t do this.

Batshit 🤣

Haha oh dear

I can't believe you even have to ask! Your party is not important to her and it's not your garden so if course she can have a BBQ

Overstimulated?

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lol

Didn't we have this a few weeks ago?

Assuming this isn’t a wind-up thread, yes, YABVU

It’s not often a poster jumps the shark in the first post but this has done

Hopefully this is a reverse, if not the world does not revolve around your plans!

Shockingly people have lives outside yours!

I imagine she figured it was a great day - you'd be having a party yourselves so noise and general busyiness wouldn't be a problem.

YABU to even think, for a second, tht your neighbour has to take youru plans into account when making her own.