To think my husband is wrong for reporting my sister for benefit fraud?

[Rockyhardplace25]

So back story:

My sister is a lot younger than me. There is a 15 year age gap- so I basically raised her as my mother was struggling with an alcohol addiction and wasn’t fit to until she went into rehab when my sister was 9. We have a very, strong close relationship.
Sister has also had her own issues with drugs- but when she found out she was pregnant with my niece 8 years ago, went to rehab and has sorted her life out. To some extent.
She has a much older partner, the gap is nearly 30 years, who she met in her addiction who has also, again to some extent, sorted his life out. In that aspect- I take my hat off to both of them.
This man was married with adult children and got my sister pregnant after a one night stand. He left his wife and moved in with my sister. His “other family” have completely cut him off apart from his eldest child- who, from what I can work out, uses him as a bank.

Me and DH have one child, DD who is now a 11, Children are expensive- there’s no two ways about it. With clothing, school trips, days out etc it does add up. DSIS has a 7 year old and is now pregnant with a second child who we are all very excited about.

DSIS doesn’t work and claims sickness benefits, her partner does. Up until recently we assumed she was reporting his income as part of her claim- but we have found out through a slip of the tounge she isn’t. She isn’t even declaring he lives with her, which he does full time. His bank account, car and other things that could link him back to DSIS house is registered to his son’s address. A son he gives £1500 a month too.

DSIS was brought a house when she turned 18 (we have same mum, different dads) so solely pays the mortgage and a lump of the bills herself topped up by her partner. If he/the kids need anything he will go out and buy it but doesn’t directly contribute to the monthly running of the home. Which has pissed me off if I’m honest.

DH is even more pissed off- feels she is taking the piss, as is he, she is committing fraud and why is it fair we both work our arses off to pay our monthly bills when she’s getting it handed to her on a plate but wouldn’t if she was honest. DH thinks if she does that then her partner will leave her because at the moment he’s pretty much living the life of Riley with no expenses.

Hes admitted to me over the weekend he’s reported her for benefit fraud. I don’t know how I feel- I keep flitting from one thing to the next- but ultimately she is my sister and I am worried she will get into serious shit.

This, fed up with the 🥺🥺 but it's faaaamily.... of course she's entitled to be a lazy, scuzzy shite....how awful to expect someone who could work and look after and fund themselves and their dependents to do so!! If someone doesn't want to work.and expect taxpayers to fund them, of course that should happen!!

Or rather, who steal from the poor old taxpayer.

Thing is, there’s people working longer and into old age to fund spongers like your sister. Your DH did the right thing.
Disclaimer: I don’t class all people on benefits as spongers but clearly she can manage without funds from the government.

What a stupid thing to say because knowing is not stealing herself. The poster doesn’t condone benefit fraud as said she gets annoyed by it but the family relationship deters her from wanting to get her sister into trouble.

Oh I don’t condone what your sister is doing but I would be absolutely raging with my DH for doing this.

If he really felt that strongly about it, he could have warned her. But he did it out of spite.

and your niece will be the one that really suffers.

And there are so many people here on MN that are in complete denial that benefit fraud doesn’t exist when everyone knows that it does!

Your Husband did the right thing

How is your sister paying her mortgage?

With the £1500 he gives to his son I doubt they will do anything. I'm surprised that her benefits are enough to make it worth while!

I think I would’ve given the sister a chance to straighten up and get off the benefits or go low on the benefits or whatever.
And then if she continued to deceive the government, I’d tell her I was turning her in and do it.
I feel like OP’s husband was more resentful than offended that the sister was taking advantage.
I wouldn’t have gone off half-cocked like he did.

This

Don’t agree with benefit fraud at all but I don’t think I could forgive my husband either for this tbh so difficult

It’s not something I would have done to my SIL without consulting my spouse.

She will get into serious shit. And the word is BOUGHT

No, it's not the partner, it's the OP's sister.

I’m not sure I could ever forgive him for deliberately making my sister’s life worse, especially as he’s not motivated by doing the right thing.

Your husband did the right thing.

This - just spiteful. He sounds awful to be honest.

If my sister (I dont have a sister but still) was stealing from a family member I'd get involved and get it sorted; I wouldn't involve the police.

If my partner's sister was stealing from a member of her family and my partner knew about it, I would do nothing unless I was asked to.

It might have been a prefab and they brought it to her on a lorry.

She’s a thief, of course he did the right thing

No, It. Is Not.

As a UK taxpayer I am grateful to people like your DP. Rumble the cheats!

Well I for one am glad the brought/bought thing has been clarified, I was completely confused about the entire op but it now makes sense!

The fraud has to stop. I don’t think your sister and her DP will ever stop until they’re reported.

I hope they’re made to pay back every penny. I don’t pay taxes to pay off randoms’ mortgages.

Yes.

I mean tbf OP you had the chance to report her yourself but you didn't so bravo to your husband. People keep spouting benefit fraud doesn't exist when clearly it does but people aren't reporting it. It's a disgrace.