AIBU being against my neighbor having a party on the same day as my DC’s?

[Mocha0202]

its my DC’s first birthday and I sent out invitations a month ago. I also invited my neighbor.
i will have a few babies over and about 12 adults.

A couple of days ago my neighbor told me she’s planning on having a party in her garden (that’s over the hedge from mine), with a big bbq and about 20-25 adults. They will be outside from the morning until the night, alcohol obviously involved.

I am concerned about the noise and the smoke overstimulating the children and basically ruining my party.
AIBU for thinking that it’s a very inconsiderate thing to do and asking her to change the date of her party?

Wow, yabvu

What have I just read? 😂 Can you IMAGINE what OP is like in her close proximity life if she genuinely thinks she just has to say the word and her NEIGHBOURS will cancel their party of 20-25 adults…in case they ‘overstimulate’ her child from a different garden.?! W T A F?! Change YOUR party, chick and apologise to everyone who knows you.

Ha ha precious first born on steroids here. Hilarious. Of course you’re being unreasonable for worrying that your party could be at the same time as hers. So ridiculous. Also - sorry to burst your bubble but you do know your baby won’t have a clue what’s going on.

Is this click bait? You do realise the world doesn’t revolve around you and your child don’t you? Of course YABU.

Do you own your neighbour's house too??

Welp, her party sounds more fun than yours. So, why don't you ditch all those whiney kids and boring guests and go get shitfaced next door?

No way can you dictate what she does. Imagine it’s a carnival and the whole street are joyously celebrating!

You can't stop them having a party in the yard as much as they can't stop you from having one

Oh christ, you're one of those people. No, you can't expect anyone to move their arrangements to suit you. No, the world doesn't revolve around you. Yes, you are being totally unreasonable.

😂. Why on earth can she can not have a party n her own garden?

You can ask her, if you don’t mind looking completely batshit!

If you invited her to your party a month ago, did she ever reply? Was her telling you about her party her way of saying she wouldn't be attending yours? Did she counter your invitation with one to hers?

I don't think you can ask her to change the date of her party (and I don't think she would accommodate you if you tried) but I can understand why you would feel bothered by this given the noise and the smoke from the bbq and the tight space. Do what you can to make your party as enjoyable as possible--maybe by shifting it into the morning, before nap time, etc, or take it to a park instead.

In the future op. You will look back on this thread, situation and cringe so badly. It's a complete none issue have your party and your neighbour has hers.... that's it the beginning and end of it.

😂😂😂 a one year old doesn't even know it's Their birthday let alone remember it

"I'm looking for advice. I've got a birthday coming up and had pencilled in a BBQ with friends at mine. I've got a lovely garden and want to enjoy it. It would be about 20-25 adults, obviously alcohol, but nothing raucous, and a good spread of food. My Neighbour had mentioned something weeks ago about her kids having a birthday, but it was so long ago I'd forgotten, just assumed it had been and gone. Now I've read the invite properly I've realised the parties clash! Obviously I can't go to next doors child's birthday but that's no big deal. But now the Mum is expecting me to cancel!! Because apparently the smoke from the BBQ might overexcite the kids! What is she expecting? Clouds of smoke billowing through the hedge meaning the kids can't find each other during hide and seek? 🤣 She's being ridiculous. What about the screaming hyperactive sugar filled demons who'll be shrieking constantly and kicking the ball over at my guests? It'll ruin my party but I would never expect her to cancel. I am being unreasonable in still going ahead with my own party? What on earth will my guests think? Screams and footballs in the potato salad will ruin a party much more than the smell of hotdogs!"

OP get over yourself.

You're going to struggle when LO starts school....how will you cope when little Bertie has a party on the same day as your PFB 😱

This is what I figured. You'd be out making whatever noise you were making and so she wouldn't be a disturbance to you. If she meant to disrupt your party, that would be very unreasonable indeed and rather incomprehensible.

If I were told the neighbours were having a party, I would spontaneously be inclined to use the same date so we don't annoy each other because we are both entertaining! Goes to show what I know.

Sick of seeing and hearing if entitled assholes that think they own the world, they don't like you doing stuff then don't mind when they are doing the same stuff. Grow up and start thinking about the other people too.

Very similar,it was asking the op not to use her garden incase it offended the posh guests her neighbour would be hosting.

This has got to be a wind-up!!

You don't say!

Well, that's another day of learning for me.

Annoying isn't it 😒. But you can't ask your neighbours to change the date of their party. If you don't like them having a party at the same time then try and book a venue and let the invitees know of the change if venue, or you can change the date of your party instead.

You’re worried about smoke overstimulating the babies?

I take it this is your PFB OP.

Gently - you are. Your child is never going to remember its first birthday. Enjoy your gathering on the same day as your neighbour (likely to be at a different time?!) and move on with your day/life.