Would it bother you if your partner got up later than you?

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Partner 1 has a full time professional job and gets up at 6.30am every weekday.

Partner 2 was a SAHM to 3 dc and now works part time (2 days/week).

P2 loves sleep and sometimes doesn’t get up till 10am on non working days. P2 does all the cooking, laundry and house admin.

If you were P1, would P2’s late getting up bother you?

Why is it lazy though? Surely everyone is getting the same amount of sleep. Your day probably ends earlier than a late riser.

My 8 yo is able to get themselves out of bed, make cereal, wash dress etc... of course we're in the house as well, but no, we don't have to dress and spoon feed an 8yo...🤨

Honestly? Yes I get annoyed with DH when he stays in bed hours later than be because
a) while he’s lazing around I’m usually getting on with stuff that needs doing
b) I perceive it as lazy and find that really unattractive

I don't see the point in getting up before your body says to if you don't need to. Just to prove the point?

We have a similar set up, in that DH works full time, I work part time and our children are older. I don’t like to stay in bed though, so get up a little later than DH (whether I’m working or not). He’s happy with the set up, people probably think I’m a bit jammy but I do the bulk of the washing, cooking, shopping, house admin (taking dog to groomers etc), so it works for us. Means we can have relaxed weekends which DH appreciates.

Despair at people’s reading comprehension these days! It was very clear Op.

I am not sure why is everyone so pissed off by women with children staying at home calling thrm selves what they are: stay at home mums.
Unless you have an army of help, taking care for 5 people household is same as working average fucking job. If not more dramatic bcs you do not have sick days, hollidays etc.

I worked kitchen, door to door marketing, dog walking, and all sorts of seniority of office jobs. It is not that hard or you are too incompetent for paid job you have.

And for anyone "you have to do the same if you work". Nope. You share household work with your partner.

Op does all laundry, cooking and cleaning for her house which is her, husband and adult children. Why should she be working more than two days a week?

So many people here on MN posting they're doing a full time job AND all the house admin and being then told how to micromanage everyone else to get them to "help".

Here everyone is pulling their weight..why make life harder just to spread the house admin around?

So p1 who is the only full time worker and supports the household... what happens when they start saying 'nahh... not going into work today or for the next month.... my body says I need to relax... in fact, my body says just you give up work....'

I tend to go to sleep around 11. 12 or 1 at weekends.

I think it's more that if one person is up early for work, it just feels wrong if the other one is still sleeping.

Just because you think it ‘feels wrong’, doesn’t mean that objectively it is ‘wrong’.

I’d think partner 2 was a lazy fucker.

It's disingenuous. I've done it all but if the kids are at school/nursery etc. The parents aren't doing the same work as a sahm. The house isn't getting trashed, you've not changed twenty nappies that day. That's why child care is so fucking expensive. You're outsourcing the grunt work. That's why if a husband came home from work and said he did the same as his stay at home wife, he'd probably end up under the patio

The hardest thing isn't being a wohm or a sahm though. It's being a work out of the home with children in the house parent. That's what'll kill you.

Then presumably they'll need to start doing some of the cooking, cleaning etc. Same amount of work, but they can make their own hours.

So, you don't go to sleep at that time in the week. And you get the same amount of sleep as the OP...

So who pays for everything while they just split the household tasks between them?

No it wouldn't bother me
However pretty unhealthy to wake up at that time (unless health related) for that individual.

Why is it? What health issues does waking up at 10am cause?

No it would not.

Exactly.... the whole well the sahm for 20+ years can swap and go to work while the wahp can now be the sahm.... never goes down well....😆

I don’t care when anyone else gets up.

It doesn’t affect me in any way.

it certainly doesn’t affect anyone in your house as it’s full of adults?

I work shift so stay in bed any time I can and will not be made feel bad for resting, ever.

I’m not surprised if he’s annoyed, it sounds as of you have a relaxing laid back lazy lifestyle while he’s out at 6.30 every morning working and bringing in the money. Imagine how you would feel if the roles were reversed, not happy I would imagine.

This wouldn't bother me, in fact I quite like a morning to myself! I would get annoyed if we had plans which meant I had to wake them up though

Then the OP can up her hours. What's your point?

She hasn't said her husband is annoyed she's only on two days a week. Why are you upset by it?
Maybe he's shit at cooking and can't be fucked to clean and do laundry.

Interesting....I am P2 in the above example....but have to get at 6.30am everyday....where as P1 gets up at 7.30am...