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To ask if you are not a Christian, what non Christian values you live by?

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BlossomBlanket · 03/05/2025 12:26

Just that really!

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mbosnz · 17/05/2025 11:11

This came to mind while reading through, particularly about the archaeological finds, predating Christianity, which illustrate values which have been adopted by Christianity at some stage, to a greater or lesser degree;

"Margaret Mead, a renowned anthropologist, posited that the first sign of civilization is a healed human femur. She argued that in the animal kingdom, a broken femur would be fatal, as the animal would be unable to survive without the ability to hunt or escape predators. Therefore, a healed femur in humans indicates that someone was cared for long enough for the bone to mend, suggesting a level of social cooperation and compassion that is a precursor to civilization."

I'm not contributing this as a gotcha, or to pretend to any particular level of learnedness on any related subject. I guess though, that perhaps, religions, as well as individuals, could perhaps aspire to emulate the humility that they exhort individuals to have - to acknowledge their own roots and sources as it were?

Sabire9 · 17/05/2025 11:53

I suspect what the OP was hoping for was a thread whereby they could prove that all the values most people try to live by are actually 'Christian values', whether people accept it or not.

But if you start with a belief that our intrinsic nature as human beings evolved to bend towards altruism because of the necessity of community for human survival, it's reasonable to argue that religiosity is simply an expression of our intrinsic human nature, and a tool to promote optimal social functioning.

Dumbdog · 17/05/2025 11:57

Bill & Ted.

“be excellent to each other”

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 14:01

pointythings · 17/05/2025 09:19

This conversation is very difficult because one side of the discussion is very entrenched and doesn't actually know their side of the argument well enough.
Translation: Anyone who doesn't agree with me is ignorant and wrong. What a comfortable position that must be - no effort required to look at the perspective of those who do not agree with you.

They were also almost always, very religious, hierarchical and patriarchal
So in terms of religiously founded morality, nothing at all has changed, has it?

On human rights, I mostly agree with you - but Christianity or any other faith is not the solution. We can see what Project 2025 is doing to human rights in the US - the self-styled Christians are the ones holding the guns and removing the rights. Same in Iran and the Middle East - it's the infrastructure of the faiths that holds the weapons and is doing the oppressing. I'm amazed that you can't see that.

Human rights are precious. Currently in much of the West we have them - not because religious faith has bestowed them, mostly because after WW2, some of us learned lessons, got together and set out the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. It was NATO that drove that, not any particular faith. And of course NATO includes countries that are very religious, but it also includes countries that are not. It's common humanity at work.

Human rights predate WW2 - is it Christians with all the guns in the middle East and Iran?? I think it's a different religion altogether, these are not the West

What rights are being removed by religious people in the US?

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BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 14:05

pointythings · 17/05/2025 09:20

What have I said that is close minded?
You've said those of us who disagree with you don't know our arguments very well. We do - you are just choosing not to accept them as valid. That is close minded.

I stand by this. I'm a far better representative of the atheist position than you are because I was one for so long. There are a handful of arguments that are powerful challenges, but I've not heard of them from you yet. This isn't about atheism vs religion though. This is about non Christian morals and your morals are, broadly Christian

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Toooldforthisbollocks · 17/05/2025 14:08

Ffs
I don’t need the opium of the masses to have decent morals, ethics and values.
Neither does anyone else.
The arrogance!

Vplop · 17/05/2025 14:11

Respect and integrity. Kindness and empathy. People who can speak their truth with these values in their heart.

PruthePrune · 17/05/2025 14:15

Sex, drugs and sausage rolls.

Vplop · 17/05/2025 14:16

Sabire9 · 17/05/2025 11:53

I suspect what the OP was hoping for was a thread whereby they could prove that all the values most people try to live by are actually 'Christian values', whether people accept it or not.

But if you start with a belief that our intrinsic nature as human beings evolved to bend towards altruism because of the necessity of community for human survival, it's reasonable to argue that religiosity is simply an expression of our intrinsic human nature, and a tool to promote optimal social functioning.

I love an analytical and philosophical mind. I can never identify with an ideology because my mind is far too analytical. Perception is as unique as a fingerprint and we all have our own version of the truth. I want to examine things from all angles, and I can often find myself in two minds about something.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 17/05/2025 14:16

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 14:05

I stand by this. I'm a far better representative of the atheist position than you are because I was one for so long. There are a handful of arguments that are powerful challenges, but I've not heard of them from you yet. This isn't about atheism vs religion though. This is about non Christian morals and your morals are, broadly Christian

Could you explain in what way you think you are a good representative of the atheist position? Because I think your very dim view of humanity and modern society is far from being representative of most atheists. I can't help but wonder if it was your own unhappiness, arising from that rather warped view of the world, that led you into seeking solace in religion. It's a well trodden path, but happier atheists generally don't perceive the need.

