Is this weird parenting?

[JillAndJenTheFlowerpotMen]

I have one dd who is a young teenager and who hasn’t yet hit puberty. I have been thinking that when she starts her period, I might buy her a small piece of jewellery to give her, to mark her transition to womanhood. And take her mind off the fact that she’ll have hormonal shit going on for the next forty years or so.

something like this: https://www.johnlewis.com/auree-hampton-gold-vermeil-pendant-necklace/gold-ruby/p111668104

Am I being weird? Or is this a nice thing to do?

Now this is Definitely an idea I'm going to go with! 🤣😂

@JillAndJenTheFlowerpotMen I think marking the transition to puberty and growing up is lovely. Lots of cultures do it. It’s such a shame menses have been hidden and talked of negatively in our culture for so long.
When our DD started, around the same time as a couple of friends, we had a low key celebration as families together.
Do whatever feels right for you and your daughter

You know your daughter best but I would have hated this as a child (though it's a lovely thought!). I reaaally didn't want people to make a big deal of it when I started my period.

Easy access to pads or period underwear, her choice of food for dinner, and being understanding if she's a bit emotional or snappy might be more helpful in the moment.

When I was a teenager, I definitely did not want a big deal (or any deal) made over the fact that I started my period

I think it's nice.My eldest would have loved this.My youngest would have raised an eyebrow.

Absolutely weird, don't do it

Is that like those shag bands we all used to wear? 🤔

I would not have liked this at all. Also, your taste in jewelry needs....... Adjustment.

I think it’s a lovely idea op.

Some religions and cultures mark an entry into adulthood, such as in Judaism with the Bar and Bat Mitzvah, and so I don’t think your suggestion is at all strange.

Wet dreams are a sign of sexual interest not puberty in itself. Why do people have to compare the two. So unnecessary. It's more comparable to their little crap moustaches that they're ever so proud of

I think it's lovely. It is a milestone of sorts. She'll remember it and who knows maybe when/if she had a daughter she will do the same.

Batshit.

I was 11 - Mum got me a new colouring in book to take my mind off it. DD was 11 and it happened on a city break abroad - I got her a light raspberry beer as she was an adult now 😂

I actually think it's a lovely idea , it's a big change in a girls life , if.you think she'd like it then why not

I believe it's a smaller percentage of women that have bad periods so I would see no point in starting the "nuisance" and "periods are shit" mindset from the off?

unwanted regular bleeding

HOW can that be anything but a nuisance for most women, if not pretty much all.

It's not a mindset. It's a fact. WHO would ever say "I need to wear tampax/ a pad/ mooncup for the next few days, yipee!" unless they were worried about an unexpected pregancy

It’s another bit of weird parenting, I guess. You did pose the question. Most people answered yes. If you have to ask then there’s probably a part of you that sees it. But you know your DD and so are best placed to know whether she’ll find it weird or not.

I never minded having my period; it made me feel in sync with the universe.

Planting the notion that it's some sort of horrible burden and that we are helpless victims of hormones is now how I would parent a young girl. Why not encourage her to be fascinated by her changing body and OK with what it does?

Pretty narrow minded.

What a bunch of arseholes on this thread. I think it's a lovely idea and something I would have done if I'd had daughters.

OP asked a question, posters replied and they are arseholes? Is anyone who doesn't agree with you an arsehole or are you just triggered?

Posters are not only talking about their experience with their own daughters, but also their OWN experience.

No need to patronise us and tell us how WE should feel about our own periods, we don't need your input on our body and experience, thanks.

Say what now?

feel free to elaborate about your own experience, if mine (and everybody else I know) is too narrow minded for you.

It is a little bit weird, but I think it’s also nice. But maybe not a ruby - that makes it more weird! Just a nice necklace that she’ll want to keep. I agree with some others, it will be a nice memory of your love and support when she’s older, even if she find it cringe now.

It's not wierd at all. In great chunks of the world it's a rite of passage you can celebrate - look up menarche celebrations if you are interested. I think acknowledging and marking it is nice if you want to: just between you with the pendant, or within the family or even a full out party!

As with all things the day to realities might not be worth celebrating but each advent of growing up is!

You know you own daughter, so have a better idea than strangers on the internet of whether she would like this.

I didn't buy mine anything, but it's definitely the sort of thing I would do. And when I make sentimental gestures like this DD tolerates then/finds them sweet - she knows it's one of my love languages. (Thr sort of phrase I use and she laughs at!)

She had got various jewellery items I have bought her that she never wears - bracelets saying "I am the storm" and so on. She does keep them. But in truth I think she would rather have the money, to spend on going shopping with her BFF!

But if your dd likes jewellery like this and is sentimental, go for it! Don't let other people make you feel bad about it just because they maybe aren't fully confortable with the concept of menstruation - that is a them problem!

Yeah me too