AIBU being against my neighbor having a party on the same day as my DC’s?

[Mocha0202]

its my DC’s first birthday and I sent out invitations a month ago. I also invited my neighbor.
i will have a few babies over and about 12 adults.

A couple of days ago my neighbor told me she’s planning on having a party in her garden (that’s over the hedge from mine), with a big bbq and about 20-25 adults. They will be outside from the morning until the night, alcohol obviously involved.

I am concerned about the noise and the smoke overstimulating the children and basically ruining my party.
AIBU for thinking that it’s a very inconsiderate thing to do and asking her to change the date of her party?

Maybe move to the middle of a field?

I think if there was a party next door involving lots of babies/children, I’d have a barbecue too! Just to drown out the noise.

Crikey...

I'm imagining the babies on the neighbour's side of the hedge, having loads of riotous fun.😁

Oh OP. “Overstimulated by smoke”. You are going to look back on this in a few years and die at how PFB you’re being. 🤣

Entitled much????

Separate gardens, separate parties. YABVU and self-centred.

so she’s holding it Saturday or Sunday? Sounds like she wants to hold it same day as your thing so she doesn’t have to invite you!

I bet whatever day she says and then you say I’ll do it opposite, she will change.

In this country we have to take our good weather and outdoor parties when we can get them so yes yabu.

One of our neighbours likes to do the bouncy castle and DJ party in the garden combo for their kids birthdays - it's annoying as fuck for the rest of us - but it's their garden, they're not doing anything illegal (although how shit the music is is bordering on criminal) so it's grit teeth and get on with life territory.

I came on to say YABU but I see you've realised yourself. It's lovely to see someone who is able to take on board criticism with grace.

You and your little one will have a lovely party, an additional party close by will probably add to the atmosphere and I seriously doubt they will be too drunk and loud during the day (unless they have form!) so it'll be be absolutely fine x

I don’t know what you are on about? Of course you are being unreasonable, it’s not even as if your DC will even remember this party. Your neighbour will be having ‘Alcohol’ imagine that - a party with Alcohol - shocking behaviour in her own garden 🥴 you need to lighten up.