Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Update

[SophEll]

I have debated whether to post this update but I promised I would in the previous thread (www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5325717-disgusted-by-schools-response-to-complaint-about-pervy-teacher) and I’m someone who keeps their word.

I have had an acknowledgment of my email to the Chair of Governors who assures me they will ensure my previous correspondence with the school will be personally overseen by the Headteacher as opposed to the senior member of staff who replied previously.

The Governor has understandably explained that the school cannot share the details of any internal disciplinary action, but has assured me the head teacher will provide me with a further response in due course, and asked me to provide my contact number. I’ve also confirmed that should it be required, my friend would be happy to provide her account of the evening’s events.

This proves that the school previously dismissing this without investigation was inappropriate, so I must say I’m feeling rather smug right now at this vindication. Given their prompt response, the Governor clearly recognises the reputational impact something like this could have on the school.

Thanks to all those who provided suggestions on how best to proceed (including those who said I should have laughed it off, been flattered etc) - I’ll endeavour to provide a further update once the headteacher concludes their investigation. An impressively prompt response by the Chair - the joys of retirement I guess!

Exactly this.

And even if not, that person has rights under the Teaching Standards - ie the professional code of conduct for a teacher.

from the original OP
he said
‘I always used to imagine what it would have been like to bend you over that desk’

Today at 1550 the OP posted

"Did she go up to a parent of a child she taught and tell him how she wishes she had sat on his face at parents evening?"

Can you spot the difference?

The head won't tell her even if there was investigation. He does have confidentially rights. Op has no right to know the outcome of there was one.

You sound absolutely horrible, OP. Your self-satisfaction rolls off the page.
You should have dealt with his comment at the time it happened.
It’s such an overreaction to pursue him into his workplace.
You clearly see yourself as some avenging ninja, righting wrongs and putting people in their place.
I bet your husband is mortified.

Really? They would have to prove they did NOT say this. And unless he had a video recording of the whole interaction, I think the chances of that are close to zero.

Any GP? Or your own GP? There’s no professional relationship between the OP and the man

Is it any wonder that few if any men want to become teachers?

Once again

The HT does not have the power to do this, and if they tried to force the teacher in anyway they would end up in trouble. The same goes for any Governor that tried the same.

Oooh dry humour! Lol :) :)

Which bit of that is violated by a shitty remark to another adult in a nightclub?

I think institutions often try to side - step their responsibilities when it comes to the out of office behaviors of their staff.

The fact he wanted to "Bend you over a desk" is implicitly a rape fantasy, and not exactly a great character reveal for a school teacher.

The least they could do is talk to him about how this is inappropriate and send him on some kind of 3 day program about what is and what is not appropriate.

Is it any wonder that few if any men want to become teachers?

🙄

It doesn’t. It suggests he fancies an adult woman and he (rightly) didn’t express that in his professional capacity as her child’s teacher, he expressed it in a bar, albeit inappropriately, years later after her child had no connection to him, and after several drinks. It suggested a lack of judgement under the influence of alcohol, which can affect us all.

It’s quite normal for people to fancy other people, no matter where they might meet them. Plenty of school parents fancy teachers, or people they met due to their own jobs.

Respecting the rights of women to not be subject to misogyny

Some here are bending over backwards to see him as a paedo on the basis on him being attracted to an adult.
These people are stupid and dangerous.

I don't think you can argue what he said to them was respectful.

Errrrr. That's the opposite of how things work.

The school would need to prove that he did say it. Unless he was stupid enough to admit it and sign his name on a confession, there's zero chance of that happening.

👍

What was?
The man said, much later (years?) that he thought it after seeing her at parents’ evening. Not that he thought it at the meeting (I guarantee no teacher is thinking sexy thoughts at PE). It was a dodgy chat up line which he immediately knew was dodgy and walked back from.

Exactly this

That’s a stretch

Some people definitely have over these 30 pages !!

I don't see why people are falling over themselves to say what this teacher has said is ok.

Too many teachers on MNs and they are an odd bunch, highly reactive to any form of criticism, a bit like the dog lovers. Thankfully I know plenty of teachers in real life, MNs is not representative.

If she takes him to the TRA she will. The head is not god.

How is "bend you over a desk" implicitly a rape fantasy?