To not want to share a room at age 27?

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Every year, our extended family rents a big house and we spend a week together. Always rent the same house.

Growing up, I have always had to share a room with a younger female relative. This hasn’t happened for a number of years because usually someone in the family can’t come for whatever reason, so me or the relative gets to have the spare room.

This year, everyone can make it which is great. But that means that I have to share a bedroom for the week. AIBU to not want to share at this age?

I'd say it depends on if you're paying or not.

Ffs grow up it’s a week out of your life & it’s family it’s not like they’re dragging in some random off the streets

Cheers OP for not bothering your arse to update us on any of this so I had to scroll through all 15 pages because I'm on mobile.

Don't you ever share rooms with friends when you go on holiday? If you've usually shared with her it's not weird at all. Always nice to have your own space but if with someone you know well it's not so bad? Xx

Is there a hotel or motel or inn nearby that you could stay?
This same exact thing happened to me and I opted to stay at a lovely small motel down the road from my family’s rented beach house.
Yeah, it was an added expense for me but having to share a room with two little girls?
It was worth every penny.

YANBU. I am happy to share a room (and bed) with my husband. I don't think this is comparable to sharing a room with a younger cousin. Personally, I would look for something else for everyone or choose not to go. I think it would be weird to stay separately in another accommodation.

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Don't go?
Rent somewhere nearby?
Ask them to rent a bigger place and chip in accordingly?

Are you paying the same as people getting their own room?

You’re on holiday. Stop being so entitled /spoilt.

@DreamTheMoors and @PeachyPeachTrees - the OP hasn't said she is sharing with 'little girls' or 'a much younger cousin'.
I'm assuming the cousin has aged at the same rate as the OP.

However, we'll likely never know the answers to any of our questions as I don't think we will be seeing the OP again.

Can you not arrange your own holiday without the family, or perhaps put up with sharing and go somewhere else for another week?

I don't think age has a lot to do with the problem.

It could be a reasonable complaint if the arrangements were made and suddenly there is an extra one.

If you have shared before, and know that the family have saved up for ages to afford a shared holiday, that could be unreasonable of you.

If you want to have a room of your own, and I wouldn't go anywhere and share, personally, then perhaps you could offer to rent a larger house.

I hate sharing a bedroom. I'd rather pay to stay somewhere nearby. But then I'm not much into family holidays 😂😂😂

We’re talking here about sharing for a week, not a permanent living situation ie like a student 😀 I’m much older than you and shared the rooms on girls trips depending what group I’m going with. The ones that really have to save up for the trip we share the rooms because of the cost (I’d never suggest otherwise even though I can afford a separate room - I’m not too precious to share at the age of 40+🙄). The group that is ok financially we don’t share. I’d still always go regardless of the living conditions just to spend time with people I care about.

Thanks - why some people are comparing sharing a room with an SO to sharing with a still teenage relative is beyond me.

Not the point. But you know that, surely.

I agree, my DS are adults, they have never shared a bedroom, and wouldn’t want too, even though they get on well. We always book them they’re own room ideally with their own en-suite.

Nah Yabu. I went on a family holiday in my late twenties and shared with a teenage cousin. It would have cost a bomb for us both to have twin rooms with a spare empty bed.

Demonstrating an utter lack of imagination, among other things.

The phrase "none are so blind as those who WILL not see.." springs to mind.

She is asked to share a twin room with a relative not sleep under the stairs or on an airbed in the garage. If that isn’t acceptable to her then she is free to decline the free holiday.

No answer on who is paying? Going to assume you are paying nothing towards it?

So either don't go or rent a room near by

@Roselilly36 So you pay for the separate rooms with ensuites for each of your adult children?

That's lovely if you can afford it, but many people simply won't have the budget to do this or perhaps they're of the mindset that adults of the OP's age (27) should pay themselves if they want their own room with ensuite. Every family is different.

There's no way that my parents would've paid for this for me, neither would DH's for him. I'm not sure that I will when mine are a similar age, as by 27, they're likely to be on good salaries with decades of earning power ahead of them. Whereas I'll be preparing for retirement.

Simples. Suck it up and share or book yourself a room at the closest Holiday/Premier Inn or Travel Lodge.

It's about choice. Pay the extra or suck it up.

It really depends on the set up.

• Do you pay an equal share?
• How many other rooms are there and how will they be occupied? For example are some family members sharing rooms with their kids? Do the other people have disabilities or health problems?
• Is there a second reception room or living room where you could sleep on your own, by moving the mattress or taking an airbed?
• Who are you being expected to share with? What’s the age gap? How well do you get on? How do they feel about it?
• Could you alternate sleeping in a reception room so you have the bedroom to yourselves half the week?
• Could you even take a tent and camp in the outside space?
• Is there anywhere else close by you could stay overnight and hang out with your family in the day - so the overnight place need only be basic?

I’m in my 50s and would have no problem sleeping on an airbed in the living room for a week. I’d rather do that than share a bedroom, unless it’s with someone very close.

Try to see the positives. It must be wonderful to go away with family every year to a place you have so many memories. I wish our family could do that.

I think YABU. Sometimes you've just got to suck it up! Unless you are now paying towards this bigger house you want. And then you get a say. You haven't clarified. But it sounds like you are still a child in terms of letting the grown ups pay, but an adult because you want your own room.