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Friend and her boyfriend came over for dinner last night - CF behaviour?

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HyJess · 04/05/2025 17:57

DP and I recently moved into our first house and invited one of my friends and her new boyfriend over for dinner last night. It’s only the second time we’ve met him and we weren’t overly sure of him on the first occasion but of course were going to give the benefit of the doubt and hoped to get to know him better.

Firstly, they didn’t bring anything with them e.g a bottle or a dessert etc. Not a massive deal (we always would as a courtesy), but her boyfriend likes a drink and DP was annoyed that at the pace he was drinking, he gave him more of his beer than he drunk himself.

When they first arrived, we excitedly gave a tour of our house and my friend commented on one of the bedrooms being small (it’s the third room which we will use as an office so is what it is) and said something about how she didn’t like the decor in the lounge - we’ll get round to updating it but she wasn’t to know it wasn’t something we’d done ourselves. She didn’t really say anything positive.

For dinner, I made a pasta dish which I’ve done a few times before and I’d checked with my friend in the week that they’d both like it. When we were eating it, my friend commented that it was very ‘rich’. I wasn’t sure how to take it whether it was a compliment or criticism. Her boyfriend immediately followed up by saying that he hoped he didn’t suffer the consequences in the morning. Which was basically him saying he hoped my cooking wouldn’t make him ill. Both of them cleared their plates anyway!

Afterwards, we were sat in the kitchen drinking and chatting and her boyfriend asked me if we had christened the kitchen yet, I asked what he meant and he said have we had sex in there. I said that would be difficult and he sheepishly laughed. Completely inappropriate question.

My friend said thanks for hosting when their taxi picked them up but her boyfriend didn’t.

I probably sound a bit nit picky but it felt like one thing after another and just a bit rude!

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Someonelookedatmypostinghistorysoichanged · 04/05/2025 18:00

Yep rude, and probably jealous. The bf is a cf and I wouldn’t be hosting again.

SilviaSnuffleBum · 04/05/2025 18:01

The few things youve listed make them both sound like ignorant wankers.

Scottishskifun · 04/05/2025 18:03

Yep incredibly rude!

Your friend sounds like she might be a bit jealous with the snarky remarks as well.
Personally I wouldn't be in a hurry to invite them around again!

Acc0untant · 04/05/2025 18:04

How old are they? They sound very young.

Jeschara · 04/05/2025 18:04

Life is too short to bother with these cheeky fuckers, they are rude, he is crude, and they don't know how to conduct themselves.

SquadGoals75 · 04/05/2025 18:06

Wow. Total arseholes both of them! Would it have killed them to bring a £5 bottle of wine? I’d be having absolutely nothing to do with either of them and certainly never have them in your house again.

HyJess · 04/05/2025 18:07

Acc0untant · 04/05/2025 18:04

How old are they? They sound very young.

Friend is 30’s, boyfriend early 40’s.

We won’t be inviting them back in a hurry - DP’s first comment when they left was ‘what a tosser’!

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londongirl12 · 04/05/2025 18:07

Yeah I wouldn’t be having that friend back over again. Sounds really jealous. Assuming her life isn’t similar to yours (house etc?)

HyJess · 04/05/2025 18:08

londongirl12 · 04/05/2025 18:07

Yeah I wouldn’t be having that friend back over again. Sounds really jealous. Assuming her life isn’t similar to yours (house etc?)

She rents currently. She did own a house with her ex but they split a few years ago.

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pimplebum · 04/05/2025 18:09

friends don’t behave like that

BobbyBiscuits · 04/05/2025 18:13

Yeah, they sound dreadful.

Though I wouldn't be offering tours of my house. I'm firmly with Larry David on that front. I don't think most people are that interested and showing bedrooms off to people who'll never use them or go in them again is just not necessary.

But no need to be so rude. And why not bring some booze if you're a big drinker?

I hope you don't invite them again.

NuffSaidSam · 04/05/2025 18:13

I don't know if they're CF's, but they both sound like they don't know how to behave socially.

I can see from the BF's point of view that it was a bit of a weird night, but your friend should have done better. Is she normally a bit socially clumsy or is this new?

S0j0urn4r · 04/05/2025 18:13

I wouldn't be rushing to invite either of them back.

RampantIvy · 04/05/2025 18:14

We won’t be inviting them back in a hurry

We won’t be inviting them back in a hurry ever

I have just corrected that for you.

Mickeychampionwhatgoodami · 04/05/2025 18:15

Common courtesy to take something IE Beers,wine.
The sex comment about the kitchen that's a buffoon.
Friends catty remarks,nah there wouldn't be a second time hosting.

WayneEyre · 04/05/2025 18:15

Doesn't sound a very nice overall impression (obv each detail can be explained away).

I wouldn't care how much he drank for instance (as long as he could handle it), but I would expect them to acknowledge your excitement about your new house and be polite about your cooking.

What is she usually like herself? Is she critical?

FlyPhobicDog · 04/05/2025 18:17

HyJess · 04/05/2025 18:07

Friend is 30’s, boyfriend early 40’s.

We won’t be inviting them back in a hurry - DP’s first comment when they left was ‘what a tosser’!

Boyfriend early 40s! Jesus. Assumed they were both 20s by the comments 😂 He in particularly sounds classless. Your friend doesn’t have great manners but not as bad.

HyJess · 04/05/2025 18:18

WayneEyre · 04/05/2025 18:15

Doesn't sound a very nice overall impression (obv each detail can be explained away).

I wouldn't care how much he drank for instance (as long as he could handle it), but I would expect them to acknowledge your excitement about your new house and be polite about your cooking.

What is she usually like herself? Is she critical?

She is usually okay, maybe a bit more cynical towards life in general since her one big relationship ended but I don’t think her boyfriend brings the best out in her. I do feel a bit like she’s settling which is horrible to say I know but she deserves someone who is more mature..

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arethereanyleftatall · 04/05/2025 18:19

I don’t think they’re jealous, but they are rude. I wouldn’t invite them back.

HelloYesxxxx · 04/05/2025 18:44

Definitely rude!

When he asked the christening the kitchen question, I would of responded "why would you ask that question" or something similar to make him feel stupid.

Definitely do not invite them round again!

Whenim63 · 04/05/2025 18:48

They don’t know how to behave. Don’t invite them back.

Whenim63 · 04/05/2025 18:50

HelloYesxxxx · 04/05/2025 18:44

Definitely rude!

When he asked the christening the kitchen question, I would of responded "why would you ask that question" or something similar to make him feel stupid.

Definitely do not invite them round again!

Alternatively “well, we were banging like a barn door on it 5 minutes before you arrived, but don’t worry, we gave it a wipe” would have wiped the smirk off his face!

coxesorangepippin · 04/05/2025 18:57

Jealous

And the no gift for you as the hostess is an utter fail

coxesorangepippin · 04/05/2025 18:58

Early 40's, Christ

I thought you were gonna say 20's

What an arse

viques · 04/05/2025 19:01

If people haven’t learned basic social skills by their age then they are never going to. I would dump.

Think of it as saving on future Christmas and birthday card expenses.