AIBU being against my neighbor having a party on the same day as my DC’s?

[Mocha0202]

its my DC’s first birthday and I sent out invitations a month ago. I also invited my neighbor.
i will have a few babies over and about 12 adults.

A couple of days ago my neighbor told me she’s planning on having a party in her garden (that’s over the hedge from mine), with a big bbq and about 20-25 adults. They will be outside from the morning until the night, alcohol obviously involved.

I am concerned about the noise and the smoke overstimulating the children and basically ruining my party.
AIBU for thinking that it’s a very inconsiderate thing to do and asking her to change the date of her party?

Ugh, that's so annoying! You're totally NBU for being bothered by your neighbour's party plans. First birthdays are a big deal, and a noisy, boozy BBQ next door sounds like a nightmare for little ones. It's pretty inconsiderate, especially since she knows about yours.

While you can't make her do anything in her own garden, it's definitely worth having a friendly chat to see if she'd consider a different day as a favour for your little one's first birthday. Fingers crossed you can sort it out and have a lovely celebration!

I seem to remember, god forbid, there might have been some alcohol involved at my one year old’s party too, babies are such squares 😂Obviously no one was wrecked or anything but I think most people that weren’t driving had a glass of bubbly.

This is either a child's birthday party in which case it's a couple of hours during the day before the neighbour's party gets going ... or it's an adult party in which case what next door is doing won't signify (maybe you could all join forces??)

Either way, I'm intrigued that you and your neighbour both have "really tiny" gardens and yet yours fits 12 adults and a few babies, and your neighbours fits 20-25 people.

Precious

Oh my days. You are absolutely unreasonable and very entitled in thinking this.

She's probably doing it as she doesn't want the sound of a load of screaming babies interrupting her, so thought can't beat them, join them 🤷‍♀️

Surely this could happen frequently with both yourselves and neighbours hosting in the garden, isn't that just normal life? Surely you don't expect them to tell you every time they are having friends round for the day and into the evening, and likewise you wouldn't expect to tell them each time you were having friends round.
You say the gardens are small, yet you are inviting 12 adults (and I assume you and then your DP so 14 adults in total) so it can't be that small.
I get that you thought this would be a special occasion but people such as neighbours are not going to be that invested in your child and making sure things are perfect in the way you want (and unless they were particularly good friends I don't see why you invited them to the party either?).

You can ask but she can also say No.

Was the one year old driving, or did they have a glass?

I hear BBQ smoke is a gateway drug for babies and they’ll be on the crack by bedtime

When you think mumsnet can't get any stranger....
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PFB = precious first born

Maybe it’ll rain and neither party will be in the garden.

OP, there are just some things you can’t control.

This is a really strange post. Must be a wind up, or reverse. Incase it’s neither, yes OP, you are being unreasonable.

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What are you expecting to be able to do about this realistically?

Im sure the neighbours party wont start ‘In the Morning’

The neighbour: "neighbour has party with 12 kids, I am sure there will be lots of screaming kids, can I ask her to move her party elsewere?- No, you can't do that, but make your own party so you don't hear the screaming kids! -Great ideea!" The end!

Lmao person wants to have a party in their own home and garden. Stop the press.

FYI the only people who care about a 1 year olds bday are their parents.

Unless communal garden YABVU. Should the whole street stay indoors so as not to ruin your party if you want a private venue you should book 1

Overstimulated...um 😳

YABU.

Lol...you obviously joking . No one can be this controlling can they. Yabu.

You are being ridiculous

Annnnd that's enough Internet for the day.

Funny OP! 🤣🤣🤣

I think having an all-day party from early morning to evening is abit unneighborly, tbh. But you can't do anything about it so just crack on with your own celebration.