Is this weird parenting?

[JillAndJenTheFlowerpotMen]

I have one dd who is a young teenager and who hasn’t yet hit puberty. I have been thinking that when she starts her period, I might buy her a small piece of jewellery to give her, to mark her transition to womanhood. And take her mind off the fact that she’ll have hormonal shit going on for the next forty years or so.

something like this: https://www.johnlewis.com/auree-hampton-gold-vermeil-pendant-necklace/gold-ruby/p111668104

Am I being weird? Or is this a nice thing to do?

I think a treat like a day out when it's over to make her feel better, or some new pyjamas/ chocolates etc, something comforting, is much more appropriate .

Very strange indeed

I did this with my eldest daughter and will do it when my youngest daughter hits puberty!

There is too much shame associated with womanhood and personally it needs to stop!

I bought her a necklace to mark the occasion that I knew she would love, and I congratulated her on her body doing what nature intended it to do!

The engraving on the back of the pendent says ‘May all your transitions bring you joy’’

She will probably have many in her life, going to university and living independently, getting married, becoming a mother, etc…

I am perimenopausal and on the happy day my periods finally end and I officially have the menopause I will buy myself a bangle with the same inscription on the inside!

Many of the comments on this thread reinforce a negative perception of menstruation, but it’s completely normal! As a mother I have always tried to remove a stigma associated with a natural life transition!

OP I think your idea is kind!

Is it not a bit handmaids tale??

😂
The pads were so long on me that they used to wag at the back like a tail as I walked!

But she isn’t a woman though, she’s an adolescent and surely a period is a fairly big marker of that in itself? My teens would not have appreciated this at all. It is weird.

My mother bought me a moon necklace which I then felt obliged to wear. She also wrote a ritual and litergy which was published in a book about women's cultural and spiritual practices. I refused to do the ritual. She celebrated being published instead. I've been in therapy for years.

Brilliant and perfect, forever a private joke between the two of you!

I didn’t, because I didn’t think of it and no one else I knew did, I think it’s a nice idea. It’s a pretty monumental moment in a daughter’s life. Females go through so many hormonal ups and downs I feel it’s nice to recognise that.

note to self: buy something nice for me when I finish my 40 year stint!

How odd people are.

I think it’s a lovely idea and you shouldn’t be discouraged by all the negative comments. It is after all a rite of passage, even though we no longer celebrate it as such - and why should it not be marked with something special, between mother and daughter? I’m sure it will be something she will treasure.

Sorry - yes weird

Well I think it's nice!

I agree. Lovely idea 😀

I would buy her the necklace now. Tell her you saw it and thought she would like it so treated her. I wouldn’t give it her to celebrate her starting her period. That’s weird.

Why not? Other cultures celebrate this transition!

This! Save a present to mark her ‘womanhood’ for her 18th birthday. Let children be children.

getting your period does make her a woman. It’s just something that happens.

It looks like a clot on a chain.

My friend's dad bought her flowers and she was totally mortified that her mum had told him..
I think some chocolates and some new comfy pj's are much more appropriate

Are you religious?

Crikey. DH is a frightfully proper chap and very traditional.

However, it's 2025 and periods have been treated as a normal, every day matter in this house for 36 years. My DD, nearly 27, has never felt embarrassed about her periods or her father knowing about them. They are a fact of life.

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I love the idea.i also think maybe a nice silver necklace which a lot of girls seem to wear,that won’t tarnish after a while.

I think you are being thoughtful towards your daughter, but I would ask her opinion, not surprise her.

It’s really kind and I don’t think it’s weird. I think a lot of cultures have different traditions too for this sort of ‘coming of age’ thing, but I wonder if she’d like to choose something? Or like a PP said I think a pamper day and talking with you about everything would be much more valuable. I always remember things my mum did for me when I was young and those things are much more valued. I’ve lost all my jewellery given to me prior to the age of 30! So it will also quite possibly get lost anyway