Husband’s compulsion to constantly touch me

[HairyPeachy]

I’ve posted about my husband before and how he constantly wants to touch me no matter what I’m doing. He’s recently developed a strange fixation with my arms. If he’s walking by he will smooth them or has to touch them. Literally no matter what I am doing. Cooking, cleaning, washing up, holding a kettle! He will come up and say that he’s got to touch them, smooth them etc. it’s constant and driving me crazy!

I’ve told him to stop and he says he can’t help it, he loves my arms which is nice obviously but he won’t stop and it’s making me cringe!

Even our teen says - Dad stop! She doesn’t like it and he storms off in a huff saying that he isn’t allowed to touch his own wife etc. Our teen even mentions consent and boundaries etc.

He gropes too…boobs, bum and worse…likes to come up behind me when I’m washing up like we are in some bloody rom com. The arm thing though is weird, he just won’t stop and I can’t stand his touch anymore. It’s weird right?! He won’t leave them alone!

if youve said no and he keeps doing it tell him to bugger off, perfectly fine if you wanted it but id say inappropriate if you arent into it, your body you can choose whether u want him to do that x (voted the wrong thing on accident srry)

I think I’d develop a fixation for kicking him in the balls every time he touched me 🤷‍♀️
might help him get over his fixation pretty quickly

Are there other behaviours that are disrespectful to you and your boundaries OP? I'm assuming this is no the only one.

He’s touching you when you don’t want him to. Groping you isn’t like a rom com. This is sexual assault.

Have you posted about this before? It sounds familiar...

The fact he's doing this in front of your daughter is grim.

Nailed it

Tell him the washing up is now his job.

Also, 'smoothing' your arms? Like they're wet cement?

Aside from he sounds weird. Once you don't want them touching you, it's game over. The relationship is over.

I was thinking exactly the same!

I couldn’t be with a pathological groper with no self awareness. Your teen dd even instinctively has the ick. Tell him to fuck the fuck off and be appropriate. You say you’ve told him to stop but clearly not robustly enough.

I had to swear at mine when he was being particularly dense and decided something was fine because he didn’t mind.

“I’m not a fucking therapy pet”.
Piss off, I’m not a fiddle toy
etc.

If he whines- but I want to, whine back- but I don’t want to.

No sex if he gropes you.

It's literally the first line of the OP

This exact same thread was posted a few weeks ago…

She has said she has posted about this before,literally in the first line of the post.

Yes, she says in her very first sentence that she's posted about this before!

OP, boot him in the balls and boot him out the door. He's a creepy, abusive fucker who's getting off on assaulting you under the pretext of it being affection.

Have you seen the Big Bang Theory episode where Sheldon sprays Penny with water when she dies something he doesn't like? Just a thought...

Have you posted before?

I am cringing just reading this

Deja vue 🧐

God his own daughter is having to point out to him that he’s sexually harassing his wife, her mum. Grim.

It’s great that she knows it’s wrong but witnessing this throughout her childhood is bound to have done some damage when it comes to how she sees relationship dynamics.

With kindness what are you hoping to achieve by repeatedly posting about the same issue? Nothing is going to change if he’s not willing/able to, and nothing is going to change when rather than put consequences in for his actions you chose to offload about it on here.

This is the first line of the OP
“I’ve posted about my husband before and how he constantly wants to touch me”

This is the first line of the OP
“I’ve posted about my husband before and how he constantly wants to touch me”

I have never uttered this sentence before, but: it's time to try violence.