To not want to share a room at age 27?

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Every year, our extended family rents a big house and we spend a week together. Always rent the same house.

Growing up, I have always had to share a room with a younger female relative. This hasn’t happened for a number of years because usually someone in the family can’t come for whatever reason, so me or the relative gets to have the spare room.

This year, everyone can make it which is great. But that means that I have to share a bedroom for the week. AIBU to not want to share at this age?

Its a holiday rental....there are times in life when you just have to settle and adjust. You sound precious?

Do what Liz did in Motherland, take a tent!

Why are so many of you incapable of expressing an opinion without insulting the OP? That's the true sign of someone with a weak argument.

I mean why not? I travelled around the world for years and lived in hostels and shared a room with up to 14 people. 🤷 You can get ready in the bathroom and no one sees anything. If you don't want to share you can get yourself accommodation close by or rent a campervan.

Sharing a room, especially for a week on holiday, is not an issue. People do this everywhere, especially if they are relatives and of the same sex. Sharing a bed can be uncomfortable and perhaps disturbing to each other!!

I would honestly think nothing of sharing a room with my sister or cousin (and have done many times. Sometimes even in the same bed!) but we’re very close. I suppose it depends on your relationship with them.

I'm sorry but YABU. It's only for a week. Even if you can't stand whoever you are sharing with, it's not like you are going to have the whole summer together.

When they get older and you realise you don't have much time left together, you will want to go on holiday with them.

Hotel nearby or a small rental?

The fact you have not answered the question about who pays speaks volumes. A kind family member is organising and paying for a holiday. I bet they are catering as well. When you have your own family and are struggling to find a suitable holiday let in budget you will have a better insight. It is totally normal to share at any age.
Go, enjoy, help clearing up, cooking etc and be grateful for the time with your family.

Sleep on the sofa.

Depends how close relative she’s. I will have no problem to share the room for a short period of time even with my brother and we are 35 and 37 years old now.

Family member isn't so "kind" if they are treating some members better than others.

And we aren't all such needy paupers that we have to accept sub-par accommodations just to get a "free" getaway.

“And we aren't all such needy paupers that we have to accept sub-par accommodations just to get a "free" getaway.”

Is it all about money or is it about family time together in a place with memories?

But they aren't, in anyone's opinion but yours and 2 others on this thread.

Every member of the family has one bed space. Some a single bed (we presume) and some as half of a double bed. Everyone has equal share of the living areas, kitchen, garden etc.

Many of the posters here are obsessing as to whether or not the OP is helping to pay for the villa. They are the ones making it about money.

To me, a decent host ensures that everyone is happy with the arrangements.

I don't see this as an issue. Presumably most of the time you will be with the family. It's just sleeping in the same room. If you value the family get together then it's a no brainer. I suspect I'd have to share a room if the family went away to a hired house for the week-end. And you can reverse the digits in your age and I am still a lot older than you. If I want to spend time with family then I accommodate glitches. As do others - maybe your cousin doesn't fancy sharing with you but has decided to put up with you (and possibly your moaning about sharing) for the sake of the getaway. Or had you not thought of that? You hadn't, had you.

Accomodations are about more than "bedspace." It's about peace, privacy, quiet, not having to be within a few feet of someone one doesn't know very well, while sleeping/dressing/grooming.

@TheHerboriste Stop melting. 💪🏼

It’s one week with a family member, hardly the end of the world. If it’s such a problem then rent an Airbnb nearby at your own expense. Or don’t go.

I mean literally loads of people, hen weekends would be a good example, share rooms with friends on trips to save money.

Depends if your paying the same as the other adults who are not sharing

It is normal to share for a family holiday or with friends; however everyone is different and if you prefer your independence then you either book separate accommodation or don’t go; or try to get out of your comfort zone and enjoy time with family.

I don’t like sharing much but will do it with friends if not choice; funny enough I normally get the room alone if there is one or perhaps my friends know. I do snore a bit so that is the main reason I don’t like sharing

If you and the person you are sharing with are paying the same as a couple each, then yes it's not right. But, if you both pay half each for the room, I don't see anything wrong with it whatsoever. I'm 55 in June, and would be fine with sharing with someone else, as long as we're both paying half each, not an equal amount to couples.

More details needed.

Is it sharing in general or sharing with a younger relative that is the issue?

Do you find that your parents or other family members don't treat you as an adult or as your age in general? If so, this would be triggering. I completely understand how that feels, especially if they are not expecting any of the other adults to share a room.