Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Update

[SophEll]

I have debated whether to post this update but I promised I would in the previous thread (www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5325717-disgusted-by-schools-response-to-complaint-about-pervy-teacher) and I’m someone who keeps their word.

I have had an acknowledgment of my email to the Chair of Governors who assures me they will ensure my previous correspondence with the school will be personally overseen by the Headteacher as opposed to the senior member of staff who replied previously.

The Governor has understandably explained that the school cannot share the details of any internal disciplinary action, but has assured me the head teacher will provide me with a further response in due course, and asked me to provide my contact number. I’ve also confirmed that should it be required, my friend would be happy to provide her account of the evening’s events.

This proves that the school previously dismissing this without investigation was inappropriate, so I must say I’m feeling rather smug right now at this vindication. Given their prompt response, the Governor clearly recognises the reputational impact something like this could have on the school.

Thanks to all those who provided suggestions on how best to proceed (including those who said I should have laughed it off, been flattered etc) - I’ll endeavour to provide a further update once the headteacher concludes their investigation. An impressively prompt response by the Chair - the joys of retirement I guess!

What was said to you was totally inappropriate - I don't think being drunk or outside of school makes a difference. I would hope that he would at the very least be given a warning not to repeat that behaviour again!

No doubt they will have taken it very seriously and filed it in that special folder reserved for vexatious and malicious complaints.

Come round mind and help me with the chores. You’ve too much time on your hands.

I find it so weird how teachers all defend each other. If this was an NHS colleague I would be first in the queue saying to report him. I don’t care how shortstaffed we are. No man in a profession like this should get away with being an utter creep.

Not yet, but given they didn’t investigate previously and are going to this time, I’m in no rush. Better that this follows due process rather than we get a rushed outcome.

She's owned nothing

If she'd owned it she'd have dealt with it herself. At the time.

She didn’t - she implied the chair of governors was retired.

Once again for those in the back...

NO ONE IS DEFENDING HIM OR HIS COMMENT!!!

But 90% agree that complaining to his workplace is an unreasonable follow up, and escalating to the governors is just batshit crazy!

The appropriate thing to do was handle it there and then.

Now I think you are trolling us - 'due process', 'rushed outcome' because a man clumsily tried to hook up with you in a bar.

She didn't start a new thread for validation - she started it to stick 2 fingers up at everybody that disagreed with her on the last one, as she thinks she's 'winning' 🙄

You have time in the NHS to discuss an employees private life?

I can't even get a doctor's appointment or pick up a prescription without drama and yet you have time for foolishness. I doubt your employer would be so daft.

But this guy wasn’t in school, he is an adult so wasn’t wearing a school uniform
and are you saying any male teacher shouldn’t have a single fantasy about an adult female even if he once taught her now adult children and then drunkenly verbalised it in a club.

Maybe if someone is that offended at a comment in a club, maybe steer away from clubs.

This woman clearly has too much time on her hands

Oh, so she did. My mistake!

There was maybe 0.5% of posters saying it was fine

Most of us agreed the comment was sleazy and not okay but that OP's reaction was OTT

That's not giving teachers a free pass

This.

If a School is to conduct an investigation (or most workplaces for example), this usually involves interviewing the employee subject to that complaint. They can usually request union representation, and that can take some time to arrange. Likewise, if they decide to call on my friend for a witness statement, they also need to work around her availability.

I'd save your sympathies... he sounds just as pathetic. I always love it when 2 people like this find each other... as they save others the misery.

This report might interest you.

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He made a creepy remark while drunk. Grim. Needed telling.
It doesn’t make him an ‘utter creep’ (he may be, but we don’t know) and he didn’t do it at work or with anyone currently connected with work. Do you really think no NHS worker has used an off colour line while chatting someone up outside work? How would you know?

Op you come across as spiteful and vindictive! Lets hope neither you nor your husband says something stupid to someone like you after a few drinks in the future.

Indeed

It’s not - even the School now see this after the intervention of the Chair of Governors. It’s a very serious matter.

I'm not dismissing all out of order behaviour from men as nonsense, nor denying that there need to be institutional approaches to changing behaviour. It's profoundly depressing to me that my DD is entering a workplace in which she and her generation will have to fight battles we thought we had fought and won for them. Neither did we predict that toxic masculinityand trad wifery would be in the ascendent. Among all this, women do need to continue to speak out. My use of the word 'nonsense' is more an expression of being totally fed up that we still have to waste energy on this than a diminishing of the impact of poor behaviour by men.

Not fucking rapey

Nor said he fantastic AT WORK