Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

[ByTidyHare]

I attended my best friends wedding a few weeks ago. The day after, I posted some photos to Instagram which were mainly of me and my DP, with one of them of myself and my friend.

This was posted in the morning and on the same afternoon, my friend messaged me to ask I took it down as she didn’t want any photos posted from the day. I said of course and removed it. Before the ceremony, there was an announcement not to upload anything to social media which I assumed related solely to the ceremony and as we were quite near the back, I didn’t take any photos of this anyway. The photo of my friend and I was taken later that evening.

My friend went on her honeymoon soon after. I learnt from another friend whilst she was away that she was really upset with me for uploading the photo and that it ruined her reveal of the day/dress with professional photos as people would have seen it on my page for the few hours it was uploaded.

I didn’t want to message my friend whilst she was still away so I waited until she returned. I apologised, said I was horrified and that I’d mis-understood the instructions thinking they only related to the ceremony.

She replied to say she was still really upset and that I took away the reveal which she’d only have one chance to do in her life and she can’t believe I ignored her wishes. I again apologised but she hasn’t spoke to me since and I’ve learnt from another friend that she doesn’t think she will forgive me.

AIBU to think my friend is now over reacting or is her reaction proportionate?

That's different. The bride was going to have loads of pictures on there. It's a total over reaction.

She sounds like a self absorbed wanker who cares not a jot about the actual marriage but only about how things look.

Trying to control every detail of how guests behave is appallingly selfish. Your day your way has gone much too far. You aren't just getting married, you are also hosting.

Absolutely cringewortby.

If she is that way inclined, she'll only forgive you if she gets divorced. She is a princess though

That. I'm old, and would normally not be considered to be fully 'up' with social media, And even I know this.

Anyone who posts a wedding photo or new baby pic etc etc before the person whose special event it is, it's trying to show off. "Look how close I am to this person!"

The bride in this case has gone a bit OTT, but I'm struggling to believe that OP posted that photo in innocence.

It's completely different to a new baby picture. Loads of people were at the wedding, they all saw her. What's the deal? An arrangement from Hello?

She is being a bit precious with the whole “reveal nonsense”, but YABVU to a) post photos of people on social media without asking them and b)posting on social media after be clearly told not to

It's really not unusual

@KateDelRick - but presumably the bride can choose which photographs from an expensive photographer she posts. She doesn't want every shot. And who can blame her?

Well, she can either ban phones or just relax and think it's not the most important thing.

Must be a great honeymoon if all she is doing is combing social media and throwing a strop.

But of course, the photos of it will be insta-perfect😂😂😂

I know! Who even thinks about this sort of thing in honeymoon? I would suggest that's problematic.

And I bet she paid handsomely for that. So I don't blame her.

Thanks for the replies everyone, to just pick up on a couple of things:

-I couldn’t edit my first post but it meant to say she is ‘one of’ my best friends. Bridesmaids were her sisters and two of her oldest school friends so no issue with not being involved here.

-I didn’t really rush to post anything, I’ve just checked and that was my first upload since last summer and was because it was a rare occasions I’ve actually got a decent photo with my partner! You had to scroll past three photos to see the one with my friend and I.

The reveal!! 💀💀💀😂 who gives AF? Move on….

Is your friend Taylor Swift or were Hello magazine in attendance? If not then she can do one, nobody cares and saw the dress at the wedding anyway. FFS some people are nuts. Block and move on.

She really needs to get over herself. She should also accept your apology. She definitely needs to mature. Tbh she is no friend drop her.

YABU only if she is a celebrity and had sold her image rights for the wedding for £££!!!!

No way. Why are people so self important and self absorbed? I get the reveal thing but only on the day, and to the people actually invited. ‘Revealing’ to the ones who weren’t is very main character.
After our wedding loads of candid photos were shared. What did I do with them? Put them all in an album and reshared ones (of us) with private tags. It was great because there were pictures of parts of the day that we weren’t in because if getting around everyone.

I still want to know who she was revealing to.

A wedding is not like, for example, having a baby.

Like when you have a baby, no one else is there but your partner, no one has seen the baby before or knows they’ve been born or knows what you named them.

But surely, you invite all your friends and family to your wedding. They were there. They’ve seen the dress. They know you did the thing. Surely, no one else gives a shit.

Yes this! It’s common sense!

a picture of you and partner dressed up -usually fine -but not the bride /groom until they ha e posted their pictures (and even then I’d check with them for any candid pics)

Maybe the photos will all be "photoshopped" so she looks fantastic, so didn't want anyone to see the "real" photos. Loads of people do it, why I've no idea.

She knows you posted a photo, she's presuming everyone she knows is on your Facebook. However everyone she knows was probably at the wedding . The big reveal! Who does she think she is that anyone actually cares about her dress! In a week it's likely no one having actually been there will recall the colour !

I think she is being a bit precious, and I think you were a bit thoughtless.

You’ve apologised so I’d leave the ball in her court to contact you

Agree.
Sounds likes she’s obsessed with social media. Her issue, not yours!
the world doesn’t revolve around her.