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Runto · 02/05/2025 14:45

I live same building with my kids and ex.
We have a big flat , where the kids are, and a small flat, where I stay.

I see the kids and support every day for homework music food and we go out to play sport every day.

Only thing
The kids don't sleep as mine , because the flat is a bit small. It is possible for them to sleep in my flat but is is just less comfortable than their own bed , one couple of stairs up.

The mother is claiming child maintenance because she says the kids don't sleep at mine.

The mother had a job, is from a wealthy family ( inheritocratie

Given the fact that I am involved 100% in there life I

OP posts:
vodkaredbullgirl · 04/05/2025 11:07

Laugh away you're a twat end of, carry on. It's the kids and you're ex I feel sorry for.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 04/05/2025 11:07

Runto · 04/05/2025 11:01

@drspouse
social services may see it as a red flag. I know a family who lives in a one bed flat and they have 5 kids. been living in that flat for a few years now. social services is aware. do you have any further questions?

@Bestfadeplans
sorry that vodkaredbulls really made me laugh. the fact that no one is telling her that there is nothing to report saddens me. Social media... you have killed it.I am going on reddit to ask the same questions and see if I have insightful answers.

You had insightful answers on here, you are just too cheap and entitled to accept them.

Bestfadeplans · 04/05/2025 11:19

Runto · 04/05/2025 11:01

@drspouse
social services may see it as a red flag. I know a family who lives in a one bed flat and they have 5 kids. been living in that flat for a few years now. social services is aware. do you have any further questions?

@Bestfadeplans
sorry that vodkaredbulls really made me laugh. the fact that no one is telling her that there is nothing to report saddens me. Social media... you have killed it.I am going on reddit to ask the same questions and see if I have insightful answers.

Aka you haven't got the answer you want on here, despite numerous attempts at tweaking your story

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/05/2025 11:36

I don't feel sorry for your ex, as she has more money than you 😆

Thelnebriati · 04/05/2025 11:55

How did you two meet, and how did the relationship start. Was there a conversation along the lines of 'you wouldn't date a person like me'?

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 04/05/2025 12:04

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/05/2025 11:36

I don't feel sorry for your ex, as she has more money than you 😆

Not sure how you've picked up on that, I don't think op even mentioned it 🤣

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/05/2025 12:24

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 04/05/2025 12:04

Not sure how you've picked up on that, I don't think op even mentioned it 🤣

Only a million times 😂

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 04/05/2025 12:47

The fact that you are flouncing off to Reddit because you haven't got the answers here you wanted says it all.

I am thrilled that you ex has financial stability outside of you. I wish all women were in here position.

As for her inheritance? It is irrelevant and doesn't make you any less of a dead beat dad than if she was on benefits and in a council house.

You contributed to these children being brought into the world. The least you can do it provide the legally required amount of maintenence.

DenholmElliot11 · 04/05/2025 13:31

Exactly how much money are we talking about here?

drspouse · 04/05/2025 13:47

Quick, everyone go over to r/entitledmen and give the same answers.

Flopsythebunny · 05/05/2025 14:38

Runto · 03/05/2025 19:43

some people says who feed the kids. whichever fridge they open . which heating they enjoy, whichever flat they in.

@vodkaredbullgirl .When the kid sleep with the father, the father wakes up if kid unwell.

one kid sleeps on the sofa and one kid of the bed of the father. Father will sleep on an inflatable single mat. The mother says it is not okay.

It isn't OK for a kid to have to sleep on the sofa. You obviously cannot meet their needs which is why their mother is refusing overnights.

brettsalanger · 05/05/2025 19:09

I don’t think so. OP would have banged on about taking them outside 90% of the time. Plus- I am sure he would have dropped in ‘the mothers’ family owning a castle, for added flair.

Bestfadeplans · 05/05/2025 19:12

No. Although its the same theme, they aren't constantly going from first to third person and making no sense what so ever.

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