My DH grew up in a non-Christian society in a remote community that had very few external influences. We have very different cultures and beliefs, but his moral values are very similar to mine...indeed, that was a big part of what drew us together. Do you think that the morals which his mother passed on to him were Christian in nature, even though she had almost certainly never heard of Christianity or met any Christians?

pointythings · 17/05/2025 14:24

What rights are being removed by religious people in the US?
Are you serious? Do you pay ANY attention to the news? Let's start with these:

  • the right to safe, legal abortion - this to include actual healthcare for women who are miscarrying. Women have died because of US abortion bans. Educate yourself!
  • the right to a broad education. Book bans are rife in red states.
  • the right to due process - have you heard of Juan Garcia Abrego, who was illegally deported to a hellhole prison in El Salvador? And JD Vance has justified this using his own interpretation of Catholic doctrine, and was quickly set straight by the Pope.
This is being done in the name of Prpject 2025. Maybe read up about it - these people want to create a dystopian nation along fundamentalist Christian lines. I'm not saying that they are Christians, they are entirely self styled, but they are certainly doing this in the name of Christianity.
pointythings · 17/05/2025 14:27

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 14:05

I stand by this. I'm a far better representative of the atheist position than you are because I was one for so long. There are a handful of arguments that are powerful challenges, but I've not heard of them from you yet. This isn't about atheism vs religion though. This is about non Christian morals and your morals are, broadly Christian

Again, you are claiming to be right and to know better. You claim that my morals are Christian when it has been pointed out to you that the morals we have in common are the same across many societal groups, both religious and not. Christianity doesn't own morality. However much you want it to.

Your opinion of my arguments and those of others is just that - an opinion. Oh and... I used to be religious. Up until I was 23. So by your logic, I'm a better representative of the religious position than you are - see where that falls down?

mbosnz · 17/05/2025 14:49

PruthePrune · 17/05/2025 14:15

Sex, drugs and sausage rolls.

It's a long way to the shops. If you wanna sausage roll. . .

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 15:31

Sabire9 · 17/05/2025 11:53

I suspect what the OP was hoping for was a thread whereby they could prove that all the values most people try to live by are actually 'Christian values', whether people accept it or not.

But if you start with a belief that our intrinsic nature as human beings evolved to bend towards altruism because of the necessity of community for human survival, it's reasonable to argue that religiosity is simply an expression of our intrinsic human nature, and a tool to promote optimal social functioning.

That was before technology. What happens when we only need to depend on our tech overlords for survival, genuine question.

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pointythings · 17/05/2025 15:40

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 15:31

That was before technology. What happens when we only need to depend on our tech overlords for survival, genuine question.

You can't destroy human nature. You can't destroy humanity. Honestly, I really think you need to seek out some support to deal with these feelings of being lost, threatened by technology, adrift in the world as it is now. These are not normal or healthy feelings. The world is not a bad place. It is full of beauty, full of good people doing great things - and technology is a part of that. It is full of grace, selflessness and love. You just aren't seeing any of those things. I worry that you are deeply depressed and carrying it alone.

And of course, there has always been 'technology'. The invention of the wheel was technology. We're all still here.

Fruitbatdancer · 17/05/2025 15:44

Life is too short for shit wine.

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 15:50

pointythings · 17/05/2025 15:40

You can't destroy human nature. You can't destroy humanity. Honestly, I really think you need to seek out some support to deal with these feelings of being lost, threatened by technology, adrift in the world as it is now. These are not normal or healthy feelings. The world is not a bad place. It is full of beauty, full of good people doing great things - and technology is a part of that. It is full of grace, selflessness and love. You just aren't seeing any of those things. I worry that you are deeply depressed and carrying it alone.

And of course, there has always been 'technology'. The invention of the wheel was technology. We're all still here.

I'm not the one suggesting we destroy human nature. Religion to me is the defense of the human against forces which seek to act against and engineer our nature. Human nature changes on a dime depending on what conditions it finds itself in. When humans are doing well and are economically prosperous, they're open and amenable. Introduce scarcity and threat and you have a frightened tribal animal.

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mbosnz · 17/05/2025 16:00

"Introduce scarcity and threat and you have a frightened tribal animal."

Is that one of the reasons evangelical Christianity is doing so well in the current trying times? People seeking a tribe out of fear?

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 16:03

mbosnz · 17/05/2025 16:00

"Introduce scarcity and threat and you have a frightened tribal animal."

Is that one of the reasons evangelical Christianity is doing so well in the current trying times? People seeking a tribe out of fear?

Very possibly. I know in France many young men are being Baptised. People do feel incredibly threatened. I know I do.

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BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 16:03

mbosnz · 17/05/2025 16:00

"Introduce scarcity and threat and you have a frightened tribal animal."

Is that one of the reasons evangelical Christianity is doing so well in the current trying times? People seeking a tribe out of fear?

Islam is also doing pretty well...

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MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 17/05/2025 16:08

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 16:03

Very possibly. I know in France many young men are being Baptised. People do feel incredibly threatened. I know I do.

Can you tell us a bit more about what you feel threatened by, OP?

Parker231 · 17/05/2025 16:15

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 16:03

Very possibly. I know in France many young men are being Baptised. People do feel incredibly threatened. I know I do.

What do you feel threatened about? We’re in France at the moment - no one is looking threatened.

Parker231 · 17/05/2025 16:17

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 15:31

That was before technology. What happens when we only need to depend on our tech overlords for survival, genuine question.

Why do you think we will need to depend on our tech overlords for survival?

pointythings · 17/05/2025 16:23

BlossomBlanket · 17/05/2025 15:50

I'm not the one suggesting we destroy human nature. Religion to me is the defense of the human against forces which seek to act against and engineer our nature. Human nature changes on a dime depending on what conditions it finds itself in. When humans are doing well and are economically prosperous, they're open and amenable. Introduce scarcity and threat and you have a frightened tribal animal.

Is religion not a force which seeks to engineer human nature? Because I would argue that it is. Is religion not a force which introduces scarcity and threat? Because I would argue that it is.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 17/05/2025 16:33

pointythings · 17/05/2025 16:23

Is religion not a force which seeks to engineer human nature? Because I would argue that it is. Is religion not a force which introduces scarcity and threat? Because I would argue that it is.

Very true.

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