To not be happy that my new work lanyard has “she/her” on it without me asking?

[TheNavyAnt]

I’ve just started a new job and noticed that my staff lanyard/pass automatically has my name and “she/her” printed underneath it. Nobody asked if I wanted pronouns added - it was just assumed and put there by default.

I don’t have anything against people sharing pronouns if they want to, but personally, I wouldn’t have chosen to have it printed on my pass. It feels a bit forced, like I’m being made to take part in something I didn’t ask for and I’m not sure why it needs to be there at all unless I choose it.

AIBU to feel slightly uncomfortable about this? Or should I just let it go as one of those “modern workplace” things?

Surely not asking completely undermines the point of doing it? You could easily be someone who wanted to use they/them.

Doesn't apply to work passes, though. If you can see the pass, you can see the person.

Then you probably wouldn't be able to get into your workplace

Yes - I was answering "Why would you need pronouns on a work email?"

Just makes you look like an utter knob.
Hope anyone doing this from now on in calls you he and his, bet your hilarity would soon wear thin.

Depends on the company. The lanyard is not your property so defacing it could result in a disciplinary

I was going to say tipex

This is so stupid. Not asking will mean that anyone who does use different pronouns to the ones someone might assume will be annoyed. And it reveals that the company is one that only wants to pretend to care about this (“look at us, we’re so inclusive we put pronouns on our badges”) while actually not caring enough to check whether those pronouns are correct. So who are they satisfying with this?

İf I ever end up in a similar situation, I'm going to request that they change it to Her Royal Highness and Her Majesty, and yes my ego is fluid....

Madness encroaches bit by bit - you can make your own contribution to fighting madness by using a sharpie.

It would insult me because I am clearly she/her and think that the whole of my workplace understands that. Obviously other posters are more annoyed that their preferred pronouns have been assumed but I'd I'd refuse to wear it on the basis they felt the need to print them on my lanyard.

But they're making their own music and starting their own dance ?

It's an ideological statement that supports the destruction of women's rights, no chance in hell I would wear it.

This and indeed I have and I’ve also linked to research like this https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2022/06/220610120216.htm
showing it can have the opposite effect of being more inclusive. If we point out an engineer is a she or lady engineer it makes it seem less ‘normal’.

I’m female my name is very female eg Emma and I clearly am a a woman - no one needs to point it out to me.

"I am upset that you have assumed my pronouns and do not wish to have she/her on my lanyard. Can I have a new lanyard please?"

"What are your pronouns then?"

"I do not feel comfortable sharing my pronouns"

Yes this. Even if you're fine with it, it's totally contrary to the purpose of it to just assume them and put them on!

I agree but you are in a new job and I’d just seethe inwardly and crack on. In two years time you might want to readdress it.

They've missed the WHOLE point of what they were trying to achieve, by assuming that yours are she/her. What a pantomime!

I wouldn't care in the slightest. My sex is pretty damned obvious to anyone glancing at me for a mere second. Calling me by some daft pronoun isn't going to change it, and will doubtless just make them look a buffoon.

The world isn't going to stop turning if someone calls me 'he'. I don't rely on others for affirmation.

Except that is implying the op has preferred pronouns.

I would go with something similar:

"I don't want to have she/her on my badge. Can I have a new one without pronouns please?"

If asked what you pronouns are: "I prefer not to have pronouns on my badge"

Maybe you could ask work for a couple of weeks off too!

Calm down, there's a good chap!

I agree. I've been put on the spot more than once when asked for 'my' pronouns in a meeting situation.

On some occasions, maintaining a comfortable silence can work until they move on. On one, they actually asked on a second occasion. My response was 'that's not a practice I follow'.

That's a great one. If I ever have to write down pronouns I'll probably go with either Fee Fi Fo Fum or Hi Ho Hi Ho. (not likely though - I'm self-employed)

True but...
Here is the fun part for "True Believer" companies :

@MissScarletInTheBallroom 👋 · Today 09:31
Go back to HR and ask if you can have a lanyard without pronouns on it because you don't feel comfortable displaying this information for personal reasons.

^ This puts the OP into the trans but not saying yet class and faith/belief so HR would be foolish to give the OP a reason to sue under the EA

By the TRA movement's own lights, that's outrageous; they've made an assumption about your gender.
I'd say to HR you object to the presumption and you want a new lanyard.