DH embarrassed and blaming me

[Dreco]

Currently in Italy. Yesterday DH and I went to the pier, it was pretty isolated, just a couple of men fishing. I saw a cave type thing with some statues inside it so we went to have a look however as we made our way towards it the ground became quite overgrown and difficult so I said he should go ahead and I’ll wait here for him. Told him to take photos. As I headed back I passed a couple who surprisingly spoke English (first English speaking people I’d spoken to since arriving). We exchanged pleasantries and then the woman went ahead to the cave - her DH held back like I did.

a few minutes later DH came stumbling back through the overgrown area, face bright red looking like he’d seen a ghost! I asked what was wrong and he gestured towards the car and hurried off towards it. We got in and this is what had happened at the cave …

DH heard the woman approaching the cave, assumed it was me - hid in said cave and then shouted “you’re scared!” Apparently the woman jumped out of her skin - DH came out of the cave, realised what he’d done and then basically made a hasty exit leaving the woman looking a little confused.

I thought it was hilarious - thankfully he didn’t say anything more inappropriate considering some of the daft stuff DH and I say to each other when nobody is around! He is somehow blaming me and not seeing the funny side. I can’t understand why he didn’t just apologise and tell her he thought it was his wife approaching! God knows what she must have thought and id love to know what she said to her husband afterwards 😂

AIBU to find it funny?! Despite how mortified DH is?

In which case why not actually come on to the thread and say so instead of just mocking me for saying so?
Ii suppose easier to use the laugh emoji to mock someone for their view point rather than actually verbalise a comment.

Honestly, you'll find life a lot easier and more fun if you chill out a bit.

Is that your justification for mocking someone's comment that was obviously not funny? It's their fault for not enjoying being mocked?

Quite!

Your DH was embarrassed and didn’t handle the situation as well as he could have but he’s laughing about it now, just as you and the couple were!

I didn't get to the comments before I knew there'd be people making a big deal about him scaring a random woman

You didn't disappoint MN

He was obviously cringing and I'm glad he's now joking again with you as he gets over the cringe 🤣

Sorry to verbalise, but isn´t that what emojis are for???

Why did you divorce your first husband? He thought another woman was me and shouted ‘you’re scared’ as a joke’. I thought it was unforgivable and went to a solicitor the minute we got back. I’m on my tenth marriage now.

Oh god there’s always one. OP isn’t laughing at the woman he gave a fright to, and on what planet would you think her husband wouldn’t have apologised to this woman. OP is laughing at her husband for making such a funny mistake

This is the kind of thing DH and I would spend hours laughing at 😂 we went to the zoo once with my stepdad and Mum and other family members. There was a man who spent ages setting up his professional camera, kneeling in the correct position to get a shot of a lion and my DH pushed his shoulder as he clicked the camera (the man had the same hair colour, cut and colour top on as my stepdad) my DH was mortified whilst we all absolutely cried with laughter after we saw that the photographer was also laughing at my husbands mistake 😆

The laugh emoji reaction is provided to laugh at something a poster says that is clearly intended to be funny.

It is not intended to be used to laugh at what is clearly a serious comment or post. I.e. it is not intended to be used to mock, bully or deride another poster.

And if you don't believe me MN have stated the intended use of the emoji is not to mock other posters.

Very, very funny. Glad to hear he’s seeing the funny side. It’s a good story for all involved - and demonstrates that you and DH have a fun relationship.

I know people who would not find this funny and they are not my friends.

I thought this..."you're scared"? Weird!

I'd have found it hilarious OP but so would my dh - except he'd have probably grabbed me and lifted me off the ground or something too so at least your dh didn't do that!

Lol at all the silly overreactions ( so predictable on MN).

Why?

I thought MN was about posting opinions not deliberately being offensive and unpleasant to other posters.

Surely its about posting opinions and then having those opinions challenged or responded to. Not just a space for everyone to say whatever they like, however stupid, without fear of being told what people think of your opinion.
Why do you think you have some sort of right to say what you like and nobody has a right to say "That's stupid."?

I thought she had caught him having a sneaky pee in the cave! But he could have apologised before running off.

How can she check the other woman is ok? OP's H told her to go to the car before she knew what had happened.

Blaming the OP for "not checking on the other woman" instead of blaming her silly arsed husband - unbelievable

If the other couple were laughing as they emerged from the cave it sounds as though, if OP and her DH had stuck around, it could have been the start of a beautiful friendship!

I am sitting here laughing to myself this comment has aced it

oh ffs

Not everyone walks round continuously policing their own and others actions in case "someone" has trauma.

Thinking it was his wife..

Chill out for goodness sake! It was a genuine mistake, stop catastrophising.

Shrines...

OP has explained it wasn't shrines. You assumed disrespect 🤣

I dread encountering the poe-faced posters on this thread in real life - every little tiny thing is an opportunity to be offended and triggered

The anxiety and depression drugs just don't seem to work

It's hilarious OP - I'd still be laughing at DP now about it, maybe even for months

You’re up there with @Walkingonmoss for being brilliantly batshit OTT.

This thread’s responses makes me feel like we’re being trolled. Hopefully